My MOH has graciously offered to throw me a shower. We were thinking of dates and probably the weekend of the bachelorette makes the most sense because there are people (including the MOH) coming in from out of town. I live in a city where getting a private room at a hotel or restaurant is expensive (often you have to pay to rent it out or there is a food/beverage minimum) and I don't want my MOH to have to shell out a ton of money for this event. One of my bridesmaids could host at their apt (in the same city) but neither has offered, I'm guessing it's not appropriate for me to ask, and my MOH isn't good friends with them so I'm not sure that she feels comfortable asking. Which leaves us with my apartment for a location. Is that ok or does it seem like I'm hosting my own shower? I'll ultimately leave it up to the MOH to decide, as she may want to use a restaurant or move the shower outside of the city, which would be fine, but I'm not sure if I should offer my place up anyway, as another option, or just leave it alone.