Things your FI does that makes you stabby

grumbledore

My FI is a total neat-freak, except for two things -- he leaves his clothes draped over a chair in our den every single day (and when asked why this is ok but me doing something similar on a different piece of furniture would be aneurysm-worthy, he has no explanation) and when he shaves his beard (which I love), there's always tiny stupid hairs all over the bathroom.  

ElcaB

FI leaves empty beer bottles on the counter, which makes me stabby because the RECYCLE IS UNDER THE SINK RIGHT NEXT TO THE COUNTER HE PLACES HIS EMPTY BEER BOTTLES ON. How much effort does opening the cabinet door and tossing your bottle in the recycle take? 

Also, he uses my hair dryer as a heater while he showers. He turns it on and props it up on the bathroom counter while he showers. First of all, this screams unsafe to me. Secondly, what a waste of resources. 

climbingsingle

ElcaB said:

FI leaves empty beer bottles on the counter, which makes me stabby because the RECYCLE IS UNDER THE SINK RIGHT NEXT TO THE COUNTER HE PLACES HIS EMPTY BEER BOTTLES ON. How much effort does opening the cabinet door and tossing your bottle in the recycle take? 

Also, he uses my hair dryer as a heater while he showers. He turns it on and props it up on the bathroom counter while he showers. First of all, this screams unsafe to me. Secondly, what a waste of resources. 

Wha?? I've never heard of someone doing that. Isn't he afraid of getting electrocuted? why does he need a heater while he showers? I'm so confused by this. 

themuffinman16

Another thing FI does that makes me stabby is he ALWAYS leaves the cupboard doors open... top and bottom... agggh. If I were a midget, I'd have endless concussions.  I am pretty tall, so my knees bear the brunt of it. Seriously though, you reach in the cupboard, take out a cereal bowl.... and is there a hazmat scare?  Do you have to evacuate the premises?  Are you fleeing a mafia hit? Zombie invasion? I try to think of all the possible scenarios where it would be okay to not close that door immediately after you take a bowl out... I got nothing! Lol

jenna8984

ClimbingBrideNY said:

ElcaB said:

FI leaves empty beer bottles on the counter, which makes me stabby because the RECYCLE IS UNDER THE SINK RIGHT NEXT TO THE COUNTER HE PLACES HIS EMPTY BEER BOTTLES ON. How much effort does opening the cabinet door and tossing your bottle in the recycle take? 

Also, he uses my hair dryer as a heater while he showers. He turns it on and props it up on the bathroom counter while he showers. First of all, this screams unsafe to me. Secondly, what a waste of resources. 

Wha?? I've never heard of someone doing that. Isn't he afraid of getting electrocuted? why does he need a heater while he showers? I'm so confused by this. 

I'm confused too!! Is it seriously so he doesn't have that 5 cold seconds between getting out and getting the towel? Because that's just ridiculous and they make ceiling lights that are heating bulbs lol  

cupcait927

themuffinman16 said:

Another thing FI does that makes me stabby is he ALWAYS leaves the cupboard doors open... top and bottom... agggh. If I were a midget, I'd have endless concussions.  I am pretty tall, so my knees bear the brunt of it. Seriously though, you reach in the cupboard, take out a cereal bowl.... and is there a hazmat scare?  Do you have to evacuate the premises?  Are you fleeing a mafia hit? Zombie invasion? I try to think of all the possible scenarios where it would be okay to not close that door immediately after you take a bowl out... I got nothing! Lol

Omg so much this. I feel like I spend half my life at home shutting cupboard doors. I will never, ever understand why you wouldn't just shut the door after you take something out of the cabinet. But this is the same kid that will come up behind me and shut the refridgerator on me if he thinks I've left the door open too long, despite me telling him that I'm still pulling things out for dinner.

emmaaa

Two things FI does that drives me insane. I'm an extremely clean person. Our house is always clean and I get really anxious when it isn't. Fi is good about helping me keep it clean. He doesn't do much inside cleaning but he does the dishes every day since I cook. But the one thing he does not do: put dirty laundry in the hamper. I specifically bought a hamper to put in our bedroom because the other one sits in the laundry room. But, no! He leaves his clothes in the bathroom floor or the bedroom floor. Drives me crazy!

The other is the snooze button. We both get up early but he gets up 1.5 hours before me (at least when his alarm goes off). He will hit snooze for 45 minutes. And of course I'm such a light sleeper I don't go back to sleep.

FiancB

FI has this weird hangup about the bed being made. When I do my near daily sweep through cleaning up, it's just not a big priority. I usually get to it, but not always. I figure yes it's nice to have it made but we're just going to get in it anyway. 

But he can come home and see piles of his clothes everywhere, random junk on the kitchen table, mail all over the counters, and the kitchen trashed from me cooking and his biggest concern is that the bed is not made. Really? 

I guess it's a good thing though because if I don't feel like doing real cleaning I can just take the 20 seconds to make the bed and his mind the house is clean. wtf. We joke about it so it's not so much a stabby thing as a wtf thing. 

SBmini

Actually I remember what really drives me crazy. He gets lazy and then easily overwhelmed by work that has piled up. It honestly makes me not want to ask him to help clean or weed because he always says "it's too much, it's too much work for us. We should hire someone". We'd be done right now if you stopped whining and got to work! Once he outs his head done and gets stuff done he's always so proud that he did the work... So I'm not sure why we do the same thing every few weeks.

larrygaga

He plays hockey in the house with his stick and tennis ball. He bounces it off the windows and walls and my head.

misscoffeeplease

When he trims his facial hair...those little itty bitty tiny facial hair is ALL over on his side of the sink. 

lyndausvi

ElcaB said:

FI leaves empty beer bottles on the counter, which makes me stabby because the RECYCLE IS UNDER THE SINK RIGHT NEXT TO THE COUNTER HE PLACES HIS EMPTY BEER BOTTLES ON. How much effort does opening the cabinet door and tossing your bottle in the recycle take? 

Also, he uses my hair dryer as a heater while he showers. He turns it on and props it up on the bathroom counter while he showers. First of all, this screams unsafe to me. Secondly, what a waste of resources. 

Finally I found the reason why manufacturers have to put the warning tag not to use dryer in the shower/bath. I seriously laugh then get sad there is that huge warning tag not to do that.

beachyone15

Mine is the same way with leaving all the cupboards open. I mean, really...why?!

Also, when we are getting ready to go somewhere, he'll sit on the couch until I'm ready, then I'll have to wait another 10 minutes for him to get ready...change his shirt, find his keys, etc. And I swear he waits until the last possible minute to put pants on!

smalfrie19

I found what FI does last night. He likes to make the loudest noises in the kitchen when I'm watching my shows. And also ask me questions about them. It's like "dude, shut up. I'm watching once upon a time. If you want to know about the show, watch it with me again."

abbyj700

MrsLynn said:

When he trims his facial hair...those little itty bitty tiny facial hair is ALL over on his side of the sink. 

Ugh...mine puts a towel down to catch his facial hair. And then proceeds to fold it up at times and leave it sitting somewhere in reach of the sink. So then I wash my face at night, pick up the hand towel - and cover my face in shavings...uck!

He's also a big baby when he's sick. If we both have the same illness, he stays home at lot, I go to work. And then when I get home I'm obviously the one well enough to cook dinner...*head shake*

cupcait927

sarah1551 said:

Mine is the same way with leaving all the cupboards open. I mean, really...why?!

Also, when we are getting ready to go somewhere, he'll sit on the couch until I'm ready, then I'll have to wait another 10 minutes for him to get ready...change his shirt, find his keys, etc. And I swear he waits until the last possible minute to put pants on!

Ahh I forgot about this one! He'll be up my butt about taking forever to get ready and then once I am, he'll realize he needs to put shoes on, use the bathroom, find his keys, wallet and phone and I'm just standing there like, really? You couldn't have done all of this 10 minutes ago when I said I was almost ready to go?

JCbride2015

ckel24 said:

sarah1551 said:

Mine is the same way with leaving all the cupboards open. I mean, really...why?!

Also, when we are getting ready to go somewhere, he'll sit on the couch until I'm ready, then I'll have to wait another 10 minutes for him to get ready...change his shirt, find his keys, etc. And I swear he waits until the last possible minute to put pants on!

Ahh I forgot about this one! He'll be up my butt about taking forever to get ready and then once I am, he'll realize he needs to put shoes on, use the bathroom, find his keys, wallet and phone and I'm just standing there like, really? You couldn't have done all of this 10 minutes ago when I said I was almost ready to go?

Gah, mine does this too!  All the time.  He makes so much fun of me that I take a long time to do my makeup when we're going out, but he'll just sit on the couch in his socks and sweatpants and then remember as we're going out the door that he needs to get his shit together and get dressed.  Ack!

pinkcow13

JCBride2014 said:

ckel24 said:

sarah1551 said:

Mine is the same way with leaving all the cupboards open. I mean, really...why?!

Also, when we are getting ready to go somewhere, he'll sit on the couch until I'm ready, then I'll have to wait another 10 minutes for him to get ready...change his shirt, find his keys, etc. And I swear he waits until the last possible minute to put pants on!

Ahh I forgot about this one! He'll be up my butt about taking forever to get ready and then once I am, he'll realize he needs to put shoes on, use the bathroom, find his keys, wallet and phone and I'm just standing there like, really? You couldn't have done all of this 10 minutes ago when I said I was almost ready to go?

Gah, mine does this too!  All the time.  He makes so much fun of me that I take a long time to do my makeup when we're going out, but he'll just sit on the couch in his socks and sweatpants and then remember as we're going out the door that he needs to get his shit together and get dressed.  Ack!

OMG, mine does this too! He's always rushing me to finish getting ready, and when I'm all ready to go all of a sudden he has to go to the bathroom. For #2. Which leads me to the fact that he seems to go #2 at the WORST times. He goes like 4 times a day, for one, and then decide he needs to go as we're leaving the house. Or right before our meal is delivered. Or when I want to take a freaking shower!

Also, he does our laundry - which is awesome. I fold and put away my clothes since I have them in a certain order. Well, whenever he does laundry he bugs me about putting away my clothes the minute he gets back, even if I'm in the middle of doing something. I'm going to put away my clothes, you don't need to remind me every 5 minutes! 

jdluvr06

I thought of another thing. FI likes to hunt and fish, which is fine. What I hate is that he gets up and goes early in the morning and he makes so much noise. He is seriously only like this when he goes hunting or fishing. It's like dude it is Saturday you might want to be up at five but I don't!

climbingsingle

I feel like my ex was so fucking annoying, that some of the stuff FI does pales in comparison. 

Ex: Never cleaned up after himself 

Left the tiny hairs all over the bathroom sink 

Had sleep apnea and would refused to wear his mask. His snoring was like nothing you've ever heard before. 

Had to sleep with the TV on every night. All night. 

After he showered, the entire bathroom was soaking wet 

Generally was a lazy motherfucker

It's amazing I broke up with him, right?

wandajune6

This reminds me of more things!

1. "Mexican Standard Time"- his term, not mine. It means that he's not late when he's an hour late.
2. Our agreed division of labor in the kitchen is that one person cooks, the other cleans. However, regardless of what job we're taking for the night, I'm always responsible for packing up leftovers and cleaning up the kitchen. Pisses me off like nobody's business.
3. His live-in teenaged son has been particularly wretched lately. He just ignores it and when I get upset, he laughs and tells me to ignore him and stop letting him get under my skin. He's probably right but I just want him to fix it already!
4. He refuses to toss the most disgusting jacket in the world. It's a Steve & Barry's special (meaning under $15) from 10 years ago and it's falling apart. We're talking about peeling plastic, holes, broken snaps, etc. Multiple people have bought him replacements but he keeps wearing it. It makes him look (and often smell) like he lives on the street. I got him to promise that he'd only wear it while working on cars but he can't seem to "remember" to keep the promise.  Grrrr

casey8784

mbross3 said:

BF unplugs everything. EVERYTHING. He works for a sustainable energy company and he's always been super conscious of his energy usage. I always had a few surge protectors and would turn them off when I remembered, but literally the biggest adjustment I had to make was realizing that everything would always be unplugged if we weren't currently using it. Basically everything is connected to surge protectors which are always off. It's actually saved me hundreds of dollars in electric bills (no joke) but I am still not used to it. Our biggest fight since we moved in together was over the damn coffee maker. I love coffee and BF never, ever drinks it and before we started dating he had never even made coffee once! Anyway, I get up early to get extra study time (so about 5:30 every morning) and I set my coffee maker to automatically go on and start brewing, except BF would go through the house and unplug everything the night before!! Which meant that I would come downstairs to find a cold coffee pot. We've since compromised and the coffee maker is the only thing that stays plugged in over night (except obviously the fridge is always plugged in)!

My FI is like this too! It's so annoying when I drag myself out of bed only to find that my electric toothbrush has no charge since FI unplugged it the night before. 

He's also anal about setting the thermostat (this past frigid winter I looked like an eskimo all bundled up in hoodies and blankets and he is perfectly comfortable in a t-shirt and shorts with the thermostat on 55 or 60! Brrrr...) at a temp that will keep the energy bills down, too....

cupcait927

pinkcow13 said:

JCBride2014 said:

ckel24 said:

sarah1551 said:

Mine is the same way with leaving all the cupboards open. I mean, really...why?!

Also, when we are getting ready to go somewhere, he'll sit on the couch until I'm ready, then I'll have to wait another 10 minutes for him to get ready...change his shirt, find his keys, etc. And I swear he waits until the last possible minute to put pants on!

Ahh I forgot about this one! He'll be up my butt about taking forever to get ready and then once I am, he'll realize he needs to put shoes on, use the bathroom, find his keys, wallet and phone and I'm just standing there like, really? You couldn't have done all of this 10 minutes ago when I said I was almost ready to go?

Gah, mine does this too!  All the time.  He makes so much fun of me that I take a long time to do my makeup when we're going out, but he'll just sit on the couch in his socks and sweatpants and then remember as we're going out the door that he needs to get his shit together and get dressed.  Ack!

OMG, mine does this too! He's always rushing me to finish getting ready, and when I'm all ready to go all of a sudden he has to go to the bathroom. For #2. Which leads me to the fact that he seems to go #2 at the WORST times. He goes like 4 times a day, for one, and then decide he needs to go as we're leaving the house. Or right before our meal is delivered. Or when I want to take a freaking shower!

Also, he does our laundry - which is awesome. I fold and put away my clothes since I have them in a certain order. Well, whenever he does laundry he bugs me about putting away my clothes the minute he gets back, even if I'm in the middle of doing something. I'm going to put away my clothes, you don't need to remind me every 5 minutes! 

All of the bolded - that is FI. And is the sole reason we bought a house with two bathrooms. It was so fucking annoying being kicked out of my own bathroom with my hair still half wet because all of a sudden he HAD to go. All the time. It's a running joke in our house now that I can have my own space but at the time, it was awful.

themuffinman16

ckel24 said:

pinkcow13 said:

JCBride2014 said:

ckel24 said:

sarah1551 said:

Mine is the same way with leaving all the cupboards open. I mean, really...why?!

Also, when we are getting ready to go somewhere, he'll sit on the couch until I'm ready, then I'll have to wait another 10 minutes for him to get ready...change his shirt, find his keys, etc. And I swear he waits until the last possible minute to put pants on!

Ahh I forgot about this one! He'll be up my butt about taking forever to get ready and then once I am, he'll realize he needs to put shoes on, use the bathroom, find his keys, wallet and phone and I'm just standing there like, really? You couldn't have done all of this 10 minutes ago when I said I was almost ready to go?

Gah, mine does this too!  All the time.  He makes so much fun of me that I take a long time to do my makeup when we're going out, but he'll just sit on the couch in his socks and sweatpants and then remember as we're going out the door that he needs to get his shit together and get dressed.  Ack!

OMG, mine does this too! He's always rushing me to finish getting ready, and when I'm all ready to go all of a sudden he has to go to the bathroom. For #2. Which leads me to the fact that he seems to go #2 at the WORST times. He goes like 4 times a day, for one, and then decide he needs to go as we're leaving the house. Or right before our meal is delivered. Or when I want to take a freaking shower!

Also, he does our laundry - which is awesome. I fold and put away my clothes since I have them in a certain order. Well, whenever he does laundry he bugs me about putting away my clothes the minute he gets back, even if I'm in the middle of doing something. I'm going to put away my clothes, you don't need to remind me every 5 minutes! 

All of the bolded - that is FI. And is the sole reason we bought a house with two bathrooms. It was so fucking annoying being kicked out of my own bathroom with my hair still half wet because all of a sudden he HAD to go. All the time. It's a running joke in our house now that I can have my own space but at the time, it was awful.

 

*stuck in the box

FI always argues with me that I have to live so high on the hog (because I want our house to have two bathrooms.)  I told him, I have to live like that because I have to live with someone who takes hour long marathons on the toilet.  Thus winning that argument. Lol

NavyBlue143

H has the habit of deciding to do a project as we are about to walk out the door. Whether it's bottling his home brew, doing leatherwork, making a minor repair, or my favorite, getting out the grinder and sawing off some rails on our over the door pantry organizer so the cats can use the cat door to the laundry room easier. As we are ready to leave for our anniversary trip to New Mexico. The thing had been hanging there for 5 effing years, we have a 9 hour drive to make, and you choose once the car is loaded and leys are in my hand to do it? After hounding me every 5 minutes asking if I'm almost ready, we have a long drive.

thisismynickname2

OMG.

I'm so happy for this thread. FI moved in this past weekend (clothes mostly; the movers come Friday for the big stuff) so for the first time in my adult live I am living with someone. 

Stuff I knew before he moved in: 

1. I'm the energy freak, so it annoys me that FI never turns the cable box off.  He turns the TV off, but not the cable box. That little yellow light stares me in the face, taunting me. 

2. He doesn't put the toothpaste back in the toothbrush/paste holder. 

3. He doesn't put the hair-dryer away. But, I found out that's because he thought it needed to cool off. I said, "The hairdryer? No. My straightener? Yes." Now he puts it away.  

Wish me luck, ladies. I think I'll need it. He and I both listen to reason (see exhibit 3 above), and we're both "everything has its place" people, so I think it'll be ok.  He was also considerate enough to stop snoozing for one hour and now we get 20-30 minutes of agreed-upon snooze time. 

He's the heavy sleeper and I'm the light sleeper, so I have no clue how things will go when it gets hot. I can sleep in a warm room and not with the noise of the AC... he can't.  Oh boy. 

ElcaB

ClimbingBrideNY said: ElcaB said: FI leaves empty beer bottles on the counter, which makes me stabby because the RECYCLE IS UNDER THE SINK RIGHT NEXT TO THE COUNTER HE PLACES HIS EMPTY BEER BOTTLES ON. How much effort does opening the cabinet door and tossing your bottle in the recycle take? 
Also, he uses my hair dryer as a heater while he showers. He turns it on and props it up on the bathroom counter while he showers. First of all, this screams unsafe to me. Secondly, what a waste of resources.  Wha?? I've never heard of someone doing that. Isn't he afraid of getting electrocuted? why does he need a heater while he showers? I'm so confused by this. 

@ClimbingBrideNY, he doesn't take it into the shower, but yes, I still worry about it being a safety concern. He says he gets cold, which I don't understand because it's not as if the coldness of jumping in the shower lasts long. I've given up on this argument! 

FiancB

NavyBlue143 said:

H has the habit of deciding to do a project as we are about to walk out the door. Whether it's bottling his home brew, doing leatherwork, making a minor repair, or my favorite, getting out the grinder and sawing off some rails on our over the door pantry organizer so the cats can use the cat door to the laundry room easier. As we are ready to leave for our anniversary trip to New Mexico. The thing had been hanging there for 5 effing years, we have a 9 hour drive to make, and you choose once the car is loaded and leys are in my hand to do it? After hounding me every 5 minutes asking if I'm almost ready, we have a long drive.

My dad did that! Every trip we'd take would end up postponed for a day or two because all of a sudden my dad thinks of 50 silly things that "need" to be done. Drives my mom completely batty.

buttercup1958

The number one thing mine does is explaining things. I love him dearly and I love it when he helps me, but dude I just want you to tell me if I did it right or not! We are both students, but he is really smart so I guess it may be my insecurity coming out. Like if I let him we can be on one thin section for an hour because he wants to explain everything and examine it to death haha.

thelastdreamer

FI and I are VERY similar in terms of household cleanliness things so he doesn't do too many things like that that bother me, it's more just like quirky personality traits, such as:

- Has to be EARLY to everything. I don't like being later either, but when we have 45 minutes before something 5 minutes away starts, you don't need to stand in the bathroom while I'm getting ready checking the time constantly. I get it, I'll be ready.