Can I just say, I really hate this gluten free food obsession that people have now. I get food allergies. Really, I do. I'm allergic to shellfish. If I eat anything with the tiniest bit of shellfish in it, hospital for me. And I recognize that there are some people who are legitimately allergic to gluten. However, FI's aunt is not one of them.
She did not send her RSVP, but emailed us to tell us that she and her son were coming but they are gluten free. Great! FI hasn't seen his cousin in years because he lives on the other side of the country. But no plated meal selection. Instead, questions: Is either meal gluten free? (checking with caterer) If not, can we get a gluten free meal? (No, you are not allergic. I watched you eat a bunch of bread the last time I saw you. You have just hopped on the latest diet craze. It would cost us an additional $1 per entree served to add another choice just for you. You can pick the breading off the chicken if it bothers you that much.)
Also, your son is 19-years-old. He doesn't even live with you. He can pick his own damn meal and eat gluten if he wants to. (He's not allergic either.)
Fortunately, FI agrees with me. His response: "My give-a-shit on this is minimal. I'm more concerned about the lighting. Tell the chef to give her a plate of twigs and leaves."
She even whined that the cake will not be gluten free (although she "graciously" told me not to worry about it.) Funny thing about this is, we will also have a gluten free dessert. Our venue includes a dessert as a part of our meal package, so we chose to have gelato - because who doesn't like cake and ice cream. I didn't mention to her that this would be an option.
Edited - typo in original title