NWR: Did you have a rebellious phase?

thisismynickname2

These are so interesting to read My rebellious phase lasted a week and in it, I smoked a half of a cigarette. That's about it! I was a goody-goody, but it paid off in scholarships to college. I don't count losing virginity at 17 to be rebellious; it was with a serious boyfriend. The worst I did in college was binge-drink, but still kept my scholarships and graduated on time.

wandajune6

I never ditched class, got bad grades, or got into trouble. I got arrested twice but both times were at political protests so my parents were proud, not upset.

Drugs and sex were different though. I grew up hearing that cigarettes would kill you so if you're going to smoke, smoke pot- just make sure you're careful, safe, and discreet. I went through phases where I did a lot of drugs. I drew the line at needles, dangerous situations, and going broke. I always managed to do this while on Honor Roll and working. I refused to let it get in the way of the life I wanted. It's funny now to realize how many people didn't realize what I was up to.

I never took sex terribly seriously. I was careful about risks, etc. but never found it all that emotionally significant. I had a lot of fun with that. Probably more than I should have - but I learned a lot, didn't hurt anyone and didn't get hurt.

arrippa

My rebellious time started in my senior year of high school. I started cutting class to go drink. In college, I would to binge drink on weekends and sleep my way around a few frats. In my 20's, I didn't have a job, partied all the time and did drugs. I would go from guy to guy (musicians were my weakness). It took until my late 20's to get my head on straight.

I think this is why I am such a good, church girl now. I feel like I have a lot to make up for.

theartistformerlyknownas

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VulgarGirl

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VulgarGirl

wandajune6 said:

I never took sex terribly seriously. I was careful about risks, etc. but never found it all that emotionally significant. I had a lot of fun with that. Probably more than I should have - but I learned a lot, didn't hurt anyone and didn't get hurt.

I always felt the same way about sex. I remember the first time I had sex, it was just no big deal to me. I mean sure, it felt awesome and was fun, but it wasn't like my whole world changed or anything like that. I don't even remember the name of the first person I had sex with. I knew it, I wasn't drunk, it's just kind of faded from my memory now. I never understood all the emotional stuff other girls got with sex. 

VulgarGirl

shrekspeare said:

MagicInk said:

wandajune6 said:

I never took sex terribly seriously. I was careful about risks, etc. but never found it all that emotionally significant. I had a lot of fun with that. Probably more than I should have - but I learned a lot, didn't hurt anyone and didn't get hurt.

I always felt the same way about sex. I remember the first time I had sex, it was just no big deal to me. I mean sure, it felt awesome and was fun, but it wasn't like my whole world changed or anything like that. I don't even remember the name of the first person I had sex with. I knew it, I wasn't drunk, it's just kind of faded from my memory now. I never understood all the emotional stuff other girls got with sex. 

DH is like this. For a long time he struggled with the fact that I was promiscuous, because he gets a huge emotional boost from sex. I'm just like, 'oh, it's just sex. it's fun. that's all.' 

Sometimes when you post about your DH, I'm pretty sure I'm marrying the female version of him. FI slept with two other girls before me. Two. She could not understand my lack of waiting until I was madly in love with someone to hop on the good foot and do the bad thing. If I waited for that I'd never get laid!

wandajune6

shrekspeare said:

MagicInk said:

wandajune6 said:

I never took sex terribly seriously. I was careful about risks, etc. but never found it all that emotionally significant. I had a lot of fun with that. Probably more than I should have - but I learned a lot, didn't hurt anyone and didn't get hurt.

I always felt the same way about sex. I remember the first time I had sex, it was just no big deal to me. I mean sure, it felt awesome and was fun, but it wasn't like my whole world changed or anything like that. I don't even remember the name of the first person I had sex with. I knew it, I wasn't drunk, it's just kind of faded from my memory now. I never understood all the emotional stuff other girls got with sex. 

DH is like this. For a long time he struggled with the fact that I was promiscuous, because he gets a huge emotional boost from sex. I'm just like, 'oh, it's just sex. it's fun. that's all.' 

I remember pretty much everyone but only because I like stories.

It's funny- FI's the complete opposite of me. Every person before me was serious.

pinkcow13

I guess I kinda had a rebellious phase. My parents were really strict, so in HS I used to make up insane excuses to hang out with my friends or boyfriends at the time. The most rebellious thing I did was get my belly pierced at 16. Then my mom saw it and flipped out and I removed it. Then got it re-pierced at 17.

I think my wild streak started in college. I met FI our first week there and we dated all 4 years, so in reality, how rebellious could I have been? Although, once my parents called the campus police on me because they could not reach me in my dorm. That's because I stayed at FI's that night. It was like not even noon, when they sent the campus police on me smh.

jdluvr06

I had a huge rebellious phase. Actually I'm not even sure I can call it a phase since it lasted from about the time I was 13 until I was about 20. I had a motto that I would try anything once and that didn't work out too well for me. I'm still working on quitting my last bad habit from that time period, smoking cigarettes. I was doing good but I slipped up last week. Boo. My poor mother. Her favorite story to make people understand what a horrid teenager I was is the time I disappeared for two weeks when I was 16. She was beside herself worried.  

jenna8984

Aaaaaaaand this thread is why I'm terrified to have children! My parents were awesome and raised me right and I was still an asshole rebellious teen. God help me that my children aren't quite as bad.....lol @jdluvr06 Have you tried the electronic cigarette? It really helped my FI quit, and he smoked a pack a day for 10 years. Also, when are you going to Peru? I'm really excited for you to make that hike, it was such a great time.

jdluvr06

@jenna8984 I have tried the electric cigarette but I gave that up about two months ago. I was doing really well but I got stressed and I slipped. I'm going to Peru August 19. I'm soooo excited!!!! I seriously can't wait. I've always wanted to see Machu Picchu and I just really can't wait. FI and I have been going on hikes during the weekends to prep for it as best as we can. We are both already pretty active outdoors but we haven't been able to do as much as we like because this year has been so busy.

jenna8984

@jdluvr06 Wooooo that is so soon!! You will frigen love it. Lots of layers- it's really cold at night but warms up while you're hiking. Honestly this sounds gross but I wore the same outfit for 2 days of hiking and sleeping because I was too cold to change out of it. Then I changed into another outfit for the last two days. They give you a bowl of water at night for "cleaning up" which again was way too cold. My friend and I thought we'd be like using facecloths to wash our pits and stuff each night- nope. We just piled on more deodorant the next morning. And baby/ bathroom wipes are a must since there's no toilet paper anywhere. When we finished and got back to the hotel we almost had a fist fight over who got to shower first and we each took 45 minutes in there trying to get off the layers of filth/ sweat/ sunblock/ bugspray/ deodorant. So don't even waste any precious luggage weight on anything like shampoo or makeup, you will not use it.

VulgarGirl

I asked my mom about my rebellious phase and why it didn't really phase her (aside from the tattoo thing) and regaled me with the story of when she was 17 and went to Cancun with her girlfriends and long story short she had to call her mother from a Mexican jail. And then there was how her mom, my grandma, ran away from home at 14 and turned up a year later pregnant with my uncle. So basically, getting stoned and having sex with girls was pretty low on the bad ass list.

I'm hoping this translates to my own kids being pretty tame. Ya know each generation we water it down just a little.

sophhabobopha

MagicInk said:

wandajune6 said:

I never took sex terribly seriously. I was careful about risks, etc. but never found it all that emotionally significant. I had a lot of fun with that. Probably more than I should have - but I learned a lot, didn't hurt anyone and didn't get hurt.

I always felt the same way about sex. I remember the first time I had sex, it was just no big deal to me. I mean sure, it felt awesome and was fun, but it wasn't like my whole world changed or anything like that. I don't even remember the name of the first person I had sex with. I knew it, I wasn't drunk, it's just kind of faded from my memory now. I never understood all the emotional stuff other girls got with sex. 

I'm the same way. Fi was a virgin when we met, and I'd slept with other guys,  neither of us cared.

jdluvr06

@jenna8984 yeah it sounds a lot like when we did part of the Appalachian Trail a few years ago. There were no showers and by the time we were done with the bit we did I felt so icky. It was worth it though and I have no don't this is going to be even better. I'm so freaking excited. FI is too. He already bought an extra battery for our camera and extra memory cards because he is convinced we will fill up the 16gb we already bought.

jnrsgirl

I am boring. No rebellious phase for me. The most wild thing I did was to have protected monogamous sex with FI two years after we had been engaged. (FI was the first guy I ever dated too.)

mrsmorales2be

I was as boring then as I was now. I just hated doing chores, because my parents were freaking slobs with hoarding tendencies. I did get serious burnout in college, thanks to the freaking evil advanced math and science HS that I attended. My GPA was embarrassing, and I still haven't finished my BS, almost 16 yrs later. One of these days I WILL finish what I started...just not practical now.

hellosweetie1015

OOOH OOOH OOOH I DO HAVE A COP STORY!!!!!!!

I'd been to this wedding, right? It was, as far as my mom knew, the first major trip I'd taken allllll by myself (which really wasn't that far off, haha, sadly...) and it was a whole five-ish hours away. I drove and drove and drove, right? and I spent the night there and slept poorly and wound up getting up at, like, six, and getting out of my hotel room about 7 or so, so by the time I get back home I'm pooped and I just want to chill. So I go and call my mom and chill on the couch and then I go to sleep, right? 

So the next morning, my roommate knocks on my door. "CaitTDid, the police are here to see you."

So - OBVIOUSLY - I think, oh, fuck, what happened, why are the police here to see me, who died?

My mother had called them to do a welfare check. Mr. PoPo told me to call my mother more often. 

I talk to my mother just about every 5 hours, thankyouverymuch, Mr. Bossy PoPo. So I go get my phone - 27 missed calls from my mother. 15 from my dad. A couple from my sister, and about five from my brother.. ALL I HAD DONE WAS GO TO BED A LITTLE EARLY WOMAN SWEET BABY JEEBUS.

That's my cop story. I was a wild one.