invite word HELP!

Jessi0215

Hey everyone... looking for some help/advice/ thoughts...
My fiance and I are primarily paying for our wedding ourselves, HOWEVER, my fiances parents are kicking in to help (so thankful for them and their generosity). My family has nothing to do with it. So, what wording would you suggest using in the case of bride, groom, and grooms parents footing the bill on invites? Anyone have a situation like this, and if so how'd you choose to word it?

HisGirlFriday13

Jessi0215 said:

Hey everyone... looking for some help/advice/ thoughts...
My fiance and I are primarily paying for our wedding ourselves, HOWEVER, my fiances parents are kicking in to help (so thankful for them and their generosity). My family has nothing to do with it. So, what wording would you suggest using in the case of bride, groom, and grooms parents footing the bill on invites? Anyone have a situation like this, and if so how'd you choose to word it?

Being listed on the invites is not indicative of who's paying. Wedding invitations are not like symphony programmes; being named in them doesn't mean you've donated enough money.

Invitations only properly list who is hosting (and hosting =/= paying, just to be clear). In this case, I would say, 'Together with their families...'

CMGragain

Assuming that it is NOT a church wedding:

The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of
Bride's Full Name
and
Groom's Full Name
Day, date
time o'clock
Venue
Address
City, State

or  (non-traditional)

Together with their families
Bride's Full Name
and
Groom's Full Name
request the pleasure of your company
as they are united in marriage  (etc.)

Jessi0215

Thank you we were thinking of something along the lines of, bride and groom together with grooms parents, request the pleasure of your company at .... now do I say our wedding or their wedding...

I originally thought the wording was indicative of who was footing the bill, thank you for that information!

CMGragain

I think the second example in my post answers your last question.

HisGirlFriday13

I get the feeling from your post that your FILs want to be recognised for their financial contributions.

The wording you suggested -- bride and groom together with the groom's family -- would suggest to me (at least) that your family doesn't approve of the marriage or of your FI.

I'm not saying that's true, but that's the impression I'd get from that wording.

Go with CMGR's wording. I get that your FILs want recognition for paying, but you don't want that at the expense of your family being alienated.