Ok, I know this is going to be a little long and make me sound selfish, but so be it...
I am getting married in about 4 1/2 months and no one has offered to host a shower for me. I know that showers are not required and they are a gift from the host so I have no right to demand one (and I would never do so). It is however getting very frustrating that all my wedding party (sisters and friends), family friends, and other family members keep asking ME when my showers will be and if they will be invited-Yet no one has taken the opportunity to ask if they can/offer to host one. I have been responding as kindly as possible, usually just saying that no shower is scheduled as of now.
With a majority of my family living out of town I kind of assumed a shower would be unlikely and I wasn't upset about not having a shower until everyone started asking these questions in the last month or so.
I spoke to my mother to ask if I should worry about it. She said that no one has mentioned a shower to her (and my family/friends are not the type to try to make it a surprise). Then she got me all worried because she went on a rant about how my fiance and I need the things on our registry, and we HAVE TO have a shower or we will go broke on buying everything we need for our home after the wedding. Unfortunately, she is kind of right--we are young and have almost zero things for a home.
I would NEVER ask someone to host a shower, but this whole things is getting very stressful and awkward for me.
Has anyone been in a similar spot? Am I just worrying for nothing? What is the proper way to respond to this situation?