I have a lovingly annoying mother-in-law. We get along great, but she's got a number of quirks that make you not necessarily want to spend buckets of time with her. She rambles, she brings it all back to her, she's not the most sensitive....
Things associated with my dress have been the most stressful part of my wedding. I love my dress, but I hated shopping, feel self conscious about my body, and most wedding meltdowns are dress-related.
I am using a local seamstress, and have my second fitting coming up. I'm a bit worried about whether the bustle is going to come out right, so I have asked a trusted friend to come. I considered asking FMIL, but know she will annoy the piss out of me at a stressful time, she has terrible taste anyway, and I'm sensitive to the fact that my own mother who is out of state can't be there. I contemplated including FMIL for about 42 seconds before deciding I would rather stab my own eyes out.
I recommended my FMIL call my seamstress for alterations for her own dress. In making the appointment for FMIL, seamstress realized she was booking on the Monday after my second fitting and just suggested she just come along on my second fitting appointment! WTF! If I had wanted her there I would have invited her! I cannot believe that she would have suggested such a thing without more sensitivity!
What to do, ladies? I think FMIL realized that I was not overjoyed at this turn of events. Am I forced to suck this up? Is there anyway to gracefully undo this without offending FMIL? Can I just come clean to FMIL that the dress is a big source of stress and I'd rather stick with my original plan? Can I read seamstress the riot act without having her wreck my dress?