Figure Flattering Tattoo? Potentially NSFW

KatWAG

lkristenj said:

It seems like tattooing a name or initials of an SO on you is like a curse.

Nah, I dont believe in curses. H and I have a great marriage, but if for some reason we get divorced, I can have the tattoo removed. And yes, I know that there is scaring when you remove a tattoo

PrettyGirlLost

I don't have any tattoos so maybe my opinion doesn't count, but I would not think adding tattoos, which will draw your eye and attention to wherever they are placed, would be slimming if you are bigger in the waist and hip area.  In fact, having tats in that area will have the opposite effect.

Also, if I were a woman considering having kids, I would not get any tattoos in the vicinity of my hips, abdomen, etc as chances are they would be distorted and stretched during pregnancy and not go back to normal.

I enjoy seeing other people's tattoos, although there have been many times where I look at a person and go "WTF were they thinking?!"  I have seen some really bad ink on ppl ><

doeydo

I wouldn't just get a tattoo for the sole purpose of trying to look thinner or better.  I was asking because I was thinking of size and placement.  A couple things that I want to get at some point, for example, include gladiola flowers or a cardinal in honour of a loved one (her favourite flower and bird) and my cat's portrait or footprint.  

doeydo

Thanks everyone for your opinions.  I do not plan on having kids, and if for some reason I changed my mind, I would want to adopt, have a surrogate, or it would be my partner having the baby (if I was with a woman at the time).

VulgarGirl

Jessa617

@KatWAG  For your first tattoo, and if you are really concerned about disappointing your family, I would pick a different spot. I would also suggest staying away from names and initials. I thought I had met my soul mate, got his initials (inconspicuously) tattooed on my ankle, we married, and were divorced a year later. Not saying that would happen to you, I am just now against initials. 

How about something that's meaningful for the two of you, a phrase, or an object and you can get something that's a little more symbolic than just initials... 

Just my thoughts and only my opinion. In the end, do what you want. It's your decision and your body. 

ETA: 

Also, I wouldn't get a tattoo knowing that I could "get it removed someday". The point of a tattoo is to have something meaningful that you plan on having the rest of your life. Tattoo removal is painful, expensive, and a long process. Even "cover-ups" don't always end well. 

VulgarGirl

@KatWAG, I'm not a huge fan of names/intial tattoos in general. Even when parents do it for their kids, just not my style. However, FI and I have matching tattoos, so while I'm not a name/initial fan, I'm not totally against a tattoo that represents your relationship. Yes, something could go wrong and the question then becomes can you look at the tattoo and remember your happy times together or will you only look at it and feel resentment? Only you know the answer to that question.

As for disappointing family well...I've already disappointed a lot of my family. My tattoos are the least of their problems with me. But I've got a fuck 'em all attitude. I'd be really disappointed in someone who didn't like me for something as small as having tattoos. A tattoo does not change who a person is. It does not make them less of a person. It does not take away their talent, skill, or intelligence. It does not make them unkind. It is simply a portable and hopefully meaningful piece of art.

VulgarGirl

CMGragain said:

I do not understand tattoos.  I don't think they look good on anybody.  This, of course, is completely my own opinion.  I don't like multiple piercings, un-natural hair coloring, or heavy eye makeup, either, but this is all personal taste.
It is your body, and you have the right to mess it up if you want to.  Just remember that future surgical scars can change the look of those tattoos.

I've done a lot of things that could mess up my body. I drink, I eat junk food, I forget sunscreen sometimes, I wear heels all the fucking time, I even used smoke on occasion (never a regular smoker). But my tattoos? Those haven't messed up my body in any way shape or form. 

Yes as I age my skin and my tattoos will change shape. That's part of aging. I accept that and I'm worried about it. I once did a full leg tattoo on a 93 year old woman who had never gotten a tattoo for fear of what it'd look like down the road. According to her she got down the road, her skin still sagged and she still wanted a fucking tattoo.

One of my favorite clients was a young woman (only about 4 or 5 years older then me) who'd had a double mastectomy. She wasn't interested in reconstructive surgery but came in because she "wanted to decorate her scars". We didn't hide them, we added to them. Beautiful swirling patterns of color, with stars because she loved stars, worked in. It looked fantastic when we were done. 

Perhaps you don't find beauty in tattoos. And that's fine. I don't find landscape paintings to be all that great. But that doesn't mean there isn't beauty in them. That 93 year old who sat in my chair found beauty in her first tattoo. And that young woman who survived breast cancer, found beauty in her tattoos. When I trace the rose on my FI's hip, I find beauty in that. To judge that we've ruined our bodies, when we see them as being all the more beautiful with their fancy decorations, is just so...wrong in so many ways.

AddieCake

1. I love my tattoo and plan to get more. 

2. I do not think those tats in the OP are slimming.

3.  I think getting a SO's name or initials tattooed on yourself is a bad idea. 

Liatris2010

I don't think the tattoos posted (with the exception of OffensiveKitten's) are slimming, those just draw attention to the love handles. But, I do think they could be slimming, by creating a longer line visually. I love, love tattoos, but am not a fan of writing in general, and especially not someone's name (unless you birthed them, then I guess it is okay). I also think the inside of the wrist is a bad place for a tattoo if you aren't in a family and career that is tattoo-friendly. Personally, I want to be able to wear a day dress or short sleeved blouse to an interview and appear to not be tattooed.

Angusaur

FI and I are getting "matching" tattoos. No names. We both love Superman. We both plan to get a tattoo of Lois & Clark (although we won't get the same one, we'll pick whichever one is our favorite) and his will say "She's my Lois" and mine will say "He's my Clark". (Clark will also be my new last name, so it fits)! It's symbolic for us without really putting the names on there. If (knock on wood) we were to ever  break up, I think I would still enjoy the tattoo.

BlackLace2015

JCbride2015 said:

HaileyDancingbear said:

My boobs hurt just looking at the first photo, that bra is at least two sizes to small.

Oh gosh, me too.  And so is her underwear.  My tummy is almost exactly that size and shape, and I hate when the band on my underwear does that to me.  Size up, ladies!

I pretty much gave up wearing underwear because I have big hips but not a very bubbly butt, therefore if they fit my hips, they sag on my ass lol

BlackLace2015

I think those tattoos are along the same lines as the concept of color-blocking in clothing. If you break up an area by having a design on the side but not in the middle, it splits a viewers attention between the two areas . Therefore in the second pic, her hips don't look smaller but the overall area does because it is split into different sections. some of her tummy is covered by each side of the tattoos. If that makes sense.

charlottesmom0626

I have a rib cage tattoo I'm in the process of having removed because I feel it draws a lot of attention to my midsection. I'm 5'7" 140lbs, so I'm not overweight, but having people directly looking at my belly/side/midsection makes me very aware of that area. For a while I stopped wearing bikinis. Now I've had my 3rd removal session...and yes, it's much more painful than getting it.

charlottesmom0626

Also if you want some information or photos about this process, I would be more than willing to share. It's AWFUL and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I too thought "oh if I don't like this tattoo I could always remove it"...that was 4 years ago. 

Now every 5 weeks I go to a terribly painful treatment which takes 4 weeks to heal. There's bruising, swelling, blistering, and itching...it's truly the worst thing I've ever put my body through. 

Currently I'm on day 3 of session 3, my ink is so swollen and blistered that I can't touch that side or they will open up and scar.

CMGragain

I meant no offense with my post, and I realize that many of you do like tattoos, but you must also realize that many other people do not.  My torso looks like a road map of scars from multiple surgeries and reconstructions.  When I was younger, it never occurred to me that this would happen to me.  I expected to age.  I didn't expect to be cut and stitched.
Just think carefully before you have a tattoo.  As the previous poster said, removal is very painful, and not completely successful for everyone.  Yes, surveys have shown that visible tattoos can hurt you when you are seeking a job.  Just think about it.

PS.  I don't personally judge people with decorative tats, as long as they are artistic, not offensive.  You have freedom of choice.  I would definitely be upset if one of my kids got one, though.

VulgarGirl

CMGragain said:

I meant no offense with my post, and I realize that many of you do like tattoos, but you must also realize that many other people do not.  My torso looks like a road map of scars from multiple surgeries and reconstructions.  When I was younger, it never occurred to me that this would happen to me.  I expected to age.  I didn't expect to be cut and stitched.
Just think carefully before you have a tattoo.  As the previous poster said, removal is very painful, and not completely successful for everyone.  Yes, surveys have shown that visible tattoos can hurt you when you are seeking a job.  Just think about it.

PS.  I don't personally judge people with decorative tats, as long as they are artistic, not offensive.  You have freedom of choice.  I would definitely be upset if one of my kids got one, though.

This really reads to me as #sorrynotsorry. The job market is in fact changing, a lot of careers that once balked at tattoos have started to accept that more. I know doctors, lawyers, nurses, CPAs, a judge, professors, secretaires, all with tattoos. All employed.

And yes, scars are possible. I have several scars already. All over my body. Some of my tattoos cover them, some of my tattoos had to be fixed afterwards, some I won't fix because they look better now...I think at least.

And why would you be upset if one of your children put ink on their own bodies? Are you upset if they dye their hair? Get plastic surgery? They're adults, it really has no impact on you. And like I said earlier, it doesn't change who they are as a person at all. Would your daughter's wedding that you speak so highly of been marred if she had a tattoo showing? Would it have been less lovely? And your son I've heard you mention being smart, would his IQ suddenly drop due to a tattoo? It's only the outside that changes. Nothing that makes them who they are as people. 

I do agree, think long and hard before you ink. like @taylorann0626 said, removal is costly and painful. Cover up jobs are possible, but much harder to do when you have bigger/darker pieces. I always recommend getting a picture of what you want (or close to what you want) and carrying it around with you for 6 months to a year, if in that time you look at it and think "WTF why did I like that?" don't get it. If you still love it, time to ink.

jdluvr06

MagicInk said:

CMGragain said:

I meant no offense with my post, and I realize that many of you do like tattoos, but you must also realize that many other people do not.  My torso looks like a road map of scars from multiple surgeries and reconstructions.  When I was younger, it never occurred to me that this would happen to me.  I expected to age.  I didn't expect to be cut and stitched.
Just think carefully before you have a tattoo.  As the previous poster said, removal is very painful, and not completely successful for everyone.  Yes, surveys have shown that visible tattoos can hurt you when you are seeking a job.  Just think about it.

PS.  I don't personally judge people with decorative tats, as long as they are artistic, not offensive.  You have freedom of choice.  I would definitely be upset if one of my kids got one, though.

This really reads to me as #sorrynotsorry. The job market is in fact changing, a lot of careers that once balked at tattoos have started to accept that more. I know doctors, lawyers, nurses, CPAs, a judge, professors, secretaires, all with tattoos. All employed.

And yes, scars are possible. I have several scars already. All over my body. Some of my tattoos cover them, some of my tattoos had to be fixed afterwards, some I won't fix because they look better now...I think at least.

And why would you be upset if one of your children put ink on their own bodies? Are you upset if they dye their hair? Get plastic surgery? They're adults, it really has no impact on you. And like I said earlier, it doesn't change who they are as a person at all. Would your daughter's wedding that you speak so highly of been marred if she had a tattoo showing? Would it have been less lovely? And your son I've heard you mention being smart, would his IQ suddenly drop due to a tattoo? It's only the outside that changes. Nothing that makes them who they are as people. 

I do agree, think long and hard before you ink. like @taylorann0626 said, removal is costly and painful. Cover up jobs are possible, but much harder to do when you have bigger/darker pieces. I always recommend getting a picture of what you want (or close to what you want) and carrying it around with you for 6 months to a year, if in that time you look at it and think "WTF why did I like that?" don't get it. If you still love it, time to ink.

Thank you. You put that much better than I could have. FYI I'm an anthropologist and I've never had trouble finding work because people pay attention to my credentials and my education not my tattoos.

Eta: plus if people were that hung up on something as stupid as body art that they didn't want to hire me I wouldn't want to work for them anyway. Super shallow people irritate me.

ashley8918

Angusaur said:

CMGragain said:

I do not understand tattoos.  I don't think they look good on anybody.  This, of course, is completely my own opinion.  I don't like multiple piercings, un-natural hair coloring, or heavy eye makeup, either, but this is all personal taste.
It is your body, and you have the right to mess it up if you want to.  Just remember that future surgical scars can change the look of those tattoos.

Everyone has their opinion, and that's cool. Obviously there's people who don't like these things. I think it's a pretty rude thing to say someone is messing up their body though.

I agree. I find that comment incredibly inappropriate.

beethery

When I got my most recent tattoo, I visited my grandparents the following day. I was letting it get some air, and my grandmother asked me about it.

She said, "Getting one is not for me, but you're brave! It's very pretty, and I like that you designed it yourself, then again I'm not surprised. You've been trying to get into doing it for years. I'm proud of ya. Want some tea?"

Good job grandma

Sugargirl1019

Now I want beautiful artwork on my body so FI can trace it with his fingers and drool..

CMGragain

....but, I rubbed baby powder on their tushies every day to preserve that beautiful skin!

beethery

CMGragain said:

....but, I rubbed baby powder on their tushies every day to preserve that beautiful skin!

That's nice. That does not mean their appearance, or skin for that matter, belongs to you.

erollis

PrettyGirlLost said:

I don't have any tattoos so maybe my opinion doesn't count, but I would not think adding tattoos, which will draw your eye and attention to wherever they are placed, would be slimming if you are bigger in the waist and hip area.  In fact, having tats in that area will have the opposite effect.

Also, if I were a woman considering having kids, I would not get any tattoos in the vicinity of my hips, abdomen, etc as chances are they would be distorted and stretched during pregnancy and not go back to normal.

I enjoy seeing other people's tattoos, although there have been many times where I look at a person and go "WTF were they thinking?!"  I have seen some really bad ink on ppl ><

Agree with all the above.

I have zero tattoos. H has zero tattoos. I don't want any and wouldn't like H getting any. I may change my mind later. Who knows.

I admire beautiful/cool tattoos and ones with deep meaning. I've seen plenty of god awful ones and even more nice ones. There are people who look great with tattoos. I don't think everyone looks good with tattoos. But that's personal opinion and you can do whatever you want.

My family does not like tattoos at all. One of my cousins has a pretty and meaningful tattoo on the top of her foot. Family doesn't like it but I do. My little sister turns 18 this year. I want to help her find and go get her first tattoo. Most of my friends have tattoos and live in the same city she does. Even though our family is against it I want to make sure she goes to a good place/artist.

If you want a tattoo get it.

CMGragain

Magicink said:

"And why would you be upset if one of your children put ink on their own bodies? Are you upset if they dye their hair? Get plastic surgery? They're adults, it really has no impact on you. And like I said earlier, it doesn't change who they are as a person at all. Would your daughter's wedding that you speak so highly of been marred if she had a tattoo showing? Would it have been less lovely? And your son I've heard you mention being smart, would his IQ suddenly drop due to a tattoo? It's only the outside that changes. Nothing that makes them who they are as people."

I completely agree with what you say, and I never said otherwise!  As for the wedding, the MOH had large tatoos.  I've known her since she was 13, and I was delighted that she could take part in the ceremony.  Just because I don't like tatoos doesn't mean that I don't like anyone who has them.
Would I be upset if one of my children got a tattoo?  Damn right!  Would I love them any less?  Of course not!

I had my ears pierced when I was 24.  My entire family had a melt down.  They said some nasty, racist things about pierced ears that would probably make you laugh.  I like my pierced ears.  Tattoos are no different.  Some people love them; some people hate them.

Trust me, when you are older and YOUR kid comes home with some new body decoration  (Who knows what will be popular in 20 years?), you may not like it either.

jdluvr06

CMGragain said:

Magicink said:

"And why would you be upset if one of your children put ink on their own bodies? Are you upset if they dye their hair? Get plastic surgery? They're adults, it really has no impact on you. And like I said earlier, it doesn't change who they are as a person at all. Would your daughter's wedding that you speak so highly of been marred if she had a tattoo showing? Would it have been less lovely? And your son I've heard you mention being smart, would his IQ suddenly drop due to a tattoo? It's only the outside that changes. Nothing that makes them who they are as people."

I completely agree with what you say, and I never said otherwise!  As for the wedding, the MOH had large tatoos.  I've known her since she was 13, and I was delighted that she could take part in the ceremony.  Just because I don't like tatoos doesn't mean that I don't like anyone who has them.
Would I be upset if one of my children got a tattoo?  Damn right!  Would I love them any less?  Of course not!

I had my ears pierced when I was 24.  My entire family had a melt down.  They said some nasty, racist things about pierced ears that would probably make you laugh.  I like my pierced ears.  Tattoos are no different.  Some people love them; some people hate them.

Trust me, when you are older and YOUR kid comes home with some new body decoration  (Who knows what will be popular in 20 years?), you may not like it either.

When I went to get my first tattoo and when I got my tongue pierced my mom went with me to hold my hand because I was nervous. She didn't get mad or act disappointed. She was supportive of my decisions. This is how I'm going to be with my future children if I'm lucky enough to have any.

CMGragain

jdluvr06 said:

CMGragain said:

Magicink said:

"And why would you be upset if one of your children put ink on their own bodies? Are you upset if they dye their hair? Get plastic surgery? They're adults, it really has no impact on you. And like I said earlier, it doesn't change who they are as a person at all. Would your daughter's wedding that you speak so highly of been marred if she had a tattoo showing? Would it have been less lovely? And your son I've heard you mention being smart, would his IQ suddenly drop due to a tattoo? It's only the outside that changes. Nothing that makes them who they are as people."

I completely agree with what you say, and I never said otherwise!  As for the wedding, the MOH had large tatoos.  I've known her since she was 13, and I was delighted that she could take part in the ceremony.  Just because I don't like tatoos doesn't mean that I don't like anyone who has them.
Would I be upset if one of my children got a tattoo?  Damn right!  Would I love them any less?  Of course not!

I had my ears pierced when I was 24.  My entire family had a melt down.  They said some nasty, racist things about pierced ears that would probably make you laugh.  I like my pierced ears.  Tattoos are no different.  Some people love them; some people hate them.

Trust me, when you are older and YOUR kid comes home with some new body decoration  (Who knows what will be popular in 20 years?), you may not like it either.

When I went to get my first tattoo and when I got my tongue pierced my mom went with me to hold my hand because I was nervous. She didn't get mad or act disappointed. She was supportive of my decisions. This is how I'm going to be with my future children if I'm lucky enough to have any.

LOL!  Just wait and see!  Good luck with this!

beethery

Seriously, this is beyond snotty. 

Thank you for reminding me of my own mother, and not in a good way.

PrincessOfHavoc

Why should I care if any future kids get quality tattoos or piercings?

They get crap, that's a different story because it's a health issue. But, go to a reputable place, go right ahead.

CMGragain

Bwaaaaah-ha-ha!