I ask this because I'm a big indecisive mess at the moment. I have real difficulty imagining what a tightly pinned size 20 will actually look like after I order a size 8 and have it fitted. I feel as though I should make a decision this week, as I'm a little worried about the time frame (alterations have to be complete by the beginning of February). I've mentioned before in various threads that I don't believe in "the" dress, at least not as far as I'm concerned. There are any number of dresses that are beautiful and would work perfectly well for every bride. All that said, I've narrowed it down to two dresses that are completely different, and (I think) would look great when all is said and done. To be honest, I'm finding working out which styles will suit me easier based on the designer photos, rather than trying on the way too large gowns. Not because I look like the models at all, but simply based on their similarities to other dresses I own or off the rack products I've tried on.
I'm really heavily leaning towards a dress that has a very low back. I know that this dress will work for me. My only reservation is that it's possibly too sexy for the occasion. It's probably going to be the more comfortable option, as it's likely to be extremely hot. Do you other ladies have any thoughts on this?
How did you decide on your dress? Did you really know it was "the" dress, or was it more a matter of, "this dress looks/will look great!"? I'd love to hear what your decision process was like.
Re: How did you decide on your dress? My own indecisive moment.
People give me strange looks when I tell them about the ordering-my-dress saga.
I liked the first dress I tried on in the first store I went to. As we wandered through the racks with the sales woman, I saw it on a dummy, stopped, pointed, and said, "That one." I liked it on, but it just wasn't "the one." My mom agreed.
About a month or probably more like two later, I must have been to almost every bridal store in the area. It was me and my mom driving all across town week after week. We would try on dresses I thought I would like, what mom mom thought she would like, we would even ask the sales people to pull whatever they thought would look good and... nothing. We would find some that we would like more than others, but we took pictures of everything we found and when we got home and looked at the pictures we were both so disheartened. By the second to last store we were just so jaded that everything looked the same as the last one. (the poor sales girl, we tried to make it fun for her even though we felt like such depressing people saying no to everything she gave us after we tried it on)
We finally took a break and I was starting to work on making a dress myself. It was looking really promising and I was getting the help of my old sewing instructors from college. But it was not to be. eventually I was a stressed out wreck and my dress felt like this giant mountain in front of me with a cliff on the other side because I was convinced it would look handmade and terrible.
Then my mom pretty much saved the day. She got online, searched for dresses similar to the first one I tried on and found one she loved. I was absolutely in love when she showed it to me. We went to the one salon in like the whole state that carries the brand. They didn't have the style I liked, but I tried on the first dress we liked again and tried on others in the same brand. And then ordered the dress without ever trying it on!
I am so excited (and a little scared) to try on my dress when it comes next month! Let's hope it works out.
Here's the dress. http://www.justinalexanderbridal.com/wedding_dresses/8706