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Can we have your leftovers?

edited August 2014 in Budget Weddings
My partner and I are getting married at the end of September--we are not overly romantic people, and we thought it would be funny (not to mention cost-effective) to have napkins and whatnot with other people's names on them.  So if you've got unused stuff leftover from your wedding ("For Esmerelda and Peyton's Happy Day!") and you'd be willing to part with it, we'd be very much obliged!  (We will of course pay for the shipping!)  

Edit:  For the record, I'm not really asking whether or not you like this idea, because we don't know each other and I don't really care.  If you don't like my idea, I advise you not to take part in it.  The manners of some people...  Nasty commenters will be ignored and reported.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall member
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    I'm not sure guests would see that as funny.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 a taco truck in Houston member
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    edited August 2014
    Seriously?
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  • I would think you were cheap and I would talk about that.
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    You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
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  • I think it's really funny
    ohannabelle
  • I would think you were cheap and I would talk about that.
    Ditto. Sorry.

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  • True story...I went to a wedding once where they had drink stirrers and napkins from a random couple's 1970's wedding (completely different names). No clue where they found the stuff. Some people thought it was funny, others were thoroughly confused. It was a pretty tacky wedding so this seemed to fit the vibe.
  • Fairyjen1Fairyjen1 member
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        I would find it funny! We both come from family's of jokers though. We are having immediate family (mostly) at our wedding so I could totally do this and everyone would get it. Most of MY extended family would too. I'm not as sure about each of our friends and FI's extended family so if it were a larger wedding I probably wouldn't risk it. A lot of people feel a wedding and most things tied to it should only be classy and serious. Which is fine, everyone is entitled to their feelings. I think it's a know your crowd thing.

        Then again, we are having a Jessica and Roger rabbit cake topper (wedding is at Disneyland) so maybe I'm not the best person to ask.

    *Edited because my crowd isn't a bunch of crows!*
  • I think this is really funny and if we were doing personalized napkins, I would definitely send them your way. Good luck!
    Car2992
  • edited August 2014
    Thank you to the people who left positive comments!

    To the rest, thankfully we're not inviting anyone as shallow as you, and our guests have a sense of humor.  Thanks for your unsolicited opinion though!
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 a taco truck in Houston member
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    Thank you to the people who left positive comments!

    To the rest, thankfully we're not inviting anyone as shallow as you, and our guests have a sense of humor.  Thanks for your unsolicited opinion though!
    You posted on a wedding forum. Unsolicited opinions are inevitable.


    Btw, I have a great sense of humor. Watch the League. It's on Netflix. One of the characters uses leftover wedding napkins as a pee bib. Fucking hilarious. Your idea just makes you look cheap.
  • And if I were shallow enough to care about whether or not I looked cheap, and if my loved ones were rude enough to care, we might have a problem.  Internet or not, you have no manners.
  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's member
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    edited August 2014
    And if I were shallow enough to care about whether or not I looked cheap, and if my loved ones were rude enough to care, we might have a problem.  Internet or not, you have no manners.
    PP have no manners because they gave you their opinions? Seriously? 

    Here is my opinion. I don't find your idea cute or funny or unique or whatever the hell you are aiming for. I would be confused and wondering if your napkin order got screwed up.

    ETA:  You posted on a public forum.  You don't have any control what answers you get.  People are free to respond however they wish, including giving you unsolicited advice and/or their opinions on the matter.  This does not make them rude or have no manners.  If you don't like certain posts feel free to ignore them but no one was rude.

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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 a taco truck in Houston member
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    edited August 2014
    Hahahaha. Seriously, what do you think was "inflammatory"?

    And if I were shallow enough to care about whether or not I looked cheap, and if my loved ones were rude enough to care, we might have a problem.  Internet or not, you have no manners.

    Btw, I hate to break it to you, but it is not rude to care nor to think that something is tacky.
  • I would think calling me cheap when no one asked you is rude. I would never criticize a stranger's wedding unless my opinions had been specifically asked for.  Our entire wedding would be called tacky by most people.  Those people have not been invited.  
  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 a taco truck in Houston member
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    I would think calling me cheap when no one asked you is rude. I would never criticize a stranger's wedding unless my opinions had been specifically asked for.  Our entire wedding would be called tacky by most people.  Those people have not been invited.  

    That's not how it works here. And please tell us the rest of your tacky ideas. I need some entertainment.
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    edited August 2014
    I would think calling me cheap when no one asked you is rude. I would never criticize a stranger's wedding unless my opinions had been specifically asked for.  Our entire wedding would be called tacky by most people.  Those people have not been invited.  
    Ok, look, you posted an idea on a public forum. People said, in various ways, that they think your idea is a poor one. If you don't want those comments, don't post or simply ignore them. If you want, post and say, "Yes, I know some people will think it's tacky. But our invite list is full of our friends who have our sense of humor. Besides, we still plan to host everyone properly."

    You can't control how people post; you can control how tactfully you respond to those posts. If you think a post is rude to you, tactfully reply, and usually the person will usually roll their eyes and move along. Saying you have a bad idea, however, isn't rude. 

    I hope you mean tacky as in off the wall ideas and not tacky as in treating guests poorly. 



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  • Nope.  Congrats.  This was my first post here, and now my last.  I have no interest in conversing with nasty people with nothing better to do than troll wedding websites--years after getting married--to put down strangers because they have different tastes.  You win, I'm gone.  Give yourselves a nice pat on the back.
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 a taco truck in Houston member
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    Nope.  Congrats.  This was my first post here, and now my last.  I have no interest in conversing with nasty people with nothing better to do than troll wedding websites--years after getting married--to put down strangers because they have different tastes.  You win, I'm gone.  Give yourselves a nice pat on the back.

    Here's what I learned from this site. We are Internet strangers. If you decide to have random napkins donated from strangers at your wedding, it doesn't affect us. We'll never know if you did it or not. And, you're posting to a very diverse demographic here. Chances are, if several people tell you that this idea is tacky, some of the guests at your wedding will think so, too. They just won't tell you.

    And, think about it from a practical perspective. You are willing to spend money to have people ship you leftover napkins. Shipping isn't always cheap. You're essentially spending money on something that people will use to wipe their mouth then throw away. Take that money and put it to better use.

    Personalized napkins, IMO, are just a huge waste of money. And having strangers' leftovers just looks like you're not able to properly host your guests.
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  • My partner and I are getting married at the end of September--we are not overly romantic people, and we thought it would be funny (not to mention cost-effective) to have napkins and whatnot with other people's names on them.  So if you've got unused stuff leftover from your wedding ("For Esmerelda and Peyton's Happy Day!") and you'd be willing to part with it, we'd be very much obliged!  (We will of course pay for the shipping!)  

    Edit:  For the record, I'm not really asking whether or not you like this idea, because we don't know each other and I don't really care.  If you don't like my idea, I advise you not to take part in it.  The manners of some people...  Nasty commenters will be ignored and reported.
    And this, FFS, is ridiculous. You don't report people for disagreeing with you, or giving honest opinions. That's just absurd. 
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  • misshart00misshart00 Oklahoma member
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    Wow. You thought these comments were harsh? The internet is not for you.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall member
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    I wish when people quoted the TOS they were wise enough to actually be right that the TOS was being violated. But it has yet to happen. Seriously, folks. If you're going to wave the TOS at other posters, make sure you know what it means and that it has actually been violated, or you just make a fool of yourself.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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