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Guest List Timeframe
My wedding is December 27, 2014. We have a venue booked (max. capacity is 220). We want our guest list to stay under 175 for comfort reasons and cost reasons as far as catering and beverages. My question is, what timeframe should I be looking at? When do I need to have a concrete guest list completed? We will be sending STD's to each guest simply because the date is so close to Christmas, I know some families may plan to have gatherings then and want to give a heads up if they want to rearrange. Thanks in advance!
Curious? Am I the only one who feels odd and giggles when I say I'm giving people STD's? I know, immaturity sometimes gets the best of me. Haha.
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Re: Guest List Timeframe
Since it's a bit late for that, go ahead and make your list ASAP so you can figure out if you need to make cuts or adjustments. It is recommended that Save the Dates go out 6 to 12 months in advance, so you'd need to have a firm guest list by May so you could sent them out in June.
Very helpful! Thank you!
We're sending out STDs at the end of March because it'll be so close to Christmas and because we have a lot of really busy family members who will need lots of notice.
ETA: Also, we will be sending out our invitations a little bit early so they don't get lost in the Christmas card rush.
I will say this: I do not expect people to adjust their Christmas plans around our wedding. We are doing it in the evening at 6 so that people can do the lunches for family gatherings and maybe can curb some poeple who would be unable to come otherwise. I am not hung up on how many people are there, as long as me and FI are wed by the end of the day I will be happy
Of course, I am now super curious about details!
When you make your list if there is anyone that you are not 100% sure you will want there on Dec 27th then you do not have to send a STD to them. You can take all the time up to when you send invites to think about it. I say this because STD=invite. No STD=flexibility.
We sent STD emails to our 100% sure list. There were two groups we were not sure about: DH's extended family and our large social group of local friends. DH decided on the family right before invites went out. For the large social group, we verbally let our closest friends in the group know to STD. The friends on the bubble were decided much closer to sending invites out. Keeping it verbal for this group was great because no one could say to anyone else "did you get the STD in the mail?"
You can send out your STD's any time now, so I would work on your guest list ASAP. Just remember that anyone who gets an STD must be invited to the wedding, so choose wisely. ;-)
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
My FI and I LOVE winter. I work in parks and rec and he is a student (will graduate May 2015) and works in turf grass management. So we would have a really hard time taking off in any type of warm season since that is both of our busy times for work.
We are getting married in a Methodist Church that he grw up in at 6:00 pm and having really low lighting and using candle light for the rest. My colors are blush, navy, and champagne and I am going for a very romantic theme. Flowers will be mainly baby's breath and ivy and I will carry light pink roses. I'm doing all of my flowers and arrangements.
The reception will beheld at Rigmor House which is a log/wooden house built for conferences and events. The reception is going to be much more laid back and type of party. I'm using cream linens and decorating with my dad's antique blue mason jars with candles and baby's breath, huge quartz rocks from our farm, and my dad's antique lanterns.
We are so excited!! It's nice to meet another NC bride
I'm sure it will be beautiful. I loathe when people ask if I'm having a Christmas themed wedding though! Luckily the church decorates with ivory poinsettias and the Christmas tree is gold and white so not too Christmas-y (they usually wait until after New Years to take everything down so we aren't going to ask they do it earlier).