Hi everyone,
I really just need some advice. I have a bridesmaid who is also a bride. She got engaged in October 2013 and I'm a bridesmaid in her wedding. I'm also planning her wedding, which is in May 2014.
I got engaged in December 2013, set the date for June 2014, and before ever mentioning anything about my wedding party to anyone, she made a comment saying "I can't wait to be a bridesmaid in your wedding!" I didn't say anything because honestly, I was speechless. The next time we spoke she said it again and I simply replied "Well, I haven't figured out my wedding party yet because I don't know how many people I want to limit it to." Her response was "That's fine. I don't care who else is in it. I'm just excited to be a bridesmaid."
For those of you who haven't figured it out: I NEVER wanted her in the wedding party. Not that we're not friends, but I don't consider us to be THAT close and honestly, I get annoyed every time she's around. However, she was so excited that I thought "how bad could it be?" and just went along with it. Since then, she blessed me out that I wasn't going to have time to plan her wedding if I'm planning mine for a month later (to which I've told her would be completely fine, and every time I've spoken to her it's been about HER wedding). She didn't show up to my engagement party because "she was sick," but she posted Facebook statuses about going out with her fiancé that same night. The following weekend she didn't show up to shop for my wedding dress, with the excuse of being sick again (she claimed it was life-threatening) and then she posted pictures the next day of her and her fiancé at a concert the night before. We set the date to get bridesmaids' dresses, which she said worked for her. She bailed 2 weeks before with no excuse except that she was busy, so we moved it up a week, so that she would be able to go. She showed up and acted sick the whole time, and made rude comments about EVERY dress and then told another bridesmaid that I was just being controlling wanting all the dresses to be the same. She didn't speak to me more than once the entire day. Two days later, she asked if I could go shopping for her bridesmaids' dresses the upcoming weekend 9the one she originally bailed on)!
Now, I know that it's too late to kick her to the curb, and also that it would be considered rude, but what I'm asking is: how can I possibly deal with this situation?? I've tried talking to her, but she constantly makes excuses and then starts talking about her wedding. I don't know how to get my point across that she's acting like a brat and that it's unappreciated. HELP!