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Can I wear this patterned white dress to a wedding?

I will be attending my friend's evening beach wedding this summer. I recently purchased this dress thinking that it was perfect for the occasion, but my husband thinks that it's too white to wear as a guest to a wedding. It's ivory with a gold pattern all over it. The bride will be wearing a long strapless lace gown, so it's certainly not similar to what she will be wearing. Is this dress appropriate for a wedding guest? Help!

Re: Can I wear this patterned white dress to a wedding?

  • HeatherKatHeatherKat the Frozen Tundra member
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    While I wouldn't side eye it myself, I could maybe see how people who hold to the "no white as a wedding guest" rule could. It's so pretty, though! Where'd you get it, I want it for my rehearsal!
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  • I wouldn't but really you can wear whatever you want.

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  • APDSS22APDSS22 O-K-L-A-H-O-M-A is OK member
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    Maybe you could accessorize it with a wrap that's more gold or something to push it more towards gold and less toward white? 

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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 Boston Suburbs member
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    Yes, where did you get it? It's beautiful. I probably wouldn't care if you wore it to my wedding, but it's sort of borderline.
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  • I wouldn't. It's too close to white for my comfort, but that's me.
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  • I would rule it out if it were me. Usually when I question/doubt things it means I should go another way so I don't step on anyone toes...or at least not in a belligerent manner. 


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  • doeydodoeydo Southwestern Ontario member
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    No way would I wear that dress to someone's wedding.  It is too white.
    ETA  I would side-eye a guest for wearing it to someone else's wedding.
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 Boston Suburbs member
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    phira said:
    You should send it to me, just to avoid temptation.
    No me! :)
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    That is a beautiful dress!

    However, I feel it is very "bridal" (as an OP above asked if she could wear it to her rehearsal- that is exactly what I thought- this is a dress a bride would wear to a pre-wedding event), even the gold design makes it look that way.

    I hope you can wear it somewhere else, because it really is quite lovely! 
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  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 Dirty Jerz member
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    Yep, it's beautiful but I think it's too close to white.
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  • No way I'd wear it and I would absolutely side - eye someone who did. Way to white and embellished.
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  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville Chicago member
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    No way I'd wear it and I would absolutely side - eye someone who did. Way too white and embellished.
    Ditto. It IS gorgeous, though. I'd save it for a party or some other special occasion.

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  • InkdancerInkdancer The Shire member
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    It's beautiful. I wouldn't care if somebody wore it to my wedding, but you really have to know the bride and how she would feel about it.
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    Nope, I wouldn't.  It's too bride-y, not suitable for a guest, imo.
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  • I wouldn't wear it...but I absolutely want it. Please tell us where you got it!
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  • wow beautiful dress! You mentioned it's on a beach, is it a DW? Is there another opportunity to wear this dress on that trip? If hubs thinks it's a bad idea, imagine what other women will think?!
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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    I think it's gorgeous, and I wouldn't care if you wore it to my wedding.  But many ppl here will tell you that you can't wear white to a wedding and that they would judge you for wearing it. 

    You just have to decide how many fucks you give as to what other people think ;-)

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  • Thanks ladies. I've decided to not wear it to the wedding... and save it for another occasion. Some of you asked where I got it... its a Sue Wong that I got super cheap this week on bluefly.com.
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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 City By The Lake member
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    I'm just chiming in to say I LOVE SUE WONG!  I bought one of the full-length gowns to wear as my wedding dress.  There is a full-length version of that dress from a couple seasons back that I was dying to have as my actual wedding dress, but alas, I wasn't engaged back then. 

    The beadwork on Sue Wong gowns can rival any bridal gown from a traditional wedding shop and save boatloads of money, as those dresses are more in the $500-$800 range. 

    So... yeah, glad you decided not to wear it as it's rather too wedding-y. 

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  • Would be perfect for rehearsal dinner or small family wedding under 35 people.
  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 Boston Suburbs member
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    Darn, no more size 6, and would be too afraid to try to squeeze into a 4.
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  •    You can wear it to my wedding and I wouldn't be bothered by it at all! I'd probably wear it too and not notice the side-eyes, but I can be clue-less like that and figure as long as it's not an all-white dress it's okay.  After reading this thread I know better. 
  • ei34ei34 member
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    I wouldn't have side-eyed you wearing that dress at my wedding, nor would I be bothered by you wearing it at someone else's. But majority rules, and most PP's say no, so it's wise you're going that route.
    Beautiful dress though!!
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