Dollar Dance?

Maggie0829

StickEmUpKitty said:

These replies to my post all made me smile.  

lurkergirl

StickEmUpKitty said:

These replies to my post all made me smile.  

Well, that's because you're terrible.

StickEmUpKitty

They made me smile because everyone is so catty. Half the people replying have already been married for who knows how long. It makes me wonder why they are here commenting on this stuff and not off enjoying their husbands. These boards and site I thought were for those wedding planning? Unless the women are looking to plan their next wedding. In that case carry on. And have fun! It should be fun and laid back... not all stuffy and full of rules.

Cookie Pusher

StickEmUpKitty said:

They made me smile because everyone is so catty. Half the people replying have already been married for who knows how long. It makes me wonder why they are here commenting on this stuff and not off enjoying their husbands. These boards and site I thought were for those wedding planning? Unless the women are looking to plan their next wedding. In that case carry on. And have fun! It should be fun and laid back... not all stuffy and full of rules.

Yes, because it's always good to take advice from people who have little to no firsthand knowledge or experience. I really should start asking my mailman for advice on how to treat my menstrual cramps.

Maggie0829

StickEmUpKitty said:

They made me smile because everyone is so catty. Half the people replying have already been married for who knows how long. It makes me wonder why they are here commenting on this stuff and not off enjoying their husbands. These boards and site I thought were for those wedding planning? Unless the women are looking to plan their next wedding. In that case carry on. And have fun! It should be fun and laid back... not all stuffy and full of rules.

@StickEmUpKitty - I fucking hate responses like this and the mindset of people like you.  I can enjoy my husband and still converse on a wedding site even though I have been married a few years. You wan't to know how?  Because I am a multi-tasker.  I don't solely stare at my husband all day because you know I have other shit I like to do.  I stay on here because I like weddings and talking about weddings and since I have been through the planning stages both for my own wedding but also helping out my sister when she got married and my friend when she got married I feel like I know a thing or two.  It is kind of like being taught how to drive by a certified drivers ed teacher. But hey if you want to learn how to drive by someone who has never been behind the wheel then good for you.  Just tell me when you are going to be on the road so I know to take an alternate form of transportation.

Finally, my wedding was a fucking blast and etiquette was still followed which means that my guests didn't have to open their wallets all night and I didn't treat them like they were ATM's

StickEmUpKitty

So someone who planned one wedding is a good person to ask for advice? I would think if I was needing that kind of help I would hire a professional wedding planner. But really... what does it matter how we celebrate our day? I don't care how you celebrated yours... but I do hope you had fun and didn't stress over little details

Maggie0829

StickEmUpKitty said:

So someone who planned one wedding is a good person to ask for advice? I would think if I was needing that kind of help I would hire a professional wedding planner. But really... what does it matter how we celebrate our day? I don't care how you celebrated yours... but I do hope you had fun and didn't stress over little details

When you post on a public forum you open yourself up to opinions about your wedding.  You don't want opinions then don't post.

And someone who has planned and helped planned a few weddings in their life have more knowledge about it then someone who has not planned any at all.  Oh and you know, the whole common sense thing is crucial as well.  It is common sense to not treat your guests like your personal ATM

So enjoy your tacky day!

chibiyui

StickEmUpKitty

I didn't even read all that... I am sure it was interesting though. Have a great day!

beethery

StickEmUpKitty said:

So someone who planned one wedding is a good person to ask for advice? I would think if I was needing that kind of help I would hire a professional wedding planner. But really... what does it matter how we celebrate our day? I don't care how you celebrated yours... but I do hope you had fun and didn't stress over little details

Girl, you chimed in and then you got responses that you didn't like. Now you're pressed about it.

If you want to carry on with some rude shit and don't want anybody's input, you keep it to yourself and stay quiet in your shame.

Maggie0829

StickEmUpKitty said:

I didn't even read all that... I am sure it was interesting though. Have a great day!

Your level of maturity is astounding.

slothiegal

StickEmUpKitty said:

They made me smile because everyone is so catty. Half the people replying have already been married for who knows how long. It makes me wonder why they are here commenting on this stuff and not off enjoying their husbands. These boards and site I thought were for those wedding planning? Unless the women are looking to plan their next wedding. In that case carry on. And have fun! It should be fun and laid back... not all stuffy and full of rules.

lol wut?

 

Oh, I forgot, I should be constantly blowing my husband while cooking him a steak dinner.  Gurl, c'mon.

KatieinBkln

StickEmUpKitty said:

They made me smile because everyone is so catty. Half the people replying have already been married for who knows how long. It makes me wonder why they are here commenting on this stuff and not off enjoying their husbands. These boards and site I thought were for those wedding planning? Unless the women are looking to plan their next wedding. In that case carry on. And have fun! It should be fun and laid back... not all stuffy and full of rules.

This has to be a BINGO.

Viczaesar

StickEmUpKitty said:

So someone who planned one wedding is a good person to ask for advice? I would think if I was needing that kind of help I would hire a professional wedding planner. But really... what does it matter how we celebrate our day? I don't care how you celebrated yours... but I do hope you had fun and didn't stress over little details

Because we actually give a shit about the comfort and happiness of your guests, something that you apparently don't take into consideration.  Think of us as the Lorax of wedding guests.

beethery

@viczaesar I wish I could love that more than once. The Lorax of wedding guests!!!!!

wrigleyville

Making sure our guests don't have to pay for alcohol or hand us (even more) money via a Dollar Dance is not "stuffy" and "full of details". It's called being a good host and not pissing people off.

LittleWohlscheid

StickEmUpKitty said:

They made me smile because everyone is so catty. Half the people replying have already been married for who knows how long. It makes me wonder why they are here commenting on this stuff and not off enjoying their husbands. These boards and site I thought were for those wedding planning? Unless the women are looking to plan their next wedding. In that case carry on. And have fun! It should be fun and laid back... not all stuffy and full of rules.

Having some people respond who have been through the planning process can be helpful just because of the experiences they may have had that the OP might not have thought of. Some families are big on the dollar dance and I think it's a little crappy to bash those families and I think some people get derailed and think their opinions are the end-all-be-all of what makes a good wedding. It might be good to hear those people out if they disagree though because they might have some good points (I say that to both sides).

The DD is not forcing people to give you money, but when I've seen it people were allowed to dance on the floor at the same time, so it wasn't boring for those not partaking, but those who think it's fun got to join in. The bride and groom absolutely shouldn't do it if they feel uncomfortable doing it. 

As for a cash bar, my wedding is offering beer and wine and if they want liquor, they pay for it themselves (it's at the bar whether we pay or not). I don't know if people think it's tacky or not, but it's what's happening. I don't know if that's what you meant for yours or not.

southernbelle0915

LittleWohlscheid said:

Having some people respond who have been through the planning process can be helpful just because of the experiences they may have had that the OP might not have thought of. Some families are big on the dollar dance and I think it's a little crappy to bash those families and I think some people get derailed and think their opinions are the end-all-be-all of what makes a good wedding. It might be good to hear those people out if they disagree though because they might have some good points (I say that to both sides).

The DD is not forcing people to give you money, but when I've seen it people were allowed to dance on the floor at the same time, so it wasn't boring for those not partaking, but those who think it's fun got to join in. The bride and groom absolutely shouldn't do it if they feel uncomfortable doing it. 

As for a cash bar, my wedding is offering beer and wine and if they want liquor, they pay for it themselves (it's at the bar whether we pay or not). I don't know if people think it's tacky or not, but it's what's happening. I don't know if that's what you meant for yours or not.

Have you ever been a wedding with a buffet? Have you ever reached/asked for something on a buffet and someone says "that'll be $6"? Would you ever consider doing this at your wedding? Charging guests for a certain item on the buffet?

It's the same thing with the bar. You offer it/make it available, you pay for it. If you don't want to pay for it, simply do not make it available. There's nothing wrong with beer/wine only. Hell, there's nothing wrong with a dry wedding. Tell the venue that beer and wine are the only things you're making available. Liquor is not on the menu.

chibiyui

southernbelle0915 said:

LittleWohlscheid said:

Having some people respond who have been through the planning process can be helpful just because of the experiences they may have had that the OP might not have thought of. Some families are big on the dollar dance and I think it's a little crappy to bash those families and I think some people get derailed and think their opinions are the end-all-be-all of what makes a good wedding. It might be good to hear those people out if they disagree though because they might have some good points (I say that to both sides).

The DD is not forcing people to give you money, but when I've seen it people were allowed to dance on the floor at the same time, so it wasn't boring for those not partaking, but those who think it's fun got to join in. The bride and groom absolutely shouldn't do it if they feel uncomfortable doing it. 

As for a cash bar, my wedding is offering beer and wine and if they want liquor, they pay for it themselves (it's at the bar whether we pay or not). I don't know if people think it's tacky or not, but it's what's happening. I don't know if that's what you meant for yours or not.

Have you ever been a wedding with a buffet? Have you ever reached/asked for something on a buffet and someone says "that'll be $6"? Would you ever consider doing this at your wedding? Charging guests for a certain item on the buffet?

It's the same thing with the bar. You offer it/make it available, you pay for it. If you don't want to pay for it, simply do not make it available. There's nothing wrong with beer/wine only. Hell, there's nothing wrong with a dry wedding. Tell the venue that beer and wine are the only things you're making available. Liquor is not on the menu.

Usually in cases where there is a full bar, but only partially hosted, you just put a sign up letting guests know what is hosted. I have no problem drinking just wine, but will feel embarrassed if I order jack and coke only to be told it wasn't hosted.

LittleWohlscheid

@chibiyui Thanks for the tip! Definitely letting my guests know that is what's available for free to them. I would hate for them to order an expensive drink and not have the cash for it.

@southernbelle0915 I'm not going to tell my guests they can't order liquor if they want it. They'll know what's provided and are adults so they can make their own decision about whether or not to buy it. I see your point, but I disagree.

StickEmUpKitty

Oh and we're also having a cash buffet style catering and raffling off prizes to pay for the honeymoon.

southernbelle0915

StickEmUpKitty said:

Oh and we're also having a cash buffet style catering and raffling off prizes to pay for the honeymoon.

chibiyui

StickEmUpKitty said:

Oh and we're also having a cash buffet style catering and raffling off prizes to pay for the honeymoon.

Oh you're back. I thought the forums were too hard to navigate.

StickEmUpKitty

It was difficult to navigate but I finally found my way back.

southernbelle0915

StickEmUpKitty said:

It was difficult to navigate but I finally found my way back.

PrettyGirlLost

StickEmUpKitty said:

I love the dollar dance... as a little girl in our mexican family it was always the funnest part of the wedding. Every time I went to a wedding I looked forward to the dollar dance. We will have one at ours because they are fun and our family enjoys them too. Its always been a time where everyone gets extra funny on the dance floor. I don't care if its tacky... We are also having a cash bar and taco people come out to make all the food. So our wedding will be totally awesome and fun and laid back. If they don't want to pin a dollar they don't have to... but they will definitely enjoy watching everyone else who does.

southernbelle0915

PrettyGirlLost said:

QFB

(Quoted For Beauty)

wrigleyville

StickEmUpKitty said:

Oh and we're also having a cash buffet style catering and raffling off prizes to pay for the honeymoon.

Now I'm calling MUD/troll.

PrettyGirlLost

StickEmUpKitty said:

They made me smile because everyone is so catty. Half the people replying have already been married for who knows how long. It makes me wonder why they are here commenting on this stuff and not off enjoying their husbands. These boards and site I thought were for those wedding planning? Unless the women are looking to plan their next wedding. In that case carry on. And have fun! It should be fun and laid back... not all stuffy and full of rules.

Yeah, my favorite Special Snowflake logic fail comment.

The people who are already married are the best source of information on the subject of planning a wedding. . . since they have already done it before!!!  Why would you want advice soley from other brides to be who also have no idea what they are doing?

That would be like a bunch of virgins sitting around giving each other advice and tips on sex.  Good luck with that one!

PrettyGirlLost

chibiyui said:

Oh and we're also having a cash buffet style catering and raffling off prizes to pay for the honeymoon.

Oh you're back. I thought the forums were too hard to navigate.

She left just long enough to report back to her besties on WW about how gullible we all are, believing this nonsense and being so rude and mean to her in our responses.