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Wedding Etiquette Forum
gmcr78
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Hat Etiquette
Ladies,
I read something on EHell today about a woman being berated by her friend for her inappropriate funeral attire and it got me thinking. I've been looking for a small black hat or fascinator with a little bit of black netting (not full on veil, birdcage or face covering, at most covering just a little bit of the forehead). I have some dresses that I think a hat like this would compliment for weddings and other occasions, and hats are fun.
My question is this-if I showed up to a wedding with a hat like this (I've included pics of possible examples below), would that be an etiquette faux pas? The intention is not to look like a wedding or mourning veil, but a cute accessory to compliment a dressy outfit. Black is the obvious color choice because it will match most outfits. I have been looking online for wedding hat etiquette and I'm not finding anything to this level of detail that would tell me if this was inappropriate for some reason, such as looking like funeral attire. What are your thoughts?
Examples:
I read something on EHell today about a woman being berated by her friend for her inappropriate funeral attire and it got me thinking. I've been looking for a small black hat or fascinator with a little bit of black netting (not full on veil, birdcage or face covering, at most covering just a little bit of the forehead). I have some dresses that I think a hat like this would compliment for weddings and other occasions, and hats are fun.
My question is this-if I showed up to a wedding with a hat like this (I've included pics of possible examples below), would that be an etiquette faux pas? The intention is not to look like a wedding or mourning veil, but a cute accessory to compliment a dressy outfit. Black is the obvious color choice because it will match most outfits. I have been looking online for wedding hat etiquette and I'm not finding anything to this level of detail that would tell me if this was inappropriate for some reason, such as looking like funeral attire. What are your thoughts?
Examples:
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Re: Hat Etiquette
Also hats are not customarily worn at evening events.
I'm the fuck out.
I don't know about America, but it would be strange to see a guest at a wedding that starts in the evening with a hat. It is very much daytime attire. Remember, they were originally to keep the sun out of a woman's eyes, so it would be like wearing sunglasses at night. Now a hat worn to church for religious purposes, such as a Catholic mantilla, is completely different than what we are talking about, which a essentially a fashion hat.
To us Yankees they are sometimes ;-)
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Evening hats (fascinators) haven't been seen since the early 1960's, until just lately when the fascinator fad came back. An evening hat is completely non-functional. It is purely decorative. If it looks like a little bird has flown down and placed something small on your head, it is an evening hat. They usually have sequins, crystals or feathers.
LOL! Whenever mom and I walked by a Catholic church, she required we stop in to light a candle and say a prayer. Head coverings for females were required back then, so she would bobby pin a Kleenex, handkerchief or church bulletin (!) to our heads. I'm not sure why she packed her purse with Kleenex, handkerchiefs and bobby pins, but not those nifty little mantillas that came in travel pouches, which we used for Sunday Mass.