Y'all, I just saw on FB someone posted asking for suggestions for a RD venue. Okay cool, fine.
For 80-100 people.
Like, what??? That's a freaking wedding reception not a rehearsal dinner!
I was kinda shocked that while I only gave 12 names to my FMIL for the RD, 42 guests are apparently invited...... All her aunts/uncles/cousins... 42 was a lot to me but whatev it's her party.
But 80-100??? How many did you have at your RD or are estimating will be there, and what state are you in?
Re: Rehearsal Dinner Out of Control
This girl I know lives in the city that she is getting married in.. I mean, all of my family guests are OOT but we are not inviting them just because their flights won't get in early enough (we are actually doing a rehearsal luncheon).
I'm really glad this girl's family and in-laws can afford to throw two parties of such a grand size! I'm super jealous now.
The idea was that the wedding was held in the bride's hometown, which might not be the groom's hometown, so the groom's relatives were travelling, and this was his parents' chance to host.
My brother and then I had to fight my mother on inviting OOT guests to the RD. He lost, because my parents did pay for his RD and all of their families were OOT.
I won, but I also scheduled our rehearsal for noon, and half our WP didn't attend (they said they weren't coming before I scheduled it for noon, ftr.)
That makes a lot of sense actually, a chance to host their own guests. Never considered that. Just goes to show you "regional" things or "what is normally done" doesn't make it the rule, haha.
We had 36 and did an informal pizza party at our new house in PA. It was people involved in the rehearsal + SOs, immediate families and OOT family from TX and MI.
Inviting our OOT family was keeping with my family tradition to invite OOT family and an opportunity to show our new house and the city (our house is in the city and has a skyline view--ceremony/reception were in the suburbs) to aunts and uncles that have never been to Pittsburgh and may never make another trip to Pittsburgh.
I made a salad and pan of brownies, ILs bought pizza, and we put out chips and party mix and served assorted flavors of Klondike bars for dessert. I think it was under $400 total.
I like the idea of having more time to spend with family/OOT guests. But from the original post 80-100 does seem like a lot.
ETA: California. But my circle is all over the country hence the large guest count.