I thought using a wedding website was ok

Jchi001

I can't believe that I am getting married in two days, but I am still having to deal with flack with how I handled the details card in my wedding invitation. Instead of listing the registries on the invitation details card I put our wedding website address. However people keep complaining that the registry information is missing  in the invitations. I have had close friends snap at me saying they don't have time to look online -- people who have smartphones and are teachers who complain their students don't read instructions. I finally had to text my FMIL a list so she would stop asking me. I barely avoided having my MOH argue with one of my bachelorette guests saying that I followed etiquette.

Have the rules changed? If not, is it the majority rules the only rule to follow? How the devil would I have known before the invitations were sent?

RedJacks25

You did right. People are just lazy.

Inkdancer

The rules have not changed. Your friends are just being rude.

Jchi001

Thanks,

When my two teacher friends lay at me again, I am going to point out they would never tolerate thier students not reading instructions.

Maggie0829

Your friends are ridiculous.  If they are too lazy to take a peek at your website (and I am in the no registry info on your website camp, but that is neither here nor there at this point) then why can't they just send you a quick "hey where are you registered" text?  I mean getting the information is not that hard.  People are just too fucking lazy and want things handed to them.

JeeGooDowster

Not only are they rude, they're being a pain in the ass to you especially this close to the wedding.  Congrats by the way!

phira

They're just being rude. Sorry!

Jchi001

Thank you ladies. Knowing this makes me feel better!

hikebikebemerry

This blows my mind.  Do they not have enough time to google your name?  I don't know how they would have enough time to get said gift if they are "too busy" to look up a registry.

Seriously, a friend of mine is getting married (doesn't have a wedding website) and for her shower, I simply googled her name and SURPRISE! I found where she was registered.  I also referenced our years of friendship to get her some *GASP* off registry things to go along with what I got off of her registry.

grumbledore

It is so freaking easy to look up a wedding registry - I just tested the truthiness of that statement by Googling the name of a co-worker's son and BOOM there it is. You did the right thing OP (or at least "the right thing-adjacent since I probably wouldn't have even put it on the website). Good luck on Saturday!

blabla89

I, for one, do not like dealing with the registry kiosks in most stores. I prefer look it up online even if I'm going to purchase in-store. I guess not everyone feels the same though. Still, you were right to not include it on your invitations.

phira

It's so easy to find registries online that I (CREEPER WARNING) checked out registries of facebook friends when I was trying to figure out what we might be missing from our registries. Like, people I haven't spoken to in years, I only know they're engaged/married from facebook, and I could find their registries.

selenathegreat

Hm, just Googled myself and my registries don't show up. Oh well.

casey8784

phira said:

It's so easy to find registries online that I (CREEPER WARNING) checked out registries of facebook friends when I was trying to figure out what we might be missing from our registries. Like, people I haven't spoken to in years, I only know they're engaged/married from facebook, and I could find their registries.

STALKER!! (...i've done that too...)

phira

@selenathegreat You can sometimes change settings so that people can't look up your registry unless they have a link.

RebeccaB88

You did everything right.  Everyone complaining is ridiculous. I'd have no problem asking them why they're so upset that I didn't do something rude. Besides, if they have time to call you and complain about this, why didn't they just use that time to ask you where you're registered? I'd point that out to them too...

thisismynickname2

I'm really sensitive to being Googled, so not only did I "hide" it (thank you Crate and Barrel), I put it under our first/middle names.  The link is on our wedding website, which is password protected.

..... Think I'll just end up with cash? LOL. 

Sars06

Your friends are rude. I'd be inclined to tell them to forget about it.

If it's too much of a burden for someone to call/Google me to find my registry, why are they even giving me a gift? Gift giving is not supposed to be a burden.

grumbledore

phira said:

It's so easy to find registries online that I (CREEPER WARNING) checked out registries of facebook friends when I was trying to figure out what we might be missing from our registries. Like, people I haven't spoken to in years, I only know they're engaged/married from facebook, and I could find their registries.

I just tried that too with a random Facebook friend that I know is engaged and found hers. To the PP who said your didn't turn up - try listing it on TK, that's the first result that I got in both of my searches.

huskypuppy14

Jchi001 said:

I can't believe that I am getting married in two days, but I am still having to deal with flack with how I handled the details card in my wedding invitation. Instead of listing the registries on the invitation details card I put our wedding website address. However people keep complaining that the registry information is missing  in the invitations. I have had close friends snap at me saying they don't have time to look online -- people who have smartphones and are teachers who complain their students don't read instructions. I finally had to text my FMIL a list so she would stop asking me. I barely avoided having my MOH argue with one of my bachelorette guests saying that I followed etiquette.

Have the rules changed? If not, is it the majority rules the only rule to follow? How the devil would I have known before the invitations were sent?

A list of what, your registry items or the places you're registered. I don't understand how hard it is to say Macy's and crate and barrel.  

Kauris

Googling registries is how I get most of my Christmas shopping done for you the year after you've gotten married! It's not that hard and don't most people generally register at least one of three big box stores anyway?