Vow renewal after one year. Is this weird?

sofakingmad

Maggie0829 said:

@DragonBlood13

Would this work?

I think he would work.  

TerriHugg

Maggie0829 said:

@TerriHugg - why do you feel, emotionally, that you need a yearly vow renewal?  Planning a romantic dinner for Valentines day is completely different then having to reaffirm your wedding vows with an officiant on a yearly basis.

But in my opinion I think the officiant and photographer is over kill.  But if you two want to dress nicely and stand in a pretty spot and recite your vows to each other on your anniversary then that is fine, but anything more then that, IMO, is a bit much.

Hey @maggie0829

I don't feel that I need to do a yearly renewal emotionally. I'm not sure where the every year thing got mixed in.  I think someone else said that up thread and everyone got confused. LOL I'm only taking about doing this for our first year anniversary. I have no idea what we will want to do for our anniversary every year. 

But I don't NEED to have a renewal, I just think it would be a nice, romantic, emotional and memorable thing to do on our anniversary. If we don't do it, I would live and go on with my happy marriage knowing everything is great between us. There really is no logical compelling reason, just like there's no need or compelling reason to celebrate valentine's day or no compelling reason to celebrate a lot of events in life. I just thought it would be something sweet to do.

I figured since we will be inviting no friends or family, there's no harm done even if some people think it's weird. 

mrs4everhart

OP, if you have the funds and the time, I think you should do whatever floats your boat on your first anniversary. And every anniversary thereafter. :-)

Maggie0829

TerriHugg said:

Maggie0829 said:

@TerriHugg - why do you feel, emotionally, that you need a yearly vow renewal?  Planning a romantic dinner for Valentines day is completely different then having to reaffirm your wedding vows with an officiant on a yearly basis.

But in my opinion I think the officiant and photographer is over kill.  But if you two want to dress nicely and stand in a pretty spot and recite your vows to each other on your anniversary then that is fine, but anything more then that, IMO, is a bit much.

Hey @maggie0829

I don't feel that I need to do a yearly renewal emotionally. I'm not sure where the every year thing got mixed in.  I think someone else said that up thread and everyone got confused. LOL

 I'm only taking about doing this for our first year anniversary. I have no idea what we will want to do for our anniversary every year. 

But I don't NEED to have a renewal, I just think it would be a nice, romantic, emotional and memorable thing to do on our anniversary. There really is no logical compelling reason, just like there's no need or compelling reason to celebrate valentine's day. 

But I figured since we will be inviting no friends or family, there's no harm done even if some people think it's weird. 

Then why the need to start a whole post about it?  If you want to do it then do it.  I just don't get the point of asking for opinions on something when those opinions really don't matter in regards to your ultimate decision.

TerriHugg

@maggie0829

I just wanted to see what other people thought about it. The point was to have a conversation. That's all. There really was no hidden agenda or anything. I thought it was an innocent question. I never said I was gonna base my decision on responses in my original post.

Nothing more, nothing less. No harm was done.

delujm0

I think you can do whatever you want when it's just the two of you.  You want to have a vow renewal?  Great.  Have at it.

 

Etiquette only gets involved when you start inviting guests.  At that point, you would want to be careful about whether your vow renewal was a reasonable idea or an imposition.

 

Personally, i don't ever plan to have one, i don't think there's any point.  But i wouldn't side-eye a friend who had a private vow renewal on her anniversary.  I would even attend a vow renewal if invited if it made sense (a big anniversary, the couple having overcome a hardship, etc).  I wouldn't attend a vow renewal that was for no reason (1-year anniversary, etc).  But you're not inviting anyone.  So you only have to please yourself and your husband.

abbyj700

I think a private yearly vow renewal is lovely. We've planned on our wedding day to put letters into a box with a bottle of Jack Daniels. Each year on our anniversary we'll be reading the letters from each other as a way to renew our vows and then replacing them for the next year. Pick something that fits the two of you and go for it. Barbados for a one year anniversary sounds amazing!