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wandajune6

Those all sound wonderful!

I knew that being laid back about this wouldn't be a bad idea!

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No, you're not too relaxed. You are a smart bride who realizes what things are worth freaking out over and what things are not. I told my girls to pick a certain color & length from DB but whatever dress they wanted so they could find something they felt comfortable in & fit their budget. Ironically they all picked the same dress. I told them too to wear whatever black shoes you have as I figured most women have a pair of comfortable black dress shoes. I did the same too for hair & makup as you.

I've seen lots of pictures where brides are doing what you are doing and with them all being in the same color, to goes well. You know your friends and obviously feel you can trust them with their judgement else you wouldn't have made the decision you did. I was in the same mind set, if your wedding party is comfortable, they will enjoy themselves more & that shows in the pictures that will be taken. I even went as far as to order brown diabetic socks for a GM because he can't wear regular socks with his diabities as they are too confining (the men wore brown tuxes her DH request).

CaliMel11

I did the same. I picked out the color, and everyone is buying their own dresses. Of course everyone freaked out because apparently my friends need more guidelines than just "buy a dress in this color"
One girl ended up getting a bridesmaid dress from DB, one went to Macy's and found a beautiful dress there, and then my MOH found a gorgeous dress online.
They're all different styles, but I am sure it'll look just fine. I don't care if peoples shoes match either. I don't want them to all have the same hairstyles/makeup either, I figure each girl can choose how she wants it done to suit her.

Fairyjen1

    I'm having my 19 year old niece and my sister as my attendants. At first I told them any dress they wanted in any color purple. We are only having 17-20 people,including us, so it didn't make sense to go to a big expense or to be all matchy-matchy. Then I was reading here and told them they could just go with a little black dress they liked, if they wanted to get something they might wear again or use something they had. 

  Those two girls want matchy-matchy purple bridesmaids looking dresses. They are insisting they want to look like bridesmaids. We all do theater so I suspect this is another role with a costume for them. I told them whatever the decide is fine with me, my mom is a seamstress so we can really make anything they want. 

   Personally, if I were offered the chance to buy a little black dress as a bridesmaid I would have been all over that before the bride changed her mind!

HaileyDancingbear

I think it'll look awesome- honestly though, the only thing IMO that makes bridesmaids look "Bad" is when they all look miserable in photos.  No fancy gown can fix a frown.  As long as the bridesmaids are happy and comfortable, that will show through in photos and they'll look wonderful. 

I have the same plan for my bridesmaids, although instead of black I might ask them to get a jewel tone teal or violet or maroon dress- I feel like those colors (Violet especially) just tend to look very flattering on people.  I know my MOH rocks the absolute shit out of violet.

theartistformerlyknownas

We're going dress shopping in about a month (same color/fabric, whatever style they want out of about 15-20 knee-length ones available). But they're already freaking out about that and EV. ER. Y. THING. ELSE. "would this style be ok? or this one?" (yes, as long as it's this aqua fabric.) "what color hair should I have?" (I don't care.) "should I grow my bangs out or keep them?" (I don't care.) "do you want my hair up? down? to the side?" (I don't care.) "would you be mad if I get a tattoo on my forearm?" (I don't care.) "open toe or closed toe shoes?" (I don't care.) "are you SURE?!" (quite.) "what about...?" I DON'T CARE! Just show up in an aqua dress with whatever the hell nude shoes you want and a smile on your face! 

McCMal

I told my BM's that I wanted light purple. One of them already had a light purple dress, and the others started to look. Turns out I liked dark purple, light purple and a charcoal slate color. I asked my BM's and my MOH claimed the dark purple color, and my other BM claimed the slate. It worked out great.

 

Though I'm in the wedding of the gal in the slate dress, and all she wants us in an emerald green dress, and I can't find any yet. She originally wanted yellow, and that would have been easier, but I'm excited to wear whatever she wants! She has no further instructions on what to wear except brown shoes, and that's all I'm asking too. 

As a BM and Bride, I guess it would be easier if the bride just handed you a picture of a dress and said 'this one' but then you run the risk of it not being something you'd wear again. But when it's a special color, (John Deere Green) I'm worried I won't match up to the other BM's if we all have different dresses. 

vulpiepop

I don't think so! I think it's great that you're so laid back about it! I'm doing something similar in my planning mainly because I'll have just graduated from college and some of the wedding party would have just graduated with me or would still be in school so I know the budget is tight for them. 

Making your BMs feel comfortable and beautiful is great; they would not only enjoy your special day that much more.