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emmaaa

I came for the puppies.

PrettyGirlLost

pinkshorts27 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

You need to get over this.

He booked the cruise before you sent out your STDs. It doesn't matter that you verbally told him what date you wanted to get married back in November; 1st, at that time you were basically just pulling a date out of your ass bc no one officially has set a wedding date until they have actually signed a contract and put a deposit down on their venues, and 2nd why in the world would you think your friend would remember your dating anniversary? !

It has nothing to do with him being a guy as PPs have suggested, and everything to do with the fact that your dating anniversary is totally irrelevant to him unless he's dating you!

Omg this so much. @PrettyGirlLost‌

Guys are not naturally forgetful, rude, lazy, and/or messy because of a penis they possess. So can we please get over those particular stereotypes? It is rude and demeaning to guys and girls. I'm not going to lower my expectations just because I'm dealing with a guy. (Not in reference to the OP, which was out of line).

If you told my FI that he couldn't remember a date, he would laugh. He remembers so much better than me and always remembers my birthday and our dating anniversary, which I often forget. My dad remembers anniversaries better than my mom and removers when they started dating, when he bought the ring, and the day he proposed. My mom has no clue, because dates aren't important to her.

We are at an age when women can vote and men can be stray at home dads. We should be able to get past these hurtful stereotypes. I'm pretty sure they don't forget things because of their penis. Different people have different priorities. If your guy forgets your anniversary that is because of his personality and priorities, not because he is male.

I'm tired if this. It is similar to the stereotype that men dint want to plan weddings. I know a few women in my life who would rather not plan a wedding, they just aren't on this board for obvious reasons.

Yeah. You can't pull a date out of your ass at some random event, and then just expect everyone to remember it- man or woman. Hence the point of STDs. And without having anything booked, the date is irrelevant and could change based on venue and vendor availability.

Not to mention the fact that who among us even knows, let alone would remember, a friend's dating anniversary? Oh, no one.

emmaaa

lolo883 said:

pinkshorts27 said:

I don't even know my own dating anniversary, I'm certainly not going to remember a friend's.  

I don't even remember most of my friends' wedding anniversaries.  I'm bad at birthdays too. 

This, to OP.

FI and I met at a party at my best friend's house less than 2 years ago, and even she doesn't remember the date.

FI and I meet before Kindergarten. Man, I should have really tried to remeber the date. 

ShellD13

I know this is a DD and the OP is long gone but thank you ladies!  I actually lost a few friends over a similar occurrence.  I was friends with 3 ladies, and 1 of the ladies got engaged to the brother of one of the other ladies.  They got engaged, showed off the ring and mentioned the wedding date they were planning.

Well my church was planning a once in a lifetime opportunity to travel abroad and I booked it, it was such a great opportunity I didn't even think twice.  STDs had not gone out yet. 

We were at dinner together shortly afterwards and I realize that I will now be OOT for their wedding.  All three women started treating me like I was a leper.  It became this huge brouhaha about how little respect I had for the bride, how I didn't value their friendship, I should have remembered the date, etc....

Oh well the damage was done...

 

beethery

See, FI and I know the date of day we met, because it was new years eve.

FI doesn't specifically remember meeting me, because he was fucking PLASTERED and later tried to exit the building from a 3rd story window.

I sure the hell wouldn't expect anyone to remember our dating anniversary because that is fucking ridiculous.

lilacck28

Even if the STDs had gone out first (which was the information I was operating under on the other board), there's STILL no reason to ruin a friendship just because a friend makes other plans on your wedding day. Be a little upset, and then move on. 

KatWAG

Ugh, I thought this was going to be an X-rated post. Disappointed.

thisismynickname2

AddieCake said:

I'd be pretty upset, too, unless he booked it before he got your STD.

STUCK IN BOX

Since the DD happened before I got here, I read Addie's message and am wondering about booking something before getting a sexually transmitted disease.  

theartistformerlyknownas

thisismynickname said:

AddieCake said:

I'd be pretty upset, too, unless he booked it before he got your STD.

STUCK IN BOX

Since the DD happened before I got here, I read Addie's message and am wondering about booking something before getting a sexually transmitted disease.  

Bwahahaha... yeah, if you gave me an STD I likely wouldn't go to your wedding.

mysticl

Musikalbunni said:

My husband is so good with dates. Majored in History, so he is a little savant about dates. 

Me? Not so much. The other day he was like, "happy 6 weeks of marriage!" I told him I go by years now, not like those moms who keep saying their kid is 16 months and force me to do math. I'm a Bad Wife. 

Anyway, I am not good with dates at all. I have a monthly calendar I scribble on and keep in front of my eyeballs at work because I always forget what I'm suppose to be doing. 

I also came for the sex (that's what she said!) and the puppies... 

ETA: misplaced apostrophe. 

We do that because everything you do regarding your child is based on their age in months up to the 2nd birthday.  Doctor's appointments, vaccines, playgroups, story time, swim lessons, what milestones they have reached, etc.  So you get used to rattling of the months.  

mysticl

Musikalbunni said:

mysticl said:

Musikalbunni said:

My husband is so good with dates. Majored in History, so he is a little savant about dates. 

Me? Not so much. The other day he was like, "happy 6 weeks of marriage!" I told him I go by years now, not like those moms who keep saying their kid is 16 months and force me to do math. I'm a Bad Wife. 

Anyway, I am not good with dates at all. I have a monthly calendar I scribble on and keep in front of my eyeballs at work because I always forget what I'm suppose to be doing. 

I also came for the sex (that's what she said!) and the puppies... 

ETA: misplaced apostrophe. 

We do that because everything you do regarding your child is based on their age in months up to the 2nd birthday.  Doctor's appointments, vaccines, playgroups, story time, swim lessons, what milestones they have reached, etc.  So you get used to rattling of the months.  

I know...I'm pretty sure I'll do that when I have my own. In the meantime, I always have to take a few seconds to do the math and then I'm like, "oh okay..." 

I have gotten weird looks from hostesses at buffets when they are trying to figure out if they should charge us for my son.  That's when I go "he's one".  

BreMR

I came for the potential porn when I saw the XXX'.s  

Sorely disappointed.

theartistformerlyknownas

mysticl said:

Musikalbunni said:

mysticl said:

Musikalbunni said:

My husband is so good with dates. Majored in History, so he is a little savant about dates. 

Me? Not so much. The other day he was like, "happy 6 weeks of marriage!" I told him I go by years now, not like those moms who keep saying their kid is 16 months and force me to do math. I'm a Bad Wife. 

Anyway, I am not good with dates at all. I have a monthly calendar I scribble on and keep in front of my eyeballs at work because I always forget what I'm suppose to be doing. 

I also came for the sex (that's what she said!) and the puppies... 

ETA: misplaced apostrophe. 

We do that because everything you do regarding your child is based on their age in months up to the 2nd birthday.  Doctor's appointments, vaccines, playgroups, story time, swim lessons, what milestones they have reached, etc.  So you get used to rattling of the months.  

I know...I'm pretty sure I'll do that when I have my own. In the meantime, I always have to take a few seconds to do the math and then I'm like, "oh okay..." 

I have gotten weird looks from hostesses at buffets when they are trying to figure out if they should charge us for my son.  That's when I go "he's one".  

I don't mind it up to 24 months, because it's easy enough to tell what's between 12 and 24 and think either "just turned one," "one and a half-ish" or "almost 2" in my head. And there's a big difference, developmentally, between 1 and 2 so I can understand not just saying they're one. But when people mention things like having a 37 month old I'm just like "bish he's 3."

mysticl

lolo883 said:

mysticl said:

Musikalbunni said:

mysticl said:

Musikalbunni said:

My husband is so good with dates. Majored in History, so he is a little savant about dates. 

Me? Not so much. The other day he was like, "happy 6 weeks of marriage!" I told him I go by years now, not like those moms who keep saying their kid is 16 months and force me to do math. I'm a Bad Wife. 

Anyway, I am not good with dates at all. I have a monthly calendar I scribble on and keep in front of my eyeballs at work because I always forget what I'm suppose to be doing. 

I also came for the sex (that's what she said!) and the puppies... 

ETA: misplaced apostrophe. 

We do that because everything you do regarding your child is based on their age in months up to the 2nd birthday.  Doctor's appointments, vaccines, playgroups, story time, swim lessons, what milestones they have reached, etc.  So you get used to rattling of the months.  

I know...I'm pretty sure I'll do that when I have my own. In the meantime, I always have to take a few seconds to do the math and then I'm like, "oh okay..." 

I have gotten weird looks from hostesses at buffets when they are trying to figure out if they should charge us for my son.  That's when I go "he's one".  

I don't mind it up to 24 months, because it's easy enough to tell what's between 12 and 24 and think either "just turned one," "one and a half-ish" or "almost 2" in my head. And there's a big difference, developmentally, between 1 and 2 so I can understand not just saying they're one. But when people mention things like having a 37 month old I'm just like "bish he's 3."

Yeah, no.  Mine is almost 22 months and I'm starting to have trouble keeping track of it.  The only way I'm using months after he turns 2 is if someone (like the doctor) specifically needs it and there will most likely be counting on my fingers involved.  

PrettyGirlLost

mysticl said:

lolo883 said:

mysticl said:

Musikalbunni said:

mysticl said:

Musikalbunni said:

My husband is so good with dates. Majored in History, so he is a little savant about dates. 

Me? Not so much. The other day he was like, "happy 6 weeks of marriage!" I told him I go by years now, not like those moms who keep saying their kid is 16 months and force me to do math. I'm a Bad Wife. 

Anyway, I am not good with dates at all. I have a monthly calendar I scribble on and keep in front of my eyeballs at work because I always forget what I'm suppose to be doing. 

I also came for the sex (that's what she said!) and the puppies... 

ETA: misplaced apostrophe. 

We do that because everything you do regarding your child is based on their age in months up to the 2nd birthday.  Doctor's appointments, vaccines, playgroups, story time, swim lessons, what milestones they have reached, etc.  So you get used to rattling of the months.  

I know...I'm pretty sure I'll do that when I have my own. In the meantime, I always have to take a few seconds to do the math and then I'm like, "oh okay..." 

I have gotten weird looks from hostesses at buffets when they are trying to figure out if they should charge us for my son.  That's when I go "he's one".  

I don't mind it up to 24 months, because it's easy enough to tell what's between 12 and 24 and think either "just turned one," "one and a half-ish" or "almost 2" in my head. And there's a big difference, developmentally, between 1 and 2 so I can understand not just saying they're one. But when people mention things like having a 37 month old I'm just like "bish he's 3."

Yeah, no.  Mine is almost 22 months and I'm starting to have trouble keeping track of it.  The only way I'm using months after he turns 2 is if someone (like the doctor) specifically needs it and there will most likely be counting on my fingers involved.  

Then let the doctor do the math himself/herself.

The months thing is ridiculous once a child turns 3, and personally I find it ridiculous up until then as well.

rajahmd

pinkshorts27 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

You need to get over this.

He booked the cruise before you sent out your STDs. It doesn't matter that you verbally told him what date you wanted to get married back in November; 1st, at that time you were basically just pulling a date out of your ass bc no one officially has set a wedding date until they have actually signed a contract and put a deposit down on their venues, and 2nd why in the world would you think your friend would remember your dating anniversary? !

It has nothing to do with him being a guy as PPs have suggested, and everything to do with the fact that your dating anniversary is totally irrelevant to him unless he's dating you!

Omg this so much. @PrettyGirlLost‌

Guys are not naturally forgetful, rude, lazy, and/or messy because of a penis they possess. So can we please get over those particular stereotypes? It is rude and demeaning to guys and girls. I'm not going to lower my expectations just because I'm dealing with a guy. (Not in reference to the OP, which was out of line).

If you told my FI that he couldn't remember a date, he would laugh. He remembers so much better than me and always remembers my birthday and our dating anniversary, which I often forget. My dad remembers anniversaries better than my mom and removers when they started dating, when he bought the ring, and the day he proposed. My mom has no clue, because dates aren't important to her.

We are at an age when women can vote and men can be stray at home dads. We should be able to get past these hurtful stereotypes. I'm pretty sure they don't forget things because of their penis. Different people have different priorities. If your guy forgets your anniversary that is because of his personality and priorities, not because he is male.

I'm tired if this. It is similar to the stereotype that men dint want to plan weddings. I know a few women in my life who would rather not plan a wedding, they just aren't on this board for obvious reasons.

I love you so much right now.

Viczaesar

BreMR said:

I came for the potential porn when I saw the XXX'.s  

Sorely disappointed.

Gives a whole new twist to the phrase 'dirty delete,' eh?

pinkshorts27

@RajahBMFD‌ Ah, thanks

JoanE2012

KatWAG said:

Ugh, I thought this was going to be an X-rated post. Disappointed.

Me too!!

pinkshorts27

And juat to clarify because I can't edit, I meant "stay at home dads". I mean they can be stray dads too, but that seems less fun. Silly mobile typing

APDSS22

I remember when I met my husband because it happens to be a repeat date (9/9) otherwise I would've forgotten. I can't tell you any of my friends' anniversaries except the wedding anniversary of the friend who got married the day after I did.  Because it was less than 24 hours after I got married and I was bummed I couldn't make it to her wedding.

I also came expecting something naughty.

CMGragain

Tonight is my 38th wedding anniversary.   I remember the date we were married, but I have absolutely no idea of any  other romantic dates.  We met in church when we were 15.  Dated for two years, and I dumped him senior year, 1969.  We decided to get married sometime in April 1976 after four days together.  I don't remember the date.  It isn't important.  I try to remember my relatives' birthdays, but I have them written down somewhere.  Dates are no big deal, unless your driver's license is expiring soon.

theartistformerlyknownas

CMGragain said:

Tonight is my 38th wedding anniversary.   I remember the date we were married, but I have absolutely no idea of any  other romantic dates.  We met in church when we were 15.  Dated for two years, and I dumped him senior year, 1969.  We decided to get married sometime in April 1976 after four days together.  I don't remember the date.  It isn't important.  I try to remember my relatives' birthdays, but I have them written down somewhere.  Dates are no big deal, unless your driver's license is expiring soon.

Happy anniversary!!

lovesclimbing

I was expecting a discussion of sex and/or porn.

CMGragain

I think that is what DH has in mind to celebrate our anniversary.  I did get dinner at Red Lobster!

offensivekitten2

The only reason I know my dating anniversary date is that I accidentally scheduled our wedding on it.  My DH is always the one who remembers our anniversary.  I guess kittens are just bad with numbers.

ShellD13

@offensivekitten2 - OMgoodness I love that first gif!  Too cute!