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Late to the Party, As Usual..

So I totally missed whatever happened today, though by reading the aftermath post, I'm really honestly glad that I did miss it.  I don't know who said things, or what was said, but I did notice that a user was banned today who is on here quite often. :/

Anyway, the reason I was late to the party was because not only did I have organizing to do, but I was chatting with my mom most of the day on the phone.  She went out of her way to go the restaurant store (she's a chef and used to go there a lot for work, but not so much any more) just to find us the perfect napkins!  She was so excited to find the perfect color and talk wedding stuff with the guys she knows at that store.  Not only did she buy the napkins, but she spent a good hour there, comparing plate prices and tablecloth prices and colors with ones I had sent her and was getting really into it.  It was adorable, to say the least.



(Oh and many of you can probably figure out by my sig picture that I changed my username)
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Re: Late to the Party, As Usual..

  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 member
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    I missed the drama, too, but it sounds like something we should be glad about.  Now I'm ashamed I internet stalked Sara's BSC bride, although really glad I didn't give out any personal info or hints.  Seriously, what kind of person does that?!?!?!

    ETA glad to hear your mom took care of that for you!  That's really sweet.  Today I was just at school and having school drama with my darn clinic partner.... no wedding fun was had.  Now we are getting some food and I think I'm going to do some online angry-shopping.
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  • KPBM89KPBM89 member
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    I missed the drama, too, but it sounds like something we should be glad about.  Now I'm ashamed I internet stalked Sara's BSC bride, although really glad I didn't give out any personal info or hints.  Seriously, what kind of person does that?!?!?!

    ETA glad to hear your mom took care of that for you!  That's really sweet.  Today I was just at school and having school drama with my darn clinic partner.... no wedding fun was had.  Now we are getting some food and I think I'm going to do some online angry-shopping.
    Most people said they weren't going to do anything about it, so I trusted that to be true and I think/ hope it was.  From what I read about today's person, people took it too far.

    I did some online shopping the other night!  I decided I needed two new tops and a bag for the honeymoon.  FI usually hates me buying new clothes and such, but when I said it was for the HM, he let me be.
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  • I missed everything too, and I'm glad.  Just reading about it was making me anxious.

    It makes me sad that people are so nasty. :(
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  • I was in and out for the drama. You didn't miss much.

    I'm so excited for you with your mom!
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
  • I really, truly did not mean to give a hint to yesterday's identity. It was an honest mistake and I felt like an ass, but I had found her without hints so other people still could have without me. :( I witnessed today's drama, but wasn't a part of it (aside from telling OP her plans were rude). I'm glad it's over.

    That's awesome your mom is so excited! Mine doesn't even ask how planning is going. Betcha never thought napkins would be so exciting! And yay clothes!!!

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  • I think it is so sweet that your mom is so excited for your wedding! Did she send you lots of pictures of stuff?
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  • KPBM89KPBM89 member
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    Yeah my mom is not girly by any means and used to eye roll at all wedding talk, but recently she's gotten so excited about the little things!

    In other news, FI's best man apparently is planning his bach party for May 31st.  We will be up north the weekend before that and a few weeks after that, but he insists it be that weekend (most of you know us planning travel is a bitch and a half).  No asking FI first if it's okay/ works with his schedule/ anything.  So now lucky me gets to drive him 2 hours to the airport (in the city in traffic, so really 3 hours) and then back home, then another 2 in and 2 out to pick him up two days later. -_-  
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  • KGold80 said:
    I think it is so sweet that your mom is so excited for your wedding! Did she send you lots of pictures of stuff?
    She did!  She sent me two pictures while inside and then one outside in natural light of just the napkins.  She also started doing Skype chats with me just to show me the most random things she finds that she thinks I might like. 
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  • I'm late too! I feel so left out--what did I miss today!?
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  • I was also late to the party and now slightly confused- was the thread about sara's BSC bride story the one that all of this drama went down on (As that is also missing and Idk why, I saw the title changed to update from last night, got excited to read about more drama, then it was gone!!!) did someone take it too far and find BSC bride's site, and that's where the hateful stuff was posted, or was there a different thread posted by a newbie that I just missed in its entirety?  



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  • @lyndausvi yayyy new furbaby!  That is very exciting! 
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  • Yeah I decided to delete the post yesterday. Today just got so out of hand that I was worried that somebody would take it too far and actually contact my people. Too risky after seeing today's behavior.
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  • Who's banned? :(
  • Don't mean to take away from @KPBM89 awesome wedding details, but I'm super excited for @lyndausvi and the green light! We're going through the same thing now, furbaby #2.
  • KPBM89 said:
    @lyndausvi yayyy new furbaby!  That is very exciting! 
    Thanks we are excited, yet scared at the same time.  We have totally spoiled Chef, I'm more worried about him adjusting than the new dog.   That said, Chef is a good dog. We have dog sat  for 3+ weeks before and he has adjusted just fine.  This time it's not temporary.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • KPBM89 said:
    Essentially what I gathered from the E thread, someone asked for advice on a bad etiquette issue.  People gave the usual comments and then it somehow got out of hand, with people posting cell phone numbers and attacking her on her wedding website's guest book.  I've only noticed one person banned, and it makes me really sad if she was somehow a part of it.  I wasn't on during the action, so I don't know the deets, but that's generally what I understood.

    ETA:  I'm pretty sure it was unrelated to Sara's post.  She asked to have that removed to protect those people since their first names were posted.  As far as I know, no-one from TK said anything to the people from yesterday.
    Yeah I only read the first 3 pages of the crazy thread that blew up today before it was taken down, but basically the OP was freaking out that she hadn't put what is apparently Canada's "polite" way of asking for money on her invites for her wedding next year. ("Presentation Only", how this means the couple only want cash gifts is beyond me.)  She asked for advice on what to do since she left vital info off of her invites.  It started out with "that's a bad idea" "it's very rude to ask for cash" "just don't register and people will get the hint" to the OP claiming "all of Canada does this" and "it's just a regional thing/everyone she knows thinks it's totally okay and not rude at all".  This led to some more "no, seriously, that's rude" "just because everyone else did something does not make it okay" "please don't do that, just leave the invites as is". 

    This soon escalated into someone finding the OP's wedding website, posting her cell phone number from that site and leaving hate messages and also filling out the guest book with random knottie screen names along with very rude comments not endorsed by those users.  The KGs took it all out and promised to look into the IP address of the person who was posting on the wedding website to ban whomever was responsible.  If someone was banned, I can only conjecture they had something to do with the whole mess, which is terrible.  It's one thing to call out someone for rude behavior in the relative privacy of the knot forums, it's quite another to stalk them across the Internet.
  • Who's banned? :(
    I'm not sure if it was because of what happened today or not, but I will PM you the name of the user that I noticed was banned.
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  • Don't mean to take away from @KPBM89 awesome wedding details, but I'm super excited for @lyndausvi and the green light! We're going through the same thing now, furbaby #2.
    YAY!  When do you get yours?






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • Thanks for clearing that up for me!  I don't think a few of us looking at the Pinterest was as bad as what I've been reading in the other thread though, just because Pinterest is just as public as this forum- I actually randomly ran into another knottie on a pin, lol, small world!  Also we really did not mean harm and at that point, didn't realize how ridiculous people from this site could be- we were not malicious like the people who posted cell phone numbers on the thread and attacked the wedding website.  So while I definitely think we should be more careful about posting information, I don't think anyone should beat themselves up over it.
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  • FWIW, I don't believe that the person who posted the phone number was the same posting the hate mail on the guest book. That person made comments about not needing a TK login to read threads so I don't believe they were a member...actually one of the posts was named something about another wedding site, so I wonder if someone linked from there and they wanted to make TK look bad. And the person who posted the number admitted a momentary lapse in judgement and edited it out of her post, but had already been quoted. Thankfully nobody called/texted except for one kind knottie making sure she was ok.

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  • @lolo883 thank you for filling us in on that!  By the time I saw the after thread, the other was gone so I didn't get to see any of it.  I wonder if the person I'm noticing banned is the one who admitted the lapse and she was banned anyway?  
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  • Well it's a TOS violation either way. :(. I'll pm you her name, don't want to drag her through the mud publicly.

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  • KPBM89 said:
    @lolo883 thank you for filling us in on that!  By the time I saw the after thread, the other was gone so I didn't get to see any of it.  I wonder if the person I'm noticing banned is the one who admitted the lapse and she was banned anyway?  
    I guess I could see that happening.  What I can't believe is that she would attack the OP's wedding site.
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  • lolo883 said:
    Well it's a TOS violation either way. :(. I'll pm you her name, don't want to drag her through the mud publicly.
    Thank you!  I'm definitely avoiding mentioning any names on here.
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  • Also curious who was banned :/ though I should just stay out of it. 

    Also missed the drama but geez from the sound of it some people really need a life. Not like this is the first time, and Lord knows it won't be the last time that someone is attempting to ask for money. It's an etiquette faux pas, not a freaking federal crime case. 
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  • So much drama, so little time. Hopefully everything just dies down. I am glad that I had my thread deleted. It went too far, as well.
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