Save the Date / Invite for destination weddings

kauaiwolf

Hello fellow Brides (and possibly Grooms!)

I need some advice from all my fellow destination wedding-ers. I am getting married on Kauai next May and I need some help with my Save the Dates and Invitations. Do you send out a Save the Date/Invite to people invited to the Kauai wedding and then a separate Save the Date/Invite to people who are only invited to the reception back home? Or just combine it all on one?  I am not sure how I am supposed to do this. I also would LOVE advice on how to nicely tell people that they are not invited to our Kauai wedding. I have a ton of people asking when the date is so they can request the time off from work...and they are all people that I am not close with and would only invite to my WA reception. 

Any and all help would be greatly appreciated!!! Thank you in advance! 

 

HisGirlFriday13

kauaiwolf said:

Hello fellow Brides (and possibly Grooms!)

I need some advice from all my fellow destination wedding-ers. I am getting married on Kauai next May and I need some help with my Save the Dates and Invitations. Do you send out a Save the Date/Invite to people invited to the Kauai wedding and then a separate Save the Date/Invite to people who are only invited to the reception back home? Or just combine it all on one?  I am not sure how I am supposed to do this. I also would LOVE advice on how to nicely tell people that they are not invited to our Kauai wedding. I have a ton of people asking when the date is so they can request the time off from work...and they are all people that I am not close with and would only invite to my WA reception. 

Any and all help would be greatly appreciated!!! Thank you in advance! 

 

If they are separate events, they get separate STDates and invitations.

For the Kauai wedding, I would sent STDates soon -- typically between 10 and 12 months before the wedding, and the more time you can give people, the better.

Then send out invitations 6 to 8 weeks in advance of the wedding.

For your AHR (and please tell me this adheres to all the bounds of propriety and is just a party, not a re-creation of your DW), simply send people invites 6 to 8 weeks out that say:

'You are cordially invited to a reception for kauaiwolf and DH at time/date/place to celebrate their marriage, which took place on time/date/place.'

As far as people asking about when the wedding is, just say, 'We having finalised the guest list yet,' or 'We're keeping the wedding small -- family and very close friends only, I'm sure you understand.'

If they then feel badly for having asked and are embarrassed, well, that's what you get for assuming you'd be invited to someone else's wedding.

CMGragain

Sorry, but you only get one wedding reception, and that is on Kauai.  You send Save the Dates and invitations to people who are invited to your wedding and wedding reception.
The later party is not a part of your wedding at all.  It is a party to celebrate your recent marriage.  You send out separate invitations for it, just as you would for any party.  Please do not try and turn this into a second wedding reception.
You might want to send out wedding announcements after your marriage from Kauai.  These go to people who are not invited to your wedding, but who might be invited to the later party.  They are very simply worded, and are mailed after the ceremony.

Bride's Full Name
and
Groom's Full Name
announce their marriage
Date
City, Hawaii