Tough Talks: "Honey, I love you- but this dish tastes like crap."

steph861

Usually, when I don't like something FI makes, he doesn't like it either (and vice versa). And usually whoever made it (or the component in question) is the first person to complain, which makes it easier for the other to agree. However, there have been times when he'll make seafood (which I'm still just getting used to after years of not eating it) and I'll gag. He generally understands that it's not about the way he's cooked the food, but rather that I'm just not as into seafood as he is. Though recently when he made seared tuna, I gagged but said I choked. He fully admitted later on that the tuna was too rare, which was exactly why I gagged. (No, I can't eat sushi.) ETA: Ugh, paragraphs

jynxiie

Thankfully FI is a good cook...

We cook together mostly, or I will make something while he's at work.
But he makes amazing crockpot dishes and of course BBQ. 

I'd suggest cooking together and giving little hints. I would try to eat as much as possible or pick around the stuff you don't like. But cooking together really helped FI and I make dinners we both love. I LOVE my food SPICY(!!!!!) where FI really hated spicy at first. He actually adds spice to dinners he makes because I have showed him how to add spice properly. 

mrsmorales2be

FI is an amazing cook. He's never made anything that I haven't loved. As for my cooking, I've learned that FI likes his food on the bland side. I enjoy a little heat or spice. He can't deal. We compromise....well, I compromise. I make it bland and spice up mine later.

VulgarGirl

One day, after nearly burning down the kitchen, FI put her arms around me, kissed my cheek and said "Ok, so maybe cooking isn't your thing, you're still a good girlfriend". Other food I have made has ended up under cooked, over cook, I make the weirdest combos, sometimes I pull shit off and sometimes we get take out.

I'd never want FI to just suck it up and eat food I made. She always tells me when I manage to make something good and if there is something to improve on she manages to make me feel good about trying anyways. And we've learned each other's tastes too. She can handle why more spice then I can. A few of her first dishes had me near tears and I finally broke down and said "Babe, I can't take this level of spice", she'd had no idea because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. But once I told her she was like "Girl! Why did you not tell me earlier! I don't want to like kill you!" and now she tones it down for me. I like spicy, but not to her level.

hellosweetie1015

I've never not liked anything FI's made for me. However, I have had ideas on how to make stuff better. He's a chef, and I suck at cooking, but while he is ALL ABOUT some structure in a pro kitchen, he's way more relaxed at home. Last weekend he made kebabs for my birthday, and he "sticked" them before he marinated them, and they didn't get the flavor of the marinade so much. Which made us both sad because the marinade was fantastic. So we decided that the next time kebabs happen, he would marinate, then stick.

I also asked him to leave a couple of the all-shrimp ones (shrimps-on-a-stick, essentially) on the grill longer to get them a little crispier. Turns out they stick to the stick a lot easier that way. I pretty much had to bite the stick with the shrimp.