I am getting married in DC and we have one guest who lives in Japan now. My fiance and I have known him since we were younger and we invited his parents. We sent both his parents and him a save the date, now how do I go about the invitations. I would assume his RSVP would be a NO because just to come back for our wedding is expensive and also haven't seen him in like 6 years. Do I send him an invitation anyways or should I kindly ask him if coming is even a remote possiblity so I don't have to waste an invitation? Also if asking if he is coming or not is the way to go, how would I go about it? I don't want to seem rude that he has to answer right away or feel obligated to send a gift if he gets an invitation,etc