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If you could have (had) a longer/ shorter engagement- would you?

When we get married it will have been an 11 month engagement. I thought that was the perfect amount of time but now I'm totally wishing we had booked the wedding like 6 months sooner!! I have loved planning and doing wedding things and now that I'm basically done with everything and still have 5 months to go it's kind of torture. If I did it all again I'd do like a 5 month engagement lol. What about you??

I'm also worried that it's being built up in my mind for so long, that I will definitely get somewhat depressed when it's over. I'd rather not have that huge, long build up to it!

                                                                 

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Re: If you could have (had) a longer/ shorter engagement- would you?

  • If I could've afforded a wedding planner so that I could've just shown up to the wedding I would've loved to have gotten married as soon as school was out. I guess we're not waiting that much longer though. I am just sick of it and want to just show up lol. Our engagement will be about 10 months and 3 weeks. Blahhh. 

    I really wanted an outdoor wedding though and June's one of very few safe months for that around here. Otherwise I wouldn't have wanted to wait so long at all. 
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  • phiraphira member
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    Our engagement will be about 14 months when all is said and done. It's been necessary: we need to save up during all of those 14 months in order to afford the wedding. And it's been really great to book vendors a year or more out.

    But for the love of everything, I got engaged because I wanted to get married. I'd like to be married already please.
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  • Our engagement will be 10 months and a week when we get married in August.  I am basically done with the planning at this point too, and have been for a while now.  My FH actually asked me a month ago if we could move the wedding up because he just wanted to be married.  I told him we would if we could, but sadly deposits with vendors don't allow for that.  
  • Our wedding was seven months, and I think four would have been fine. We considered that because we got engaged in January and wanted to get married outside, which left early June or late August/early September. But we didn't want to stress out too much about it. And in the end, the three months really didn't make a difference. I know you're impatient, but your engagement will fly by!
  • We have a 9 month engagement and it seems too long right now. We were engaged on 12/1 and will be married 9/6. We started planning the night we got engaged and will have everything ready in probably a month or 2.  I think a 5-6 month engagement would have been perfect.
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  • I would have been happy to get married months ago, but it takes time to plan and pay for a wedding, so we're hanging in for 7 more long months.

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  • We will have been engaged for just shy of 10 months. In some ways, I think it's perfect, in some it's too short, in others it's too long.

    I really enjoy BEING engaged, and I love how strangers get so excited for me and tell me "congratulations" (even though we've been engaged for nearly 4 months now). But I am very ready to be married.
  • Our engagement will be just under 10 months. I kept getting advice to wait on the wedding and enjoy the engagement period for longer but we're both ready to get married. Had it not been for a gift from my parents, we would be waiting longer.

    We got the "big things" done for the wedding right away so now I'm finding myself over-thinking endless issues. The more I read about wedding planning, the more I think I need for the wedding. I'm suddenly second-guessing myself and coming up with more and more things that I think we have to have but we really can't afford. If we got married sooner, I'm sure the wedding would be cheaper!
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  • vmj23vmj23 member
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    We got engaged last December and are getting married next month - so a year and 5 months!  I wouldn't have minded a shorter engagement, but the time has gone fast and I am so busy with other stuff and taking my time on wedding plannng, so it worked out.   Now that we are getting closer I with the day would just come already!
  • smalfrie19smalfrie19 member
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    We will have been engaged for 15 months, 2 weeks and 4 days by the time we get married. I have 6.5 months and I am SO READY to be married. I wish we could have done it sooner, but moving expenses and other things that cost money have just come up in life. I am so glad because I am almost done planning. Just a few more little things to get done before sending out the invites in August and then a short haul between then and October. I am very much looking forward to our vacation in July and my mom's best friend's wedding in June. 

    ETA...i just realized I am a BIG FAT LIAR... we will have been engaged for TWENTY SEVEN MONTHS, two weeks and four days before getting married...whoops...left off a year 
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  • We got engaged in October, wedding in July. Frankly, I would have been happier with a shorter engagement but we wanted certain venues, etc that were just not open sooner.

    We are waiting till after the wedding to move in together and 3.5 years of shuttling back and forth to his apartment is getting REALLY old.
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  • We got engaged in late December and married in mid-October and long about August, I looked at DH and said, 'I love you, but godalmighty do I wish this were over and done with and we were married.'

    I loved planning; I just hated the waiting between planning and the execution of my plans. And I was also really, really ready to be married to him. 
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  • We got enaged late November last year and will be marriedlate December this year, so 13 months. I always wanted a fall wedding but with FI in school and the type of jobs we have/will have, it just wasn't possible. Neither is spring or summer. So winter was the only time we could have our wedding and actually take time off! I woulnd't mind it being shorter, like 6-8 months (as long as I had time to order my dress).

  • Our engagement is 28 months, and honestly, because we've had to save for the entire thing ourselves/do all the DIY/deal with major surprise expenditures (beyond what most people consider keep in their emergency fund), I'd prefer if it was longer.  Much, much longer.
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  • I'm okay with either way but I had originally wanted a 2015 wedding date. I was OK with a year long engagement but FI was so anxious to have our wedding in 2014. We were engaged in December of 2013. We were going to have an 8 month engagement if we stuck with our 2014 wedding date and it was all happening so fast. The pricing of everything was such a shock to us and I felt it was financially smart to postpone our wedding. I want to get married like right now but I know it all requires money to get the wedding we want. We are looking at either a 15-18 month engagement if we can finally settle on a date.
  • labrolabro member
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    We'll have been engaged for 11 months and 3 days by the time we get married in October. Right now it feels like an ok amount of time because there are so many things I want to do between now and then. Lose weight, replace the wallpaper in my house with paint, get our yard fenced off. I have a bunch of other short term goals I'm working on right now so i think it helps me focus a little less on how much I really just want to get married.



  • We had a six month engagement and it seemed to drag by! I think it was the perfect amount of time for us, I definitely wouldn't have done a longer one.
  • Our engagement is about 15 months, we had to wait a year because of the church.  I really wouldn't change much about it but I can't wait for it to get here already!

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  • Our engagement is about 17 months which is about 5 months too long. I really wish it would have been more like 11-12 months.
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  • We are having a 6 month engagement.  Honestly we could have had any length we wanted, but we went with the date we did because that's the only date our venue & the photographer we wanted had in common.  I wouldn't have minded another few months though, it's coming up fast!
  • I have a two year engagement, and it's the perfect amount of time, I think. 
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  • If I had my way we would have been married 4 years ago. We've had to postpone for various reasons a couple of times so we've been engaged for almost 6 years.
  • Our engagement is going to be 14 months long, and I think it's just the right amount of time. There is so much planning to do that I wouldn't want anything any shorter!
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  • @glitterwitch22 You have nothing done?! lol I'll come help since I'm done and bored wink wink!

                                                                     

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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    edited April 2014
    We got engaged in July and got married in  Sept the following year.   I use to have from late-aug/early sept until the beginning of Oct off every year.     

    We could have planned the wedding in less time, it was just more convenient  to have it when we did. Plus it gave us a 3 week honeymoon, which we would not have had if we choose a different time of year.


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  • Ours has been 7 months, and although planning has had to be done a bit quickly at times, I almost wish it was shorter because I'm so ready to be married. If it weren't for the fact that we are also working on our 100+ year old home, I would've liked an even shorter engagement.

    I do find it annoying when vendors would be all "you're JUST NOW contacting me and your wedding is in 6.5 months why did you wait so long!?" I had one dress shop that was very snooty with me about this so I just opted not to go there.
  • We got engaged in Dec, and could have got married the next March (3 months), but we decided to wait an extra year so people could save up money and vacation time if they were planning on coming to Hawaii with us.  I'm glad we waited, cos I got to enjoy being engaged, planning, reading bad Bridal magazines, dress shopping, etc., but I was done by the time we did finally get married, so I think we had a good timeline for us.  

  • edited April 2014
    I was engaged for 20 months prior to getting married. When we got engaged, we talked about getting married in less than a year's time, but we couldn't decide on where we wanted to get married right away. We knew we wanted to elope, but when you elope, it opens up the whole world :) By the time we had it figured out, I was offered a job in a different state that I couldn't pass up, so we postponed until we had that whole situation figured out. So, I guess having a shorter engagement would have been more ideal, but in reality, I really never put myself on any type of timeline in the first place. 

     







  • I wish we could afford to have a shorter engagement. We needed the time to save up-- it will be 2.5 years when we get married. There are many times I just want to be married already!
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  • We were engaged 16 mos.
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