So, I followed everyone's advice on here and asked my MOH and two BMs privately what their budget is for their dresses. Their response: "whatever you pick is fine." Ummm, give me a hard number guys, $500? $300? $1? "Nope, anything is fine, I'm good with whatever". Needless to say I was head-desking the situation! When I realized they weren't going to give me numbers, I thought it would be a good idea to make an appointment in June (six months out from the wedding) to try on dresses and if there was something that everyone agreed on, there would be enough time for people to get money together if they needed to and they could order dresses in November if they needed to. I couldn't figure out any other situation. FWIW, I told them that I was going to go to Alfred Angelo for BM dresses since they get $20 or $25 off the price of their dresses and the prices ranged from $99-$179 BEFORE alterations. They were okay with this.
Before I made the appointment I asked if there were any weekends that people weren't available and I was able to get everyone together for June 7th and I made the appointment. Saturday I texted everyone because I was excited and I also wanted to see if they all wanted to go and to see if they wanted to go get brunch after. I get a various number of responses back as to why they can't make it now. They ranged from TTC to craft beer festival to anniversary of FIL's death so I'm going to pull strings and say 2/3 of the excuses were valid. If I'm invited to the craft beer festival all of the excuses are valid
Now that no one can make it and I'm (as long as a lot of people during the summer)booked up until Labor Day do I 1) wait until September when I have availability in my schedule 2) pick a length, color and fabric and let them pick (even though I wanted them to match) or 3) pick a dress and tell them that's what I'm picking without them trying it on?