Too soon to send a wedding gift?

hikebikebemerry

FI and I are going to a wedding in June, but I was looking at their registry, and there really aren't that many things on it, and I'm a physical gift person.  Would it be too early to have it directly shipped to their house, or should I just have it mailed to my house (this way I could make it into a nice gift-basket type thing and toss in some fun extras) and mail it out before the wedding?

Is there a rule about how far out is acceptable to send gifts?

(Not sure if this matters, but I don't know them personally.. it's FI's cousin- and he never remembers to get gifts, and I'm going into my busy season at work, so I don't want to totally forget about it.)

pumpkinsandturkeys

I don't think it's too early! Our wedding is in May, and people have been asking us about where we registered since last month.

HisGirlFriday13

I don't think it's too early. Our wedding was in October, and we started getting gifts in August. 

JaniV123

My wedding is over a year out and we have people asking us for whatw e prefer/where we are registered.

emmyg65

Not too early. Our wedding was in August and we got our first gift in June. 

hikebikebemerry

Thanks for the feedback!

We decided to just send something now (plus, I had a coupon).

lyndausvi

nope.  We received our first gift in Jan for a Sept wedding.

That said, my SIL's FMIL is buying EVERYTHING on the registry.  Especially the big gifts.  Her wedding isn't until Sept.   I'm irrationally annoyed that FMIL is buying up everything already.  I only found out because I was bored last week and decided to see what she registry looked like.  At the rate this woman is buying items all that will be left by the wedding is going to be a plastic spatula.   

 - Random rant.  You are fine buying something now.  Actually, I recommend it so you don't end up like us with SIL.

hikebikebemerry

@lyndausvi

The shower for the bride is coming up (I'm not invited/ going), and they don't have a ton of stuff on their registry that my FI would justify purchasing soooo I'm glad that we looked and purchased now!

They had a teapot for $230 (it didn't bother me, if you want a fancy teapot- have at it.) FI's jaw dropped and he exclaimed, "DO THEY PLAN ON HAVING THE QUEEN OVER FOR DINNER?!"  I thought it was funny.

KatWAG

We got our first wedding gift 7 months before our wedding. Yes, it was really early but it made the process seem real.

pinkshorts27

@lyndausvi

The shower for the bride is coming up (I'm not invited/ going), and they don't have a ton of stuff on their registry that my FI would justify purchasing soooo I'm glad that we looked and purchased now!

They had a teapot for $230 (it didn't bother me, if you want a fancy teapot- have at it.) FI's jaw dropped and he exclaimed, "DO THEY PLAN ON HAVING THE QUEEN OVER FOR DINNER?!"  I thought it was funny.

That is too funny. We just started registering and FI can't believe what non-college stuff costs. We have stuff at all price points, but he couldn't believe silverware sets (not real silver, just eating wear) cost most than 10 bucks.

lyndausvi

hikebikebemerry said:

@lyndausvi

The shower for the bride is coming up (I'm not invited/ going), and they don't have a ton of stuff on their registry that my FI would justify purchasing soooo I'm glad that we looked and purchased now!

They had a teapot for $230 (it didn't bother me, if you want a fancy teapot- have at it.) FI's jaw dropped and he exclaimed, "DO THEY PLAN ON HAVING THE QUEEN OVER FOR DINNER?!"  I thought it was funny.

I may or may not have a $100+ drying rack   o_0

hikebikebemerry

lyndausvi said:

hikebikebemerry said:

@lyndausvi

The shower for the bride is coming up (I'm not invited/ going), and they don't have a ton of stuff on their registry that my FI would justify purchasing soooo I'm glad that we looked and purchased now!

They had a teapot for $230 (it didn't bother me, if you want a fancy teapot- have at it.) FI's jaw dropped and he exclaimed, "DO THEY PLAN ON HAVING THE QUEEN OVER FOR DINNER?!"  I thought it was funny.

I may or may not have a $100+ drying rack   o_0

No judgement here.  FI just happens to hate spending money if it's not on hiking/ biking/ climbing.