Hello! I have not sent out my invitations yet (my wedding is this Sept), but from sending Save the Dates, we already had some people mention to us they won't be able to attend. Should we still send them the formal invitations? I'm particularly wondering about a friend of mine who is moving to Dubai (why she can't come!)...I want her to feel included and everything, but getting special international postage for the invite and response card to be able to mail her the invite in Dubai, when I already know she can't make it, seems sort of silly. But I want to do the right thing! Any input or advice would be much appreciated. Is there an etiquette when it comes to including people who already mentioned they can't make it?
Re: Send invite even if someone already knows they can't make it?
If it makes you feel better, follow up with an email saying you just wanted to include her and sent it out of whishful thinking.
We are doing destination wedding and after our STD's we knew pretty much who was coming or not. There were a couple people still unsure, but we actually had some form of communication from everyone about if they planned to attend before we sent out formal invites. At that time, we were expecting only 30-40 out of 80 people that were on our guest list. We still sent out invites to all 80 people. We even had some people that we included on guest list that we knew wouldn't be able to travel due to health reasons and knew from the start that they couldn't attend. Even if they can't attend, it's still nice to get the invite and info. And sometimes people's plans change and they may be able to attend after all.
Plus, like KGold80 said, the official etiquette stance is that anyone who gets STD should also receive invite, even if they can't attend.