So, first, I have two bridesmaids who are "local" and able to help out with the most immediate stuff, but one of them has fought me on every single thing, and it's getting old. Yesterday we were building invitations, which can be a bummer except that these were the invitations for the biggest day of my life, so I didn't treat it so much like a chore. One bridesmaid did, and said the others (who have told me several times how bummed they were not to be able to help more) were getting off easy and that she's been doing so much more. Her reaction to almost everything so far (going to the bach party, buying a dress, etc) has made it seem like this is a giant burden, despite the fact that I KNOW she would have flipped her shit if I didn't ask her to be in my wedding. And let me also say, I haven't asked her to do much. I have DIY'd all my stuff on my own, the invitations were the first big thing. So, it's discouraging. I've been in weddings and I know the expense is rough, but I also know that I felt genuinely happy for my friends and wanted to pitch in.
She also can't wrap her head around me wanting to lose weight/tone up for the wedding, and I get tired of those comments. Like it's a crime to want to look a certain way.
Hopefully I don't sound like the crazy one here.. this is just months of frustration sort of piling up at once.