So, FI and I were invited to his cousin's wedding which will take place two weeks after ours and we were delighted to receive the invitation and quickly sent our RSVP.
I called my FMIL and asked her where they were registered and she explained to me that when she received the shower invitation she suspected they weren't registered anywhere and was assuming they only wanted cash. I said, "Oh, really? Are you sure?" And she said, "Yeah I think so because on the bridal shower invititation there was a cutsey poem on the back asking for money for a honeymoon." She than explained that she thought it was kind of tacky but that it made it easier for her to give them cash than a gift.
I just kind of giggled to myself and thought yes it was very tacky but you're right it does make it easier to just give cash than a give a thoughtful gift. I explained that I will not be giving cash but will provide a gift. Although my thinking is now, why bother if they don't want any gifts? We may have given a card if they simply explained they did not have a need for anything as they already had all they needed for their furnished home without the cutesy poem. But, whatever I am thinking we will give a small cash gift anyway. Afterall, the poem wasn't on the wedding invitation and they are super nice people. When they found out we both selected the same date to get married, they moved their's without even asking. So, maybe I am just feeling a bit snarky today and should give them a break. Its not like any of us our perfect and I am sure there are some tacky mistakes I have made that I haven't realized yet.
ETA: What do you guys think of giving a gift that they could use on their honeymoon? Like nice beach towels if they plan on going somewhere tropical?