Moving stress ventilation

larrygaga

I am graduating and moving in a few weeks. I am moving about an 8 hour drive away. My entire family (about 16 people) are coming to see me graduate. I am not grateful even though I should be. It's just causing so much more stress. I only wanted my parents and FI. I have a weird 4 day gap from when my old lease ends and my new one begins, and since everyone is staying in a hotel for that entire weekend I'll just be couch surfing in the hotel rooms. However, my family won't allow me to be the ringleader for the weekend. Everyone is arguing about the best way to move my crap and the best places to hang out and the best way to cart everyone around and all my plans are getting overrun. They went to spend the entire weekend outside but it's still blizzarding out. You can't plan a picnic or hiking adventures right now. (I would be fine with it, but I'm used to the weather) It's just no. I get about 6 phone calls per day from various members of my family asking about changes in the plans for the weekend that I did not make. Nobody is on the same page and they are all trying to get there, but won't allow just one person to do it. It makes the most sense for me to do it because I know the town we are staying in for the weekend, I live there, I am the one graduating and moving and I am the one who has connections to every person that is coming. My FI says the weekend will be so memorable, and I told him it will be memorable as the weekend I axe murder my whole family. 

At this point I will just focus on packing and being happy and when that whole weekend goes to shit, everyone can blame themselves. I'll just lay around in the hotel room and watch tv.

I needed to ventilate. I am a control-freak and I get very stressed if times like these are not organized. You can imagine how much I am going to hate wedding planning. 

larrygaga

scribe95 said:

I am a control freak too. But sometimes it's cool just to relax and let the weekend flow. You don't have to plan everything to have fun. Years from now this sounds like it will be a great memory. Just breath and enjoy the time with your family. It's nice they are so supportive.

I know it's really cool they are supportive! Big families are a big pain in the ass though

larrygaga

At least I won't have to carry a ton of boxes and stuff, they can do that for me. 

wandajune6

I agree with the PP. Relax and breathe.

I'm a control freak who's had a few big university graduations/subsequent moves that have gone similarly to yours. Focus on your priorities.

Think about what absolutely must be done. There are 2 things you need to do: graduate and get your apartment emptied out. Take advantage of your family's willingness to help: moving boxes and cleaning the place out is huge - and be sure to clean the place enough to get back your security deposit (I've lived in enough college towns to know how horrible landlords are about security deposits when students are involved). 

Seriously- all you need to do is get out of your old apartment. The new one won't be going anywhere. Let the rest of it go. Where you sleep really isn't that important for 4 days- it's a PIA but not really that big of a deal in the scheme of things. Focus on the things that absolutely have to happen and try not to care about the rest.

larrygaga

Thanks! I feel better. I'm mostly annoyed by the constant phone calls and the fact that I feel like I have to entertain everyone with no real way to do that.