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JCbride2015

Late to the weight party on this thread.  Yep, I'm not feeling great where I am either.  Sometimes I think my perception of myself is warped from reality.  My number size makes me sound small, but I look at myself and all I see is the jiggles.  It helps that Fi likes to compliment my ass, so that always makes it better!

ETA wanted to note this was not a humble brag.  I am an average sized person but inexplicably have cellulite in places I really didn't think you could have cellulite at age 26.  Why oh why, tummy?  Why are you lumpy?

pumpkinsandturkeys

JCBride2014 said:

Late to the weight party on this thread.  Yep, I'm not feeling great where I am either.  Sometimes I think my perception of myself is warped from reality.  My number size makes me sound small, but I look at myself and all I see is the jiggles.  It helps that Fi likes to compliment my ass, so that always makes it better!

ETA wanted to note this was not a humble brag.  I am an average sized person but inexplicably have cellulite in places I really didn't think you could have cellulite at age 26.  Why oh why, tummy?  Why are you lumpy?

I'm in the same boat, right down to the age. FI does the ass compliments, too, and there are days when I just sigh and look at him and say, "No." I feel bad, but I'm just not in the I'm-sexy mindset a lot of times.

jdluvr06

OMG I so get that. I'm 26 and I have no idea why I have cellulite on my thighs. My thighs! I danced ballet for 20 years! I mean wtf?

JCbride2015

pumpkinsandturkeys said:

JCBride2014 said:

Late to the weight party on this thread.  Yep, I'm not feeling great where I am either.  Sometimes I think my perception of myself is warped from reality.  My number size makes me sound small, but I look at myself and all I see is the jiggles.  It helps that Fi likes to compliment my ass, so that always makes it better!

ETA wanted to note this was not a humble brag.  I am an average sized person but inexplicably have cellulite in places I really didn't think you could have cellulite at age 26.  Why oh why, tummy?  Why are you lumpy?

I'm in the same boat, right down to the age. FI does the ass compliments, too, and there are days when I just sigh and look at him and say, "No." I feel bad, but I'm just not in the I'm-sexy mindset a lot of times.

^^All of this.  Fi's way of expressing sexual desire is often hyper-hyper: omgee your ass looks great, omg I want you so bad right now, how about right now like right this minute right now??  He tends to go from 0 to 60 and I need some more time to rev up!

Cookie Pusher

I never believed people when they said your metabolism makes a drastic shift once you hit 30. Heck, I was in amazing shape... until I turned 32. I don't think I've gained weight, but things have definitely shifted. I'd gotten accustomed to cellulite on my thighs, but I suddenly had hips for the first time ever. In hindsight, it was probably pretty funny watching me try to put on my super skinny jeans with all the wiggling, deep breaths, and grunting! FI says he loves me just the way I am, but I can't help but wonder if he secretly misses the boobs-on-a-stick he started dating in college.

hikebikebemerry

(Woo hoo 26!)  I feel like I just don't look good, which sucks because I weight less that I have my adult life (on average, I am currently up 4 lbs from what I normally am).  i'm thinking of having FI hide the scale so I don't obsess.  He always compliments me on how I look, but I just don't feel like I look good.

It really doesn't help that he's super skinny and has a problem keeping weight on consuming enough calories.

JCbride2015

@hikebikebemerry I have the opposite issue with Fi.  He has put on about 30-40 lbs since we started dating and is on the low end of obese for his height.  He tends to keep bad food around or push to order unhealthy things when we go out, and he'll do stuff like just order a beer for me and put it in my hand.  I posted about this in its own thread a while ago, but it's hard to encourage healthy choices without nagging the shit out of him.

Blergbot

Ah 26...wait until you hit 30. I hate to sound so cliché, and obviously it doesn't happen to everyone, but it really is like a magic (cursed) number.

hikebikebemerry

That's a tough one.  It has been good for me weight/ health wise to be living with FI; which I am super grateful for.  But sometimes it is incredibly hard to deal with his borderline unhealthy obsession.  Sometimes I want to order some freakin' nachos and have him not comment on serving size, too much cheese, etc.  He has gotten way better about just shutting up when I say that I'm in the mood for something, which is helpful.

I might be totally off, but I have the feeling that you're a little concerned about his health if he doesn't change his habits.  (You can totally tell me to bugger off if I'm wrong, I can handle it)  It's incredibly hard to talk to your partner about their eating/ exercising habits; you never want them to think that you're no longer attracted to them or anything like that.  Even dealing with FI, it's been really hard trying to approach that he should eat MORE.  It might be worth a shot for you to try to appeal to the part of him that cares for you.  Perhaps you could mention how you want to get into good habits and show him an article like this one: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/09/workout-partner-healthy-couples-valentines-day_n_2638571.html  

JCbride2015

@hikebikebemerry Yep!  I am very worried that he will have heart problems or diabetes or something.  All but a couple of the adults in his family are very obese, much worse than him, and most have health problems.  The worst thing I can possibly imagine is that he dies early.  Fortunately he had a recent health check and everything is A-OK, except his "good" cholesterol (HDL?) was a little low.  I'm not sure how serious that is.

It's just a hard line to walk between trying to help him be healthy, and nagging.  He's much better during the warm months because he loves to be outside.  Every weekend when the weather is warm, we hike, walk, or bike in the parks around here.  We belong to a gym, but he's intimidated to go by himself, and we have opposite schedules so I generally can't go at the same time as him.  And I admit I've been lazy about going to the gym in the snow.  I've been doing videos at home a few times a week, but he says they are "girly" and won't do them with me.  :-/

hikebikebemerry

@JCBride2014  I do not envy your position!  If you ever need support for having to do the, "it's time to be healthy" I'm here!

FI has a pretty similar family history of being unhealthy; which (I believed) influenced him to becoming SO obsessive.

JCbride2015

@hikebikebemerry Thanks!  I'm sure it can't be easy to deal with a Fi very worried about weight at the other extreme.  Hopefully they will figure out we just want to keep them around as long as we possibly can!

pinkcow13

@cookiepusher, I just noticed that I posted the same gif in the chat that you had posted here!! That's too funny because I just saw it - the satc one. Great minds must think alike!

@jcbride2014- same deal with FI. He's put on weight and is considered obese for his height I guess. At his check up a few weeks ago all was well, but his HDL was also low! So I started incorporating avocados and other stuff into our meals. I'm a bit (okay a full blown) hypochondriac so I worry about him getting heart disease, diabetes, cancer. Most of his uncles are overweight (actually maybe all), so I don't want him going down the unhealthy route. He's been getting more active though, and recently finally ran a full mile straights this week which he is really proud of. Also, he's on antibiotics and so he has not been drinking, so I think that will help with weight loss.

Cookie Pusher

pinkcow13 said:

@cookiepusher, I just noticed that I posted the same gif in the chat that you had posted here!! That's too funny because I just saw it - the satc one. Great minds must think alike! @jcbride2014- same deal with FI. He's put on weight and is considered obese for his height I guess. At his check up a few weeks ago all was well, but his HDL was also low! So I started incorporating avocados and other stuff into our meals. I'm a bit (okay a full blown) hypochondriac so I worry about him getting heart disease, diabetes, cancer. Most of his uncles are overweight (actually maybe all), so I don't want him going down the unhealthy route. He's been getting more active though, and recently finally ran a full mile straights this week which he is really proud of. Also, he's on antibiotics and so he has not been drinking, so I think that will help with weight loss.

It's because... parallel lives! FI floats between the very top of "overweight" and being barely "obese" on the BMI charts (though they do not take into account his legs are solid muscle from all the running he does). He gets home from work 2 hours before I do, so he tends to over-indulge on snacks while waiting for me. He's gotten better about it, but I also worry he's going to develop health issues later on because he carries all of his extra weight in his stomach. He jokes that he's gained nearly 40 lbs (over 50 at his heaviest) because I'm a good cook/baker, but I think it's a load of crap. I cook fresh vegetables (mostly leafy greens with fibrous stems) and lean meats with a small amount of starch and pack him a balanced lunch hitting all the food groups. I try not to nag him, but he goes to the vending machine at work a lot AND he drinks a lot of soda. He drinks 3x as much water, but still, all that sugar is terrible for him. When I don't buy it, he goes out and buys it himself - which invariably costs twice as much since he doesn't do the whole "buy what's on sale and use coupons" thing that I do. *sigh* Such a dude.

JCbride2015

Wait... so all three Fi's have identical weight problems right down to the HDL?  This is more than parallel lives.  This is downright weird.

Cookie Pusher

Wait, are you two my multiple personalities?!

pinkcow13

Lmao I feel like I'm in the twilight zone right now

Cookie Pusher

As long as no one is trying to pull a "Single White Female", I think we're ok!

pinkcow13

Hahaha, love that movie, not gonna lie haha

Cookie Pusher

HisGirlFriday13

I've never seen that movie... *runs away and hides*

Cookie Pusher

There's also the young adult version...

sarahufl

I never believed people when they said your metabolism makes a drastic shift once you hit 30. Heck, I was in amazing shape... until I turned 32. I don't think I've gained weight, but things have definitely shifted. I'd gotten accustomed to cellulite on my thighs, but I suddenly had hips for the first time ever. In hindsight, it was probably pretty funny watching me try to put on my super skinny jeans with all the wiggling, deep breaths, and grunting! FI says he loves me just the way I am, but I can't help but wonder if he secretly misses the boobs-on-a-stick he started dating in college.

Yes to the 30 thing. Wtf happened the day I turned 30? Now I look all different and I can't drop weight like I used to. I miss my 20-something body...

KeptInStitches

@HisGirlFriday, KAL = knit-a-long

HisGirlFriday13

KeptInStitches said:

@HisGirlFriday, KAL = knit-a-long

THANK YOU!!!

JCbride2015

@pinkcow13 and @Cookie Pusher-- sorry I missed the end of this thread, it was bedtime.  Single White Female jokes ftw!  I know the plot but haven't actually seen it... perhaps a scary movie night is in order.  But I promise, I'm not pulling a Single White Female thing... if neither of you are pulling one.

Cookie Pusher

I have a feeling if we all got together with our FIs, they'd probably be totally weirded out by how similar we are! @JCBride2014, when I told FI about how parallel our lives have been, he was like "What? There's more than one of you?! I don't know if the world can handle that!"

pinkcow13

I think that would be so hilarious! I feel that FI already thinks it's kinda creepy, I told him last night about the obese thing and HDL thing (well he was not happy I called him obese lol), and he was just like "Umm, that's kinda creepy." He also sometimes asks me, is JC knotting too? Or the cookie? LOL

Chipmunk415

Late to this party....I had my hair trial last night, (pics to come!) and then dinner with the future in laws. 

I've a list of stuff to get done this weekend, but aside from grocery shopping, I haven't gotten much finished.

JCbride2015

pinkcow13 said:

I think that would be so hilarious! I feel that FI already thinks it's kinda creepy, I told him last night about the obese thing and HDL thing (well he was not happy I called him obese lol), and he was just like "Umm, that's kinda creepy." He also sometimes asks me, is JC knotting too? Or the cookie? LOL

Hahaha, Fi asks about you guys too!  I usually tell Fi when we discover our various similarities (especially Cookie and him having the same alma mater) but I did not tell him about the weight/HDL.  He might not be so happy about that one...