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The Great Veil Debate- Are You Having One? Why/Not

I'd love to know why yall chose what you did!

Dress shopping with mom is next week so at the moment FI and I are engaged in the great veil debate... He thinks they're "stupid and old fashioned", that theyre all poofy (despite pictures to the contrary) and cover the bride's face.  I'm stuck in "little girl fantasy meets gorgeous pinterest pictures of brides".  We're having an outdoor, afternoon wedding at Cornman Farms near Ann Arbor, Michigan, June 7th, so instead of a train that would need bustling I want to do a long, flowy, single layer drop-veil.  Something like this perhaps. image  

My parents would walk me down the aisle, pull back the veil to kiss me (so not covering the face), and I'd still have a train-like effect with the dress.  Then I can remove it after the ceremony to party hearty.

What do yall think?  Did your SO even have an opinion?  If you chose not to wear one, why not and if so, pictures!
Thanks,
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Re: The Great Veil Debate- Are You Having One? Why/Not

  • The only issue that you may run into is that with having an outdoor wedding it could be windy which may cause your veil to go every which way including straight up. 

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  • I wore a veil. I didn't ask DH his opinion on it. It's the only time I'll ever get to wear a veil. My dress was pretty simple and it made me feel more like a bride. If I didn't wear a veil then I wouldn't have gotten my favorite picture of myself (the pic in my sig). Ditto what Maggie said about the wedding being outside though. Ours was inside and we did pictures outside, but it was flying everywhere during the pictures and I had to keep fixing it.
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  • I wore a single layer cathedral drop veil. I don't think I ever asked H's opinion on it either. I just wanted a veil, so I wore a veil. 


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  • Personally I'm not wearing them. I find them old-fashioned, and don't want one. I'm wearing a hair piece instead (a flower with some rhinestones). 

    Honestly, I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where the bride wore a veil that covered her face, and 99% of the weddings I've been to the brides all had veils. Since your fiance is against it, I'd suggest you wear one that just attaches to the back of your head and never flips forward to cover your face--it's a good compromise. I was at a wedding last weekend and that's what the bride did...and the next day she was joking that she loved wearing the veil so much she never wanted to take it off, because that's the only time in your life you'll wear a veil!
  • I didn't want a veil, so I didn't wear one. I felt costume-y in one. Just my personal preference. I also think veil over the husbands face pictures are overdone, but that's me. I did consider a birdcage for a while, then saw pictures of someone I know and I swear she looks cross eyed because of the netting so that kicked that option out for me. 

    There is no right and wrong here, it's all personal preference. I did ask H/my dad if for some reason they cared about a veil/lifting it and they both looked at me like I was crazy. 
  • I don't care for veils, so I didn't wear one. I wore a kick ass hat instead.
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  • I didn't ask his opinion, he just volunteered it. :)
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  • I never really saw myself wearing one. Then the first time we went dress shopping I tried on a veil... and me, my mom, and my sister all started laughing and instantly said "no, way" to a veil... it just wasn't me at all. Until that point, my mom had hoped I would wear her veil, but even she agreed that a veil just didn't look right on me. I ended up just having my hair half up with a few bling accessories.

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  • MandyMost said:
    Personally I'm not wearing them. I find them old-fashioned, and don't want one. I'm wearing a hair piece instead (a flower with some rhinestones). 

    Honestly, I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where the bride wore a veil that covered her face, and 99% of the weddings I've been to the brides all had veils. Since your fiance is against it, I'd suggest you wear one that just attaches to the back of your head and never flips forward to cover your face--it's a good compromise. I was at a wedding last weekend and that's what the bride did...and the next day she was joking that she loved wearing the veil so much she never wanted to take it off, because that's the only time in your life you'll wear a veil!
    Whoops. I wore a drop veil that covered my face because I went to a wedding where the bride had one and thought it was gorgeous. 
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  • I'm wearing a cathedral length, simple veil that has a shiny gem every foot or so around the rim of it. I want to wear one because it makes me feel extra bridey. But, as soon as the ceremony is over I plan on taking that sucker off.
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  • Unless you plan on micro-managing his outfit, he shouldn't be trying to micro-manage yours. If you want a veil, wear one. It affects him not at all.

    I didn't wear one for a couple of reasons: 1) we got married outside and I didn't want it blowing all over the place. and 2) it doesn't really fit my style/personality. I was just "meh" on it for those reasons. I wanted a simple, natural look, so wore flowers in my hair instead. I'm being fed cake in the picture below, but you get the idea...
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  • I'm not wearing a veil because I don't want to wear one. Thought about it but just isn't me. FI isn't wearing one either (same reason). 

    I'm kind of bothered though by your FI not wanting you to wear a veil even though you want to wear one. It's your head, it doesn't really effect him in any shape or form. FI and I gave each other input about what to wear day of our wedding, but we wouldn't tell the other one they can't wear something they really want to wear just because we don't like it. That's not a call either of us would make for the other.

    I say wear your veil. Tell your FI you've always imagined you wearing a veil on your wedding day so you will be wearing a veil on your wedding day. End of story. 
  • I'm not wearing a veil. This is my second wedding and honestly, I felt silly wearing one this time. 
  • I bought a veil going on its tradition, however I won't wear it until April 2015 but its a short to mid length veil. I didn't ask my fiance about it and never really brought it up to be honest. I do wish I would of tried on a birdcage while I was trying on wedding dresses and veils but it's done and over with. I love what I have.
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  • I decided to wear a veil about 45 minutes before our ceremony.  I got married the summer after the royal wedding and seeing the Duchess wearing a veil made me consider one.  Before that I was anti-veil.  So I made a simple one tier fingertip raw edge veil.  The day of the wedding I had my sister hold the veil up to my head and my mom took a picture.  I then took a picture without it.  The veil one and I wore it for the ceremony and a few pictures.  I am so happy that I wore one because it really completed my look.

    If you want to wear a veil then wear one no matter what your FI has to say about it.  Just be aware of what I said in my first post about the wind possibly blowing it everywhere.  But if you are okay with a possible veil malfunction which could lead to nervous reducing laughter then wear one.

  • I did not wear a veil. My wedding was outdoors, and I didn't want it blowing around, getting stuck in my lipgloss, or having to deal with one more thing. I had buttons down the back of my dress that I wanted to be visible, and a pleated bodice that I didn't want to cover. I loved my earrings, and considered them my accessory. I don't regret not having one at all. I briefly considered having a fascinator instead, but then I decided it had the potential to make my photos less timeless. I didn't feel like any less of a bride without a veil. If anything, I felt like I got to show off my fabulously done hair and make up, earrings, and gown more.
  • I am wearing a single tier cathedral length veil with a beaded, scalloped edge. This is the one time in my life where it will be appropriate to wear one, so I went full length. It really pulled my look together and made it feel more bridal.

    That said, this is completely your choice.If you want to wear a veil, wear a veil. 


  • I wore a veil...simple, elbow length for ceremony and pictures only, then took it off for the reception.    
  • I'm re-purposing my mom's veil (beautiful wide lace-edged fingertip veil) for the ceremony and having the blusher removed so I can wear it back. For the reception I'll take it off and have a sparkly hair comb. I never imagined NOT wearing a veil and once my mom showed me hers I knew it was going to look beautiful!


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  • I have a single tier finger tip length veil with a scalloped edge and silver thread details.  My ceremony is outside, but I wanted a veil.  I think it completes my look and makes me feel very bridal.  I am wearing mine to the reception as well because I love it that much.
  • I didn't wear a veil. My dress was hot pink, so a white veil would have looked weird, and I can't say I really wanted a hot pink veil. Instead, I use large silk flower hair clips to add visual impact. It was really cool and I got tons of compliments, as all brides do. My SO wasn't part of the decision.
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    I have never wanted a veil. Then there was a brief time while shopping that I considered a birdcage veil. I tried it on and thought to myself, "Eh, it's kinda cute and fun and would go with my dress, but..." My mom said close to the same thing out loud. Then my grandma let out a resounding, "No." And that pretty much snapped everyone back into their proper state of mind. It's just really not me. Now I have a large jeweled flowery thing on the side of my head that goes with my short punky hair wonderfully. 

    But I think a veil is completely up to you. If you feel it completes your look and you've considered the possibilities of things going wrong, go for it!

    Oddly enough, just the other night I had a dream (more like a nightmare) about getting a veil. In my crazy dream world, it was decided that I HAD to have a long long veil since my dress didn't have a train and that would act as my train. After a lot of dream craziness, we ultimately purchased a lacy bed dust ruffle to serve as my veil. Yeah... 
  • I was torn on whether I wanted a veil - I think they are beautiful, but at the same time, kind of weird and old fashioned. Luckily, I ended up not having to decide because I fell in love with a dress that has a sort of faux-veil as part of it, so I can still get the look during the ceremony. I'll have it altered so that the veil part detaches for the reception.

    You should do what you want! FI should get no say if it's part of your dream bridal look! I'm sure it'd be lovely!

  • I never really pictured myself in a veil, so I didn't even try one on when I was trying on dresses.  My dress has a lot of beading and pickups.  I ended up going with a beautiful headband instead.
  • It's Jewish tradition for brides to wear veils that cover their face, and the FI is supposed to pull it down over the bride's face just before the ceremony, to show that the way she looks doesn't matter and it's really her inner beauty that the FI is concerned with. I'm pretty neutral on veils but my family is Jewish. After I found out the reason behind this tradition, I'm considering wearing one, and having it cover my face. I like the message behind it.
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  • I always thought I would wear a veil but when I tried a variety of styles of veils on with my dress I felt that they made me look short (ok, I am short, but they drew attention to my shortness) so I decided I am not going to wear one.
  • I actually have two veils and not by design. I knew I wanted to wear one, since I am wearing a gown. At the beginning of the process, I was thinking of a long dress and a veil would have looked silly, unless the dress lent itself to one. So I got a final sale, simple chapel length veil with small rhinestone detail along the blusher edge. I was very happy with it. Then I went shopping with the Girls and we came across this little boutique with gorgeous bridal accessories and they insisted on buying me this crazy extravagant one (pictured, not in any gown). It's gorgeous and different and well, I love it too. I've figured out a way to wear both, so I guess you could say the veils are all over me!
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  • The only issue that you may run into is that with having an outdoor wedding it could be windy which may cause your veil to go every which way including straight up. 

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    Stuck in the box :(

    ... I believe they sell things called "veil weights" to prevent this from happening. Definitely something to look into if you are getting married outside.

    http://www.amazon.com/Magnetic-Pearl-Oval-Veil-Weights/dp/B00J07ZW2K

    I'm wearing a veil. This is probably the only time in my life that I get to, so f*ck it. :) Wear whatever you want and feel good in. Just make sure it works well with the dress.
    I'm just debating on ceremony/pics only or wearing it the whole time. 
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