FRIDAY!!!!!! (and questions)

cu97tiger

@severmilli12 - I don't blame you at all for only wanting to be yourself right now. SO EXCITING!

@lapeanut1018 - YES. Fuck the cold.

@phira - DH and I really enjoyed Pacific Rim as well.

Blue & White

Confession: I forgot to wear a bra to my interview this morning. I didn't realize it until I was changing out of my suit and H goes "you didn't wear a BRA?!" Lol he's never gonna let me live this down if I get the job! Or even if I don't.

eilis1228

Warning! Long story ahead: 

Argh, weddings bring out the crazies. Geez Louise. I posted yesterday about how I decided to accept my cousin's offer to do my bouquets. She's on my dad's side of the family, which I have an estranged-ish relationship with overall. I see them once a year (sometimes less), but thanks to Facebook and social media I've been able to bond with a lot of my cousins over the past decade or so. Anyway, I don't know if you guys remember this, but right after FI and I were engaged, I had a panic attack about my guest list. I wasn't originally planning to invite the cousins from that side of the family because there are so many of them, space is limited, and I don't see them all that often. I felt guilty about it though. Shortly after FI and I announced our engagement, I was talking to one of my older brothers about the guest list. I told him my plan, and he asked if I was going to invite cousins from my mom's family. I told him I would invite cousins from my mom's family and step-dad's family because I grew up with them and have close relationships with them. My brother flat out told me I would deeply offend my dad's side of the family because they're blood relatives and my step-dad's family is not. That caused me to panic, and FI and I re-worked the guest list to include those cousins. Well, while I was talking with my cousin yesterday about bouquets, she asked me about the guest list. I told her we were hoping for 100 people, but I was a little nervous because I had about 80 family members from various sides. She told me not to do what one of our other cousin's did a couple of years ago-- basically that cousin, G, cherry picked a few cousins and aunts and uncles instead of inviting everyone, which caused a lot of bad blood. My cousin told me if I did do what G did, she would call me out on Facebook just like she did with G. Basically my initial fears were confirmed, and I was glad I'd already foreseen this issue and re-worked the guest list. I wasn't offended by the "threat" because that side of the family is a little crazy, hence my estranged-ish relationship with them. 

Anyway, one of my other older brothers, B, texted me today and said, "I see on Facebook that she won't leave you alone." (My cousin had been tagging me non-stop on Facebook about doing my bouquets). I told him I'd decided to embrace it and let her do them. It made her happy, and it saved me a ton of time and money, so why not? He told me he thinks I'm opening a can of worms and he really feels for my sanity over the next year. I told him about the conversation I had with her and how she was still really offended about G's wedding. Well, my brother got really offended by that because apparently none of us were invited to HER wedding. (Should also mention that even though I was not invited to G's wedding, he was... but my older brothers have been close with her and her siblings for many many years). I told him I don't know how true that is since none of us were talking to our father when Offended Cousin got married, and she very well could have listed us on the invitation she sent to our father. I told him that regardless of all that, the point she made was correct even though the delivery was terrible. I tried to explain to him that wedding politics are a very real thing, and I'm just trying to be laid back about it all and do whatever I need to do to keep the peace. I know I can't make everyone happy, but I don't want to be a source of resentment either. So, anyway, now he wants to schedule a time to call and talk more about this because he's so pissed about my cousin and her behavior... ugh. I don't want to stir shit up! I just want to accept a generous favor, potentially reconnect with some cousins, and be done with it.

I should also mention that even though my cousin told me I 100% must invite all of the cousins and aunts and uncles on that side of the family, she said most of them probably would not come, including herself. She said they will all expect an invitation, and me sending them one just lets them know that I'm thinking of them, love them, etc. It's a fair point, and when I later asked my mom about it, my mom agreed. 

*sigh*

Guys, I have 14 months. 14 MONTHS! People need to chill the eff out. 

Also, we just found out that my mom's cousin who we're close to is getting divorced. His wife apparently has a boyfriend and filed for divorce already. My mom just sent me an email telling me about it. Yay for fun family dynamics. But hey, one less person to invite to my wedding lol.

My answers to the questions:

And now, questions:

1 - What are you up to this weekend? Tonight I'm getting my nails done with a friend, and I'm going to ask her to be a BM. Then we're going to dinner with my FI and her H, and we'll probably play some board games afterwards. No plans Saturday or Sunday, but Monday we're going over to those same friends' house for a BBQ pool party thing.

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now? 12!

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be? Growing up I wanted to be a Kimberly or Ashley so bad. These days I really like the name Charlotte.

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow? Leg hair! Easier to cover up.

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose? Man, this one is tough. I live in Texas, so it's always hot all the time, and it's absolutely miserable. I love the cold, but 10 degrees is really extreme... but hell, let's go with 10 degrees simply because it's new and different from where I live now.

I'll comment on everyone's posts in a new posts. I feel like this one is already a mile long.

Blue & White

@severmilli12 I hope you wore a bra to your interview! and that the actual interview went well too!

lavenderfields13

eilis1228 said:

Warning! Long story ahead: 

Argh, weddings bring out the crazies. Geez Louise. I posted yesterday about how I decided to accept my cousin's offer to do my bouquets. She's on my dad's side of the family, which I have an estranged-ish relationship with overall. I see them once a year (sometimes less), but thanks to Facebook and social media I've been able to bond with a lot of my cousins over the past decade or so. Anyway, I don't know if you guys remember this, but right after FI and I were engaged, I had a panic attack about my guest list. I wasn't originally planning to invite the cousins from that side of the family because there are so many of them, space is limited, and I don't see them all that often. I felt guilty about it though. Shortly after FI and I announced our engagement, I was talking to one of my older brothers about the guest list. I told him my plan, and he asked if I was going to invite cousins from my mom's family. I told him I would invite cousins from my mom's family and step-dad's family because I grew up with them and have close relationships with them. My brother flat out told me I would deeply offend my dad's side of the family because they're blood relatives and my step-dad's family is not. That caused me to panic, and FI and I re-worked the guest list to include those cousins. Well, while I was talking with my cousin yesterday about bouquets, she asked me about the guest list. I told her we were hoping for 100 people, but I was a little nervous because I had about 80 family members from various sides. She told me not to do what one of our other cousin's did a couple of years ago-- basically that cousin, G, cherry picked a few cousins and aunts and uncles instead of inviting everyone, which caused a lot of bad blood. My cousin told me if I did do what G did, she would call me out on Facebook just like she did with G. Basically my initial fears were confirmed, and I was glad I'd already foreseen this issue and re-worked the guest list. I wasn't offended by the "threat" because that side of the family is a little crazy, hence my estranged-ish relationship with them. 

Anyway, one of my other older brothers, B, texted me today and said, "I see on Facebook that she won't leave you alone." (My cousin had been tagging me non-stop on Facebook about doing my bouquets). I told him I'd decided to embrace it and let her do them. It made her happy, and it saved me a ton of time and money, so why not? He told me he thinks I'm opening a can of worms and he really feels for my sanity over the next year. I told him about the conversation I had with her and how she was still really offended about G's wedding. Well, my brother got really offended by that because apparently none of us were invited to HER wedding. (Should also mention that even though I was not invited to G's wedding, he was... but my older brothers have been close with her and her siblings for many many years). I told him I don't know how true that is since none of us were talking to our father when Offended Cousin got married, and she very well could have listed us on the invitation she sent to our father. I told him that regardless of all that, the point she made was correct even though the delivery was terrible. I tried to explain to him that wedding politics are a very real thing, and I'm just trying to be laid back about it all and do whatever I need to do to keep the peace. I know I can't make everyone happy, but I don't want to be a source of resentment either. So, anyway, now he wants to schedule a time to call and talk more about this because he's so pissed about my cousin and her behavior... ugh. I don't want to stir shit up! I just want to accept a generous favor, potentially reconnect with some cousins, and be done with it.

I should also mention that even though my cousin told me I 100% must invite all of the cousins and aunts and uncles on that side of the family, she said most of them probably would not come, including herself. She said they will all expect an invitation, and me sending them one just lets them know that I'm thinking of them, love them, etc. It's a fair point, and when I later asked my mom about it, my mom agreed. 

*sigh*

Guys, I have 14 months. 14 MONTHS! People need to chill the eff out. 

Also, we just found out that my mom's cousin who we're close to is getting divorced. His wife apparently has a boyfriend and filed for divorce already. My mom just sent me an email telling me about it. Yay for fun family dynamics. But hey, one less person to invite to my wedding lol.

My answers to the questions:

And now, questions:

1 - What are you up to this weekend? Tonight I'm getting my nails done with a friend, and I'm going to ask her to be a BM. Then we're going to dinner with my FI and her H, and we'll probably play some board games afterwards. No plans Saturday or Sunday, but Monday we're going over to those same friends' house for a BBQ pool party thing.

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now? 12!

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be? Growing up I wanted to be a Kimberly or Ashley so bad. These days I really like the name Charlotte.

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow? Leg hair! Easier to cover up.

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose? Man, this one is tough. I live in Texas, so it's always hot all the time, and it's absolutely miserable. I love the cold, but 10 degrees is really extreme... but hell, let's go with 10 degrees simply because it's new and different from where I live now.

I'll comment on everyone's posts in a new posts. I feel like this one is already a mile long.

to the bolded: I think this is extremely rude! It's not her wedding so she should not have any say over the guest list- she can think whatever she wants but saying that to you when you're not even close with her - I think she's overstepping her bounds. I definitely know that the guest list causes A LOT of stress for most people, myself included but it is MY and my FI's decision who is invited. If you're close with some cousins and not others then I don't think you should HAVE to invite the ones you're not close with. 

Also I'm kinds of with your brother on opening up a can of worms with allowing her to do the bouquets- I think she was being way too forceful about it, but that's just my opinion.

/end rant

loves2shop4shoes

1 - What are you up to this weekend?

I'm starting therapy tomorrow.  I'm pretty excited about that.  Otherwise, I'm going to be hanging out with DH, chillin with the cats, doing my usual weekend stuff, and working.  Website launch is in 2 weeks!  Time to work!

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now?

6,042.  As per usual.

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be?

My current name, except spelled with a K.  I hate that it's constantly misspelled.

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow?

Leg.

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose?

110.  I hate being cold.  And yes, I realize the irony, since I moved to Chicago.

Peaseblossom55

1 - What are you up to this weekend?

Today my family''s coming over for a BBQ tomorrow is H's grandma's 97th birthday so we will be at his parent's house with his family.  No plans yet for Sunday or Monday.

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now?

10

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be?

Nicole suits me better,  I hate my name.

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow?

Leg hair because it's blonde and doesn't show as much.

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose?

110 for sure I don't do well in cold weather.

bethsmiles

1 - What are you up to this weekend? I don't have an big pans. Today after work I'm hopefully going to buy a car and I'm super excited. I was originally looking at either a Toyota Rav4 or a Honda CRV but after dealing with a shitter dealer I'm going to look at a Pontiac Vibe today that I'm really excited about!

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now? Probably a 10. Your weekend sounds like a blast!

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be? I'm not sure. I've always hated my name becase I don't feel like it suits me. Maybe Hannah?

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow? Leg hair, I prefer wearing pants anyway.

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose? 10*. I hate being hot and if it's cold I can wear hats and scarves and coats and drink hot chocolate!

cu97tiger

eilis1228 - I have a huge family (my mom has 8 brothers and sisters, all are married and have kids, half of those kids are married and THEY have kids). If I cherry-picked some cousins to invite, and some of the aunts and uncles to invite, and didn't invite the rest of them, then yep, there'd be bad blood. In that situation, it's best to pick a generation, or an age, and make a cut-off. Otherwise, it feels like a popularity contest, and of course people will be offended.

ETA: You may already know this, but if you invite them, you have to assume they'll come. They might not, but you don't want to be surprised by the expense and logistics of having an extra 10 guests that you weren't counting on having.

eilis1228

@lavenderfields13 That's just how that side of the family is. They have no filters and speak their minds. There are quite a few rivalries and feuds too between certain families within that side of the family. It's all a giant soap opera that I usually keep at arm's length. I'm not really offended by her words, but I guess I'm just not surprised at all. Family is fun like that. While I understand that it's my wedding and I should invite who I want, I also understand that people, family members especially, take wedding invitations very personally. Since my cousin G was married 2 or 3 years ago and Flowers Cousin is still pissed about it... well, I mean, that just goes to show you the sort of drama I'll cause by not inviting everyone. As for the flowers... I'll still let her do them. She's saving me a ton of time and money, and I'm seriously grateful for it. I plan to send her a gift card or something as a thank you once she's finished everything, so it's not like I'll end up on her bad side. :-P

@cu97tiger We took all that into consideration when we re-worked the guest list. It's one of the reasons why I panicked as much as I did. The venue's absolute max is 125 (which we did on purpose so we would have to limit the guest list), and we've got the guest list close to that number. There are people on there that I know for sure will not come due to health or work or whatever too, so we should be fine. As long as our parents don't add anymore to the list, then I don't anticipate any issues... but of course, I've got 14 months for that list to change, and who knows what other awkward situations will come up. But like you so wisely said, if we can't physically or financially accommodate more people, then we can't invite them--period. And yes, like you also said, you can't cherry pick. You either invite all of one generation or none of one generation. There's no getting around it. You are very wise

lavenderfields13

@eilis1228- well I'm glad you don't let things get to you as easily I do! haha

I do get being offended by not being invited- one of the last weddings on my dad's side of the family had a lot of people confused- my cousin getting married invited some cousins but not their siblings which I think is weird. I didn't make the cut but whatever. But I could see inviting Aunt Sally's kids because you're really close with them but not inviting Uncle Bob's kids because you're not close with them at all. Guests lists are too complicated. I keep day dreaming about eloping!

eilis1228

@CocoBellaF Wow, that's terrible news. I'm so so sorry for your loss! *hugs*

@beanbot2002 WHAT? He should be reprimanded in some way! Ugh. I'm so sorry. *hugs*

@phira Yeah Pacific Rim! It's so good! I think a sequel is in the works.

@bethsmiles YAY new car! Post pics? 

@lavenderfields13 I usually let everything get to me. I'm always the first person to get offended or stressed out, but I'm trying my absolute best to roll with the punches for my wedding. If I let myself stress over everything for the next 14 months... it would be bad. lol. We'll see how long my zen attitude lasts though. My brother wants to call me tomorrow to talk more about the drama my cousin told me about... he's usually really sane and grounded, but he seems upset. Should be interesting. I remember you posting about that wedding though--how can someone not invite a full family?! That is so bizarre. I mean, hell, the cousin with the flowers... I'm friendly with her on FB, and I've hung out a few times with one of her brothers (he and FI really get along), but I've seen her other brother like once in 15 years. I would still obviously invite him because he's their brother and my cousin...duh. Some people... but like you said, it just goes to show you how weird guest lists are.

beanbot2002

Thanks guys...I'm trying really hard to just keep my head down and keep working through it. It's tough. Sometimes I want to scream but I know that would only serve to lose my job as I would be the one seen as the bad one. So I'm just working away like always. Biding my time. Waiting and looking for a better opportunity. 

ashleybunny8

1 - What are you up to this weekend? Tonight: we had a double date planned, but it just fell through. We will probably go out to dinner and then play video games at home. Tomorrow we're going to a birthday party, then our fantasy football draft, and then a double date. Not sure what we are doing Sunday, maybe some shopping for new clothes for BF and then karaoke. Monday will hopefully be a very lazy day.

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now? Your weekend sounds super fun, so a seven?!

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be? Probably Marie, that is the other name my parents had picked for me.

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow? Armpit. It's nasty but I'd rather cover my arms than my legs any day.

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose? 110* Because I bascially already do!!

IrishDreamer

And now, questions:

1 - What are you up to this weekend?

Tonight C and I are meetin an old coworker of mine for drinks. Tomorrow is fantasy draft day for C and a bunch of coworkers, so I'm going. I'm making a cannoli cake to take

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now?

28383939393

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be?

I already picked a new first name

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow?

Armpit hair is easier to shave


5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose?

110* - hence why I live in Florida

lovemyrunner

@CocoBellaF and @Beanbot: sorry for your troubles ladies

1 - What are you up to this weekend?

Tonight, some friends are taking us out to dinner as a thank you for dog sitting while she was in the hospital.  Tomorrow, first football game of the season, GO BIG RED!  Then on to La Festa Italiana, where I can celebrate my daigo lineage and also stuff my face with delicious carbs!  Sunday, lunch with BF's family.  My mom is coming too, and it will be the first time our parents meet each other.

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now?

Um.  6.  I'm already on staycation this week, but it would have been nice to go somewhere.  And I'm getting over a back injury, so I definitely don't want your neck pain.

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be?

I'll stick with what I've got.  A new name would just confuse me.

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow?

Leg hair.  Scratchy armpit hair really bugs me when I go too long between shaves.  Plus, hairy pits tend to trap the stank, yuck!

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose?

10 degrees.  I hate both extremes (and deal with them both often here in Nebraska).  But I have to agree with @thetimewillcome.  You can always pile on more layers when it's too cold out.  But when it's too hot you can only take off so much.  I wind up naked, in front of a fan, spread out like this poor squirrel and still wishing that I could just peel off my skin to cool down.

thetimewillcome

lovemyrunner said:

@CocoBellaF and @Beanbot: sorry for your troubles ladies

1 - What are you up to this weekend?

Tonight, some friends are taking us out to dinner as a thank you for dog sitting while she was in the hospital.  Tomorrow, first football game of the season, GO BIG RED!  Then on to La Festa Italiana, where I can celebrate my daigo lineage and also stuff my face with delicious carbs!  Sunday, lunch with BF's family.  My mom is coming too, and it will be the first time our parents meet each other.

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now?

Um.  6.  I'm already on staycation this week, but it would have been nice to go somewhere.  And I'm getting over a back injury, so I definitely don't want your neck pain.

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be?

I'll stick with what I've got.  A new name would just confuse me.

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow?

Leg hair.  Scratchy armpit hair really bugs me when I go too long between shaves.  Plus, hairy pits tend to trap the stank, yuck!

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose?

10 degrees.  I hate both extremes (and deal with them both often here in Nebraska).  But I have to agree with @thetimewillcome.  You can always pile on more layers when it's too cold out.  But when it's too hot you can only take off so much.  I wind up naked, in front of a fan, spread out like this poor squirrel and still wishing that I could just peel off my skin to cool down.

I was just talking to someone about the temperature extremes in Nebraska. Out of the five states I've lived in (Nebraska, Texas, Missouri, Virginia, and Pennsylvania), Nebraska has the greatest temperature range. It easily gets over 100 in the summer and under 0 in the winter, frequently. I blame it on the lack of trees.

speakeasy14

@Blue & White - hahaha I would do something like that as well! Was it noticeable? Was your interviewer male or female?

1 - What are you up to this weekend? Absolutely nothing but relax, and possibly rip up some carpets/walls/wallpaper.

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now? 8 - so jealous of your beach trip, but not liking the pain & headaches

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be? I like my name, but when I was a kid I wanted to change my name because I didn't like being picked on... quickly learned that kids will make fun of any name and got over it.

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow? Neither, but legs would be slightly less itchy, and not smell.

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose? 110 - I'm a tropical fish

*ugh I had paragraphs!*

phira

Uuugh.

I wanted to leave work early with J and go pick up our rings, but it wasn't going to work out. So I asked him if he could go after work, since he had plenty of time and I didn't, but he said no. The jeweler is moving to a new location and will now be closed for several days! UGH!

Blue & White

@speakeasy14‌ I don't have much in the boob area to speak of (I'm a B but not a big one at all!) I was also wearing a suit with jacket so I'm pretty sure no one noticed even though my interviewer was male. I mean my own husband didn't notice until I was naked lol.

But yea I'm never gonna live it down!

KeptInStitches

Ok, I'm feeling better today about my life and ending my job. I can talk a little if anyone's around!

@cu97tiger and @tuarceatha, have fun!

@cocobellaf, I am so sorry for your loss.

@beanbot2002, that is outrageous. I'm sorry you're dealing with that at work.

@blue, hilarious!

@bethsmiles, yay new car!

1 - What are you up to this weekend? Last night FI and I played board games with a couple of his friends. The distraction was really nice, and I feel better today about my old job ending. Today he's going to mow the lawn and I'm going to knit, perhaps do some housework. Sunday will look like today, only all inside because it's going to be rainy. Monday perhaps we'll get to paint the basement floor in that room that keeps leaking.

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now? Um, maybe about a 2? Today I'm pretty darn good with being me.

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be? I have to pick, huh? Renee.

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow? Leg hair. I wear pants practically every day anyway.

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose? Are you kidding? I voluntarily live in North Da-freaking-kota. 10*.

Awisha

1 - What are you up to this weekend?  My boyfriend and I went to a baseball (Seattle Mariners) game.  It was his first ever MLB game!  

2 - On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you wish you were me right now?  Well, to be honest, at least a 7 or 8.  That's because the good stuff sounds good.  And the bad stuff I pretty much already have.  I used to go to a chiropractor, but I can't now because I have different insurance that doesn't cover it.  So I have constant neck/shoulder/back/head pain/irritation.  I watch YouTube videos for self-chiropractic adjustments/massage in efforts to alleviate pain from scoliosis, but it's not the same.  

3 - If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be?  Maybe my middle name: Christine.  It's the name of my late aunt who I never met.  From the stories I've heard, it sounds like she was awesome.

4 - If you had to either grow your armpit hair or your leg hair, which would you grow?  Leg hair, definitely.  

5 - If you had to live somewhere where it was 110* every day, or 10* every day, which would you choose?  10 degrees.  I am far more able to handle cold than hot.  I've handled below freezing weather for extended periods of time before.  It wasn't my favorite, but I handled it.  Anything above 90 degrees makes me shut down and feel dead.