Father/daughter dance dilemma

brettifer104

I am seeking some advice for my father/daughter dance.....Ever since I heard the song "Father and Daughter" by Paul Simon, I knew it was the song I wanted for my father/daughter dance at my wedding, but my father was killed in a car accident last September. In my heart, I feel like this song needs to be played at my wedding, but I don't know how to do it. My mom is walking me down the aisle, so I was considering dancing with her, but then I found another song that I love for my mother/daughter dance. Does anyone have any advice?

Knottie40053114

First of all I want to say that I'm really sorry for your loss! :-(
I wanted to also say I was watching Four Weddings and one of the brides had lost her father as well. So in honor of her father, the Bride made a small speech and the DJ played a song I believe it was the dad's favorite song and the guests were invited to dance with the Bride and groom.
My SIL also lost her father I believe 6 months before her and my brothers wedding. They too had a dance in honor of her father who passed but they danced with each other as a way of saying that song was handing her over to my brother since he was unable to give her away. I always thought that was sweet.
Good luck with everything and congratulations!

Jen4948

I'm so sorry for your loss.

If you play this song, are you going to be dancing to it with someone else, or is this a "moment of silence" type tying where you play it and everyone's just supposed to stop what they're doing and listen to it?

If you're going to be dancing to it, then I think it would be fine, as long as the explanation for why you want to play this song is limited to under 3 minutes.  But if not, and everyone's just supposed to listen to it, then I think that has the potential to turn very morbid and that's not advisable.  Remember, even without your father or any other deceased or absent loved ones present, your wedding is supposed to be a happy occasion, so you don't want to make any "remembrances" of him/them too lugubrious.  Keep them subtle.

Lauderdale Pink

Please accept my condolences for your loss and my wishes for a happy wedding and wonderful life.  Just wanted to put in that the idea from Knottie400 sounded perfect, touching and very respectful.