I love my future mom in law. She's a wonderful lady, and she did a wonderful job raising my fiance. She is the most generous and caring person I've ever met and I am so lucky to not have the horror stories that many brides have with their MILs. The only character flaw that stands out is how she loves to be the center of attention.
To paint a picture, my MIL is about 5'10", busty, broad, blonde and proud of it all. I am 5'3", petite, with dark hair.
With that being said, I feel like she may be (subconsciously) trying to out-glam me on the wedding day. My FIL is wearing a kilt, as they are tremendously into their culture. Fine with me, I'm excited about it. BUT she ordered the same tartan (plaid fabric) to incorporate into the dress she is making. She is doing an open back, keyhole neckline, high-low hem, crushed velvet underskirt, tartan train, and (more than likely) six inch heels. She is also putting crystals in her hair, doing a waterfall braid and will look like a medieval, celtic-viking princess. No doubt she will look absolutely stunning.
My dress is a simple, ivory, ruched, fit and flare with a bubble hem. Sweetheart neckline with a dark purple belt. My accessories are minimal and delicate: I'm wearing flats for my ceremony and chuck taylors for the reception.
My concern is that with her extravagant get-up, she will be pulling all of the attention from my fiance and I on our special day.
With about 2.5 months till the wedding, I can't exactly ask her to abandon her dress-making project in exchange for a different, less-loud one.
What do I do?