SO: Did your H help you write thank you notes?

annathy03

H is writing the ones for his family and friends, I'm handling my friends and family plus all of our mutual friends, so while it isn't an even split he's doing probably 40% of the wedding thank you notes.  I did all of them for the shower, but while the gifts are for us the shower is definitely for the bride so I felt those were my responsibility.

tammym1001

I will end up doing all of ours. I can do them at work though so it isn't a big deal and we have a small guest list. If I have to wait for FI to do them in the little bit of time that he's actually at home then they won't get done and in the end I will have to do them anyways because I will stress myself out about it and then they will be really late.

chibiyui

MagicInk said:

JCbride2015 said:

SO of a SO: do you guys use return address labels or a stamp?  And did you get a new one immediately if you changed your name when you got married?

We're planning on getting some new one's printed and FI wants to use her new last name on them. We'll probably order then prior to the wedding so we have them for thank you notes post wedding.

I have a stamp with only our first names on them. I might get one with our last name after the wedding, or I might just wait till after we move, but tgats a fewyears down the road.

ShadeofGreen816

chibiyui said:

JCbride2015 said:

SO of a SO: do you guys use return address labels or a stamp?  And did you get a new one immediately if you changed your name when you got married?

I got a stamp on Etsy with just our first names and address that I used on the STDs. Its super cute and I'm borderline obsessed with it - I'm a stationary and paper nerd! I will be using that on our TYs - although I had to send 4 TYs out last week to thank FIs family for building us a new deck (their wedding present) and I totally used some cheap ass labels that the insurance co gave me. Kinda tacky but I was trying to get them together before work at 5:30am and I decided not to care. 

In that vein, I will almost definitely be writing 90%+ of the thank yous. I'm also a control freak a little about those types of things and FI has bad handwriting. Plus, he grew up living on the same street as most of his family, so there wasn't a lot of TY practice going on - you called or walked over to someones house to thank them in person…

adverb1129

We've got a date to get the rest of our TY notes done this week.  Both of us will have an equal amount of assigned TYs.  While I understand that many Knotties are perfectionists and/or really love writing TY notes I dislike the societal expectation that, in heterosexual relationships, women are supposed to be the thoughtful ones.

I was reminding my husband to call and wish his uncle a happy birthday or send him a card and his cousin said, "Oh but that's your job!"  It really burned me up >:(  Sorry for the derail.

In better news, my husband was so excited to design and order our TY notes!  They came in the mail and look beautiful.

winelover123

We split it. I did all the TYs for our engagement party and my shower and didn't want to do them all for the wedding. H did his family, I did mine and we split our friends.  

LadyMillil

He did most of his family and friends. He is also doing the TYs for the family in Europe because I suck at writing in French. It probably ended up being 60% me, 40% him, but he also took them all to the post office.

I would love a return address stamp. I don't have one yet because we are probably moving soon, so I wrote everything by hand.

Cookie Pusher

If FI wrote our thank yous, no one would be able to read them, not even him! I also have way more down-time at work than he does, so I will likely do all the cards. He will, however, go buy the stamps, affix the stamps, and then drop the cards off at the post office.

wandajune6

FI will try to argue that his culture doesn't do TY notes and say that his friends and family wouldn't think them odd. I think that's a bullshit argument and will give in and do them myself.

Really, he's a lousy writer and feels self-conscious about it.

I agree that it's horrible that I would take care of them alone though he'll get some other equally undesirable chore in exchange.

I've been picking up TY cards whenever I see them on sale/clearance somewhere. None will match but I've got a bunch of adorable cards now!

HisGirlFriday13

wandajune6 said:

FI will try to argue that his culture doesn't do TY notes and say that his friends and family wouldn't think them odd. I think that's a bullshit argument and will give in and do them myself.

Really, he's a lousy writer and feels self-conscious about it.

I agree that it's horrible that I would take care of them alone though he'll get some other equally undesirable chore in exchange.

I've been picking up TY cards whenever I see them on sale/clearance somewhere. None will match but I've got a bunch of adorable cards now!

I bought a ton of monogram cards on clearance at Target -- some with my maiden initial (used those for the showers), some with our married monogram (used those for the wedding), some with just generic floral patterns on them, some with generic geometric patterns on them.

They didn't match, but they were cute, and I've been able to use them up since our marriage. I also figured anyone who fussed about the exterior design of the TYs was just looking for something to fuss over.

countrygirl061513

We didn't have that many that needed to be done, so I just did them one afternoon while hubby was at work. I have been doing the ones for all the baby stuff we have gotten also.