The Night Before the wedding

emmaaa

We are lucky that we have our reception venue Friday through Sunday. So the RD will be there on Friday. I will stay at the venue that night with my Mom and any BM's that want to. And FI wil stay wih his parents.

Amyzen83

mobkaz said:

Amyzen83 said:

No sleepovers for this bride! I want to wake up early the next morning on my terms without a bunch of people around groom may be there too or at his moms. I'm going to exercise for an hour, shower, then drive to the church to get dressed and get hair and make up done. My sisters a beautician so she'll be doing my hair and make up. My bridesmaids can either get ready there too or just meet up with me after they are all dolled up.

You sound like my daughter!  She slept in her own bed in her own home.  She wanted to get a good nights' sleep and maintain her normal morning workout routine.  She showered at her place with her own "products", and met her BM's at the hair salon.  They all came back to my house afterwards to dress and take pictures.  

Hahahaha! Maybe she's my long lost twin!

tesgirl123

After rehearsal and RD, I am going back to my parents' house and sleeping there.   FI is staying in the hotel where our reception is being held, sharing a room with one of his friends.   We all live in the same county but it can take 45 minutes to go from our condo to the hotel and the guys are all putting on their tuxes at the hotel for pictures and stuff.

Maggie0829

After the RD my H and I went back to our house with my parents and sister and BIL and niece (who were all staying at our home).  H proceeded to pack an overnight bag for that night and the night of the wedding.  He then went and stayed at his parents house and hung out with his friends.  I slept in my own bed and also got ready in my house since our hair and MUA came to us.  I certainly didn't want any kind of sleepover because I wanted a good nights sleep and I didn't want to feel like I had to entertain people.  I have to say that I slept like a baby the night before my wedding, but the 3/4 bottle of wine that I drank at the RD probably helped.

In the end you and your FI need to do what is most comfortable for the two of you.  There is no right and wrong way to do things.

lkristenj

I have no idea what I'll be doing.

What I do find surprising though is how many people mentioned showering before going to get ready. My hairstylists have always told me, every time I've had to get my hair done pretty for something not NOT wash my hair before coming to them. Dirty hair (2 day hair) holds style better, they said. I've had several different hairstylists and they've all told me this.

I don't know what I'm doing with my hair yet, but I probably won't include showering on my before-wedding to-do list. At least, not washing my hair. I will probably take a bath or avoid getting my hair wet. Is this something that actually isn't that typical? I understand if you work out and get sweaty and such, but for my aunt's wedding I remember one of the stylists getting upset at another BM because she washed her hair after they gave all the girls instructions to come with 2-day hair. I don't know.

We're having a Rehearsal Dinner at an Italian restaurant and after that, I have no idea. I guess I'll figure it out closer to the day.

Inkdancer

lkristenj said:

I have no idea what I'll be doing.

What I do find surprising though is how many people mentioned showering before going to get ready. My hairstylists have always told me, every time I've had to get my hair done pretty for something not NOT wash my hair before coming to them. Dirty hair (2 day hair) holds style better, they said. I've had several different hairstylists and they've all told me this.

I don't know what I'm doing with my hair yet, but I probably won't include showering on my before-wedding to-do list. At least, not washing my hair. I will probably take a bath or avoid getting my hair wet. Is this something that actually isn't that typical? I understand if you work out and get sweaty and such, but for my aunt's wedding I remember one of the stylists getting upset at another BM because she washed her hair after they gave all the girls instructions to come with 2-day hair. I don't know.

We're having a Rehearsal Dinner at an Italian restaurant and after that, I have no idea. I guess I'll figure it out closer to the day.

I don't wash my hair every time I shower, but if I don't shower in the morning I feel like a nasty greaseball all day long. Helps that I'm tall so I can easily avoid getting wet hair in the shower.

shaylagirl

Inkdancer said:

lkristenj said:

What I do find surprising though is how many people mentioned showering before going to get ready. My hairstylists have always told me, every time I've had to get my hair done pretty for something not NOT wash my hair before coming to them. Dirty hair (2 day hair) holds style better, they said. I've had several different hairstylists and they've all told me this.

I don't wash my hair every time I shower, but if I don't shower in the morning I feel like a nasty greaseball all day long. Helps that I'm tall so I can easily avoid getting wet hair in the shower.

This.  I shower or take a bath daily, but I don't always shampoo and condition my hair because it strips the natural oils and isn't good for your hair.  I always adjust the showerhead to keep my hair dry.  And, I also make sure if I'm going in for a styling or a color to not wash the day before.

The night before the wedding though, I took a nice, hot bath to soak and shave since I had to get my butt up early to get to the stylists and start prepping for the wedding.  I wanted to make sure it was all done BEFORE I started rushing around in the morning.

jessiray

We're having a rehearsal dinner at my FMIL's, and then my FI and I, along with several of my bridesmaids and their SOs and maybe a groomsman or so, are spending the night there. We're getting married in my FI's hometown, so the next morning the girls and I are meeting my mom at my FI's grandma's house, and the guys will all meet at my FMIL's. It's going to be so much fun

APDSS22

lkristenj said:

I have no idea what I'll be doing.

What I do find surprising though is how many people mentioned showering before going to get ready. My hairstylists have always told me, every time I've had to get my hair done pretty for something not NOT wash my hair before coming to them. Dirty hair (2 day hair) holds style better, they said. I've had several different hairstylists and they've all told me this.

I don't know what I'm doing with my hair yet, but I probably won't include showering on my before-wedding to-do list. At least, not washing my hair. I will probably take a bath or avoid getting my hair wet. Is this something that actually isn't that typical? I understand if you work out and get sweaty and such, but for my aunt's wedding I remember one of the stylists getting upset at another BM because she washed her hair after they gave all the girls instructions to come with 2-day hair. I don't know.

We're having a Rehearsal Dinner at an Italian restaurant and after that, I have no idea. I guess I'll figure it out closer to the day.

My stylist told me not to wash mine (so 2 day hair) but I did shower (just didn't shampoo or condition and tried to not get it too wet) because I wanted to not smell like sweat going down the aisle.

Danger+Zone

I would really like to have a slumber party with my mom, his mom, my stepmother, my sisters, and my best friends. Not a real slumber party, per se. But you know, pajamas, girl-talk, maybe a few drinks and boardgames or a movie. We should be at the hotel we're getting married at the night before. So it just sounds like fun to spend some time with the girls! He and I don't want to see each other the day before either.

Maggie0829

lkristenj said:

I have no idea what I'll be doing.

What I do find surprising though is how many people mentioned showering before going to get ready. My hairstylists have always told me, every time I've had to get my hair done pretty for something not NOT wash my hair before coming to them. Dirty hair (2 day hair) holds style better, they said. I've had several different hairstylists and they've all told me this.

I don't know what I'm doing with my hair yet, but I probably won't include showering on my before-wedding to-do list. At least, not washing my hair. I will probably take a bath or avoid getting my hair wet. Is this something that actually isn't that typical? I understand if you work out and get sweaty and such, but for my aunt's wedding I remember one of the stylists getting upset at another BM because she washed her hair after they gave all the girls instructions to come with 2-day hair. I don't know.

We're having a Rehearsal Dinner at an Italian restaurant and after that, I have no idea. I guess I'll figure it out closer to the day.

I showered and washed my hair the morning of my wedding.  My hairstylist had no issue getting my hair to stay.  I probably could have slept in my updo and it still would have looked great the next day.  I think it really depends on what kind of hair you have but between using product, teasing, and hair spraying the shit out of it I am sure that if you choose to wash it or not your hair will stay just fine.

Also, if you wear your hair down I could not imagine having 2 day old dirty hair on my head, ick.

LAM524

I was going to stay in my own place and fiance at his but recently my wedding coordinator suggested that I stay at venue. She said that I "should be accessible" the day of the wedding...she actually said that I would want to be. Well...after I reserved my room at venue I began to wonder what she meant exactly. The wedding is at 7pm. With breakfast/lunch with BM's, hair/make-up, photos during day, I hope she didnt mean that the staff will call on me with questions, etc. and pull me away from our scheduled events. I would hope that all questions etc would be asked/answered before the wedding day! hmmmm....

Lowell14

I'm staying in the hotel with my MOH nd FI and my parents are staying at our house. I would also like FIs daughter to stay over at the hotel. I don't want her to feel left out. Shes 8. But it will depend on her mothers mood...

JCbride2015

LAM2228 said:

I was going to stay in my own place and fiance at his but recently my wedding coordinator suggested that I stay at venue. She said that I "should be accessible" the day of the wedding...she actually said that I would want to be. Well...after I reserved my room at venue I began to wonder what she meant exactly. The wedding is at 7pm. With breakfast/lunch with BM's, hair/make-up, photos during day, I hope she didnt mean that the staff will call on me with questions, etc. and pull me away from our scheduled events. I would hope that all questions etc would be asked/answered before the wedding day! hmmmm....

Does she work for this venue/hotel?  She might just be trying to sell a room.  I would try to make clear you are not to be pulled away from events.  What could they really need from you?

Our RD is two nights before the wedding.  The night before the wedding is my grandmother's 75th bday, so we will probably take her out to eat and celebrate!  Then either go home or to the hotel with Fi, have a couple drinks and watch a movie or read a bit, go to sleep.

It had actually never crossed my mind not to sleep with Fi the night before.  We both sleep much better together, and if we're apart I wake up a lot and get really confused.  Not sure yet if we will get our hotel room the night before, or sleep at home.  Our wedding isn't until 6:30 so we have lots of time that day to do whatever needs doing.

Marzipan13

Even though we're currently living together, we're gonna be traditional and spend the night before apart (in fact, I think my parents are insisting I stay at their house - not far - for the entire week leading up to the wedding).  

So, a week apart before the wedding.  Not a bad deal, especially since my bed at my parents' house is the World's Comfiest Bed, Currently Or Ever Previously.  

carliealissa

I have no idea what I'll be doing.

What I do find surprising though is how many people mentioned showering before going to get ready. My hairstylists have always told me, every time I've had to get my hair done pretty for something not NOT wash my hair before coming to them. Dirty hair (2 day hair) holds style better, they said. I've had several different hairstylists and they've all told me this.

I don't know what I'm doing with my hair yet, but I probably won't include showering on my before-wedding to-do list. At least, not washing my hair. I will probably take a bath or avoid getting my hair wet. Is this something that actually isn't that typical? I understand if you work out and get sweaty and such, but for my aunt's wedding I remember one of the stylists getting upset at another BM because she washed her hair after they gave all the girls instructions to come with 2-day hair. I don't know.

We're having a Rehearsal Dinner at an Italian restaurant and after that, I have no idea. I guess I'll figure it out closer to the day.

 

Stuck in box: I have always heard the same thing, about 2 day hair holding better.  This has absolutely never been the case for me.  My hair is very heavy, thick and stick straight, and it doesn't hold a curl well at any time, but it looks pretty decent if I style it immediately after showering and blow drying.  When it's at it's freshest.  If you tried to curl my hair the next day, it would do nothing, just hang there limp.  So I just don't understand that 2-day-hair information; apparently my hair did not get the memo!

Also Bedhead Hard Head is a lifesaving hair spray.

sassyfrass2014

I'm doing a "slumber party," since we're getting married in my hometown. Everyone except my parents and some aunts and uncles will be from out of town, so why ask my BMs to pay for a hotel room away from the venue when we can all start getting ready together in the morning! I'm very excited, and to each their own!

bananasplit472001

We are having a rehearsal dinner and staying in a 2-bedroom suite the hotel provides the day before the wedding and the day of the wedding.  My sister and her soon-to-be husband will be staying in the second bedroom in the suite.  The morning after the men will get ready then go down to the bar while the bridesmaids come to the suite for hair and make-up.  Many people think that this is very unconventional but I think it's more of a hassle to spend more money on a second room when were already getting a suite for free.

larrygaga

My stylists have always told me to show up with freshly washed, dry hair with no product in it. My hair is stick straight and very fine and oily, so it is always gross after not washing it. I can sometimes skip a day but not if I'm going somewhere that I have to look nice.

I've tried the training thing so many times and my hair just loves the oil. Oh well.

melbelleup

Night before the wedding, the groom will sleep at my brother's house or my house after the rehearsal dinner and I'll sleep in the opposite house. the end.

mwpich

we have been together 2 years and have only spent about 4 nights apart. we will be spending the night together. sounds stupid but true!! my bridal party is married and some with children so I couldnt ask them for a slumber party. its better this way for us. forget the superstitions!! its 2014!

APDSS22

larrygaga said:

My stylists have always told me to show up with freshly washed, dry hair with no product in it. My hair is stick straight and very fine and oily, so it is always gross after not washing it. I can sometimes skip a day but not if I'm going somewhere that I have to look nice.

I've tried the training thing so many times and my hair just loves the oil. Oh well.

Maybe it's a texture thing then because my hair is fairly thick and has curl to it.  Not a lot, but if you get it wet it curls and it brushes out to a wave.  I rinse my hair every day but I only shampoo and/or condition it every other day and it doesn't get super oily.

larrygaga

TheFutureMrsRohlman22 said:

larrygaga said:

My stylists have always told me to show up with freshly washed, dry hair with no product in it. My hair is stick straight and very fine and oily, so it is always gross after not washing it. I can sometimes skip a day but not if I'm going somewhere that I have to look nice.

I've tried the training thing so many times and my hair just loves the oil. Oh well.

Maybe it's a texture thing then because my hair is fairly thick and has curl to it.  Not a lot, but if you get it wet it curls and it brushes out to a wave.  I rinse my hair every day but I only shampoo and/or condition it every other day and it doesn't get super oily.

Probably. I have some friends with super thick curly hair, and they wash their hair once a week. I am so very jealous of that.

emmaaa

I only wash my hair MAYBE 2 times a week. My stylist has said she can do it either way but in her experience, curl holds better with slightly "dirty" hair. So we've decided that I will wash it that morning so I feel clean all day but we'll hairspray it beforehand to "dirty" it up a bit.

erinlin25

we stayed together at the hotel in our suite.  I knew I would not sleep well without him and so was happy to get a good nights sleep. We woke up and had breakfast together in the room and then his brothers picked him up.  We used our suite for hair & makeup  and then went to the venue where we had some snacks and got ready in our dresses, etc.

mimiphin

My night is all planed out!!
Head to the room alone at like 9 or so, Have a bath, drink a glass of wine, watch some tv, eat some snacks and sleep in a king size bed all by my little lonesome.

I can't wait to have a whole bed all to myself! No BM's, Aunts, grandmothers or parents. Just me myself and I

KGold80

My fiancé and I are spending the night before in separate rooms at the hotel in which we will be married. His mom is going to keep the kids that night so we can have a little nightcap in the hotel bar after the RD before we go our separate ways for the night. My MOH and I are distance runners, so we intend to get up early and hit the trails for a few miles before we get into the craziness of the day. I know I will need that hour or so to find my center before the wedding day chaos ensues.

nep5411

My fiance' and myself will be spending the night together in our hotel room the night before. We will probably spend some time with our families the night before and then cuddle up in bed and watch TV together before we go to sleep. 

Elitefourabby

I'm planning on staying at my house, which I'm working my ass off cleaning (it was at Hoarders level... THANKS GRAM) with my bridesmaids. FH is probably spending the night at his friend's house, playing League of Legends until the wee hours of the morning. The girls and I are probably going to marathon some early 2000s chick flicks, because that's what we do.

mrsmagicgeek

We're going to be at the B&B the night before, so I'm going to crash with my daughter for the night and spend some time with her.