Second Dress?

decembergrl2014

I'm getting married on 12/12/14, and am debating on whether or not to get a second dress. I know that I only have 4 1/2 months left and I would probably have to get a sample/off the rack dress, which I'm fine with. I'm looking for opinions. What made you decide/not decide to get a second dress?

climbingsingle

I am in love with my dress. I can't imagine wanting a second one or wanting to change out of it at all. 

Maggie0829

I have never understood the point of a second dress. You by a dress (most likely it cost a good chunk of change) that you love and can't wait to get married in but then you turn around and want to change out of it after an hour or so into another dress, because? Yeah, don't get it. I loved my dress (still do in fact) and I wanted to wear that sucker as long as I possibly could. I also made sure that when I bought my dress that it was something that was comfortable, easy to move around in and that I could dance and sit in because I knew that I was going to be in it for a long time and I didn't want to start hating it 3 hours in because it was uncomfortable or heavy.

DanikaMarie0227

Years ago I always thought it would be great to have two dresses when I got married (thanks mostly to watching too many wedding dress shows). However, now that I'm actually getting married & have bought one dress - I can't imagine only wearing it for a super short period of time for just the ceremony. So while I don't think there is anything wrong with having two dresses - personally, the idea doesn't appeal to me any longer. 

kebebb

I'm spending a small fortune on my wedding dress. I will be wearing that dress, and only that dress, for the duration of the ceremony and reception. And we're instituting "formal wear Wednesdays" at work to ensure that the wedding dresses/other formal dresses of all us ladies in the building get worn enough to justify the cost.

Honestly though, I never did understand the point of having a second dress. If I change out of my dress at the reception, it certainly wouldn't be into another fancy dress. I'd be looking for my jeans and chucks.

msuprincess04

I brought an ivory cocktail dress to change into if the heat got to be too much. I forgot all about it and rocked my taffeta gown all night long in the Mexico heat! I loved that dress, felt amazing, and couldn't imagine changing.

manateehugger

There was no way in hell I was changing out of my wedding gown after only showing it off for our ceremony. 

MandyMost

The only occasions where I've changed mid-event in the past is on Christmas when I wear my pajamas in the morning, then put on "real clothes" for later in the day, or if it's a summer cookout at a lake where I'll wear a swimsuit and cover up for the day, and then change into jeans and long sleeves for the night. 

I can't imagine why anyone would want to change their clothes halfway through a single event otherwise. It just makes no sense. Do you bring a change of clothes when you go to dinner and a movie? Or dinner and dancing? Probably not. A wedding really isn't that different--pick an outfit and wear it for the event. 

Maggie0829

MandyMost said:

The only occasions where I've changed mid-event in the past is on Christmas when I wear my pajamas in the morning, then put on "real clothes" for later in the day, or if it's a summer cookout at a lake where I'll wear a swimsuit and cover up for the day, and then change into jeans and long sleeves for the night. 

I can't imagine why anyone would want to change their clothes halfway through a single event otherwise. It just makes no sense. Do you bring a change of clothes when you go to dinner and a movie? Or dinner and dancing? Probably not. A wedding really isn't that different--pick an outfit and wear it for the event. 

This is a great point.  A grooms typically don't change into a second/different suit or tux so I really don't get why brides feel that they have to change dresses.  Just another thing that the wedding industry has pushed so that brides spend even more money.

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Wedding dresses usually cost a pretty penny, you only get to wear it for the one day as it is, it would be a shame to spend that and only wear it for a few brief hours. Now I would understand it if say you wanted a full ballgown or traditional dress for your ceremony & you're a ballroom dancer & want to be more comfortable for when you tango, waltz, etc, that would make sense to me.

doeydo

Why in the world would I want another dress?  I already found the dress and I wouldn't want to take it off.

beachyone15

I'm not taking my dress off until FI (or rather, husband at that point) begs me to take it off

atlastmrsg

I had two dresses.  My wedding was outdoors in May, and I knew it might be hot (it was).  Thankfully I already had the second short dress from a pageant.  I wanted the option if I was too hot.  I ended up wearing my wedding gown for everything but the last hour.  At that point I was hot and ready to be done with it, but also because I didn't want to drink and dance in something that cost thousands of dollars.  I knew it would be harder to sell afterwards if it was trampled on or damaged.  I wore the second dress for the last hour of the reception and the after party.  I was very glad I had it.  I felt so light after wearing the heavy, big dress up until then.  

chibiyui

I wore my dress until the last half hour, where I changed back into my jeans and shirt from before the ceremony. Everyone was gone by that point except for a few college friends.
I looked gorgeous in my dress and wanted to wear it as long as I could.

Ndelible

Guilty of being influenced by the WIC (wedding industrial complex). I have what I am calling a faker. I got a tea length tulle dress that I will be wearing for the first look, where we plan on gambling and picture taking around Vegas. Then I will switch into the ceremony dress. The Dress is the one that I plan on wearing for the ceremony and reception. FH loves surprises, so I will show up in one dress and not say anything. Then, change into the wowza gown. I also have a long, sexy dress for after partying. We are a DW, so we plan on partying at casinos afterward. I have a whole weekend of partying, so I just may need another one! Then again, I am a bargain shopper and I got my gown for a steal, something that allows me leeway in supplementing my bridal wardrobe!

mrsmagicgeek

There was that one woman from WW (I think) who had what, 5 dresses? That's definitely OTT. I don't much see the point of two, but if it makes you happy and you can afford it, go for it.

CMGragain

I was lucky enough to find a sample dress that I could actually afford.  There is no need for more than one dress.  It is a waste of money IMHO.

aggiespartan

We are planning an early afternoon wedding in Vegas, and I can't imagine going to several different places in a long heavy dress.  I plan on getting a short dress to change into after the festivities, because we are likely going to be partying on the strip for much of the night.  I'm going to try to keep the price of both dresses as low as I can.

novella1186

I got a figure-hugging very traditional lace dress with a train for the ceremony, but I don't want to be fussing with it all night while I'm trying to dance. I'm wearing that expensive special dress for photos, the ceremony, our entrance, cocktail hour, etc etc. Pretty much the entire night. But then later, for our first dance, I wanted something that was easier to wear, sparkly (cuz the lace dress has no sparkle) and that I could twirl. That's always been my big thing-- gotta be able to twirl and sparkle on the dance floor Instead of spending a ton of money on another wedding dress, I actually found a pale pink evening gown that is AMAZING and looks like it could be a wedding dress, but for a fraction of the cost, and it's the fun sparkly twirly dress I dreamed of, after getting to initially get married in the traditional long flowing lace dress I also dreamed of. If it's your vision, and you want it, and you can afford it, do it!!! It's your day, and you only get to have that day once in your life.

novella1186

Technical difficulties...

novella1186

How do you delete duplicate posts? Is the only option to just edit?

novella1186

I am sorry that posted three times! I'm having some computer issues. I'll try to delete two of those ASAP! :S

Rosebubbly

I've got a 2nd dress and am very excited about it! Got a great price for both of my dresses. The 2nd short dress actually looks exactly like a dress I admired for years that is since discontinued so I actually bought it before the long dress. I'm doing it because I get uncomfortable in restrictive clothes and get hot every time I try on my gown. I rarely make it through a whole work day in my suit jacket. There was no way I could wear a gown all night.

missdelilah

It's such a personal choice.  It depends on your budget, whether you'll be comfortable spending the entire day in the one dress, and what you want your photos to be like.  I'm considering a second dress, but only because I fell in love with it, but it's a little too casual for the ceremony we have planned.  Plus, I'm sort of figuring that I won't want to risk getting anything spilled on the gown; I'd be heart broken.

Good luck making your decision!

sarahufl

I wore mine from 2pm till 2am and only took it off because I had to pee and it seemed easier to just call it a night at that point.

I had no desire to change.