TMI thoughts - what's your hell no?

raissyrais

Ndelible said:

Dang ladies.... I never figured y'all for the wild and seksie types. I'm amending my dream to pearl necklaces (for some of ya) and def no face shots for others! And, for those who are afraid of anal, I have a friend, ahem, cough, cough, who says that if you are super turned on, have lots of lube and go very slow, anal can bring amazing orgasms. But she's a lying bitch, so take it for what it's worth.

This is what lady in the streets but freak in the sheets mean.

FutureMrsN3312

jenna8984 said:

loveislouder said:

You don't want to get face shots in your eye either, trust me.  I had a blood shot red eye for a day and told people I sneezed too hard and popped a blood vessel.

I was going to say the same thing- nose: no big deal, eye: stings like a bitch. I never mind because we normally like to do that first then shower together. Or if it's like a chest shot, I just wipe it off with paper towels, I don't shower. I guess that's gross but whatever, I wiped it off lol

Baby wipes.  We always keep them handy for occasions like that.

These threads have made my Friday much more enjoyable

Ndelible

Witch hazel wipes or in a squirt bottle.... Always have them available. Much better than baby wipes and a super cheap to stay fresh.

Sugargirl1019

Porn. Nope.

Ndelible

Sugargirl1019 said:

Porn. Nope.

I just can't get on board with that one. I love me some good porn.

Sugargirl1019

Ndelible said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

Porn. Nope.

I just can't get on board with that one. I love me some good porn.

Nope. It offends me and feels like betrayal, like I'm not good enough. Always been that way.

ShesSoCold

Sugargirl1019 said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

Porn. Nope.

I just can't get on board with that one. I love me some good porn.

Nope. It offends me and feels like betrayal, like I'm not good enough. Always been that way.

Your husband drinks your urine but porn is too far?

I mean, to each his own and I mean no offense, but wow. 

lurkergirl

ShesSoCold said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

Porn. Nope.

I just can't get on board with that one. I love me some good porn.

Nope. It offends me and feels like betrayal, like I'm not good enough. Always been that way.

Your husband drinks your urine but porn is too far?

I mean, to each his own and I mean no offense, but wow. 

Haha, glad I'm not the only one who thought that!

I'm kind of meh on porn.  We had a rough patch a couple years into dating, and I'm sure he was watching his fair share while I wallowed in self pity...have watched a little together when we're drunk, but it just doesn't really add to the experience for us.

69 is mighty fine!  I feel funny about being all in his face like that, but he loves it.  He also really likes it when I sit on his face, but I need plenty of wine for that one.  It's super nice once I get over the awkwardness of it.

cupcait927

@lurkergirl FI begs to 69 all the time and to sit on his face but I feel so awkward doing it. I know I need to just get over it and the more I do it, the more comfortable it'll be but I can't get past the awkwardness. I'll let him go down on me all he wants if I'm laying on my back so I don't know what my problem is. 

lurkergirl

@cupcait927 I would say the sitting on the face is actually a little better because it's not all ass in his face. 

But...FI loves it, and seems to have no problem with all the parts, so if yours wants it and you can get comfortable, then I say go for it!  (Wine helps a lot

jenna8984

@beethery frigen thank you for that sign!!! FI acts like I'm the only one who won't try anal. Like no dude, no.

beethery

jenna8984 said:

beethery frigen thank you for that sign!!! FI acts like I'm the only one who won't try anal. Like no dude, no.

hahahaha!

I've tried it, I just really didn't enjoy it. He wants to try it and I am wholeheartedly not on board. Sometimes, you gotta remind a bitch, and maybe yours needs a reminder ;D

Sugargirl1019

ShesSoCold said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

Ndelible said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

Porn. Nope.

I just can't get on board with that one. I love me some good porn.

Nope. It offends me and feels like betrayal, like I'm not good enough. Always been that way.

Your husband drinks your urine but porn is too far?

I mean, to each his own and I mean no offense, but wow. 

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I don't understand how the two are similar? Like at all. One is physical enjoyment of me, one is emotionally thinking about other people or a situation I'm not involved in. I don't want to encourage that thought process.

flyingfoxes

I have to disagree on the emotional aspect of watching porn...for me it's purely a physical turn-on.  I don't long for the people I see on-screen (usually I find them kinda gross!).  lol

ShesSoCold

I agree with @april182015bride and I also agree that the two are not all that similar. But porn is so "vanilla" compared to urinating on another person which is so extreme. I guess to me it's almost like not wanting to be on the top floor of a large hotel because you're afraid of heights but going skydiving. 

Sugargirl1019

I don't see porn as vanilla. It's a hard limit for me.

Even as you all are describing it as funny or awful or stupid, I don't think I could ever get past it. I'm thinking of doeydo here. This probably has to do with my first bf, who secretly watched it, I caught him, told him I didn't feel good enough, was reminded by him how I'm the only one, yes I'm pretty and wonderful, and then caught him with it again later. It isn't physical for me - it breaks my heart and tears me emotionally - and THAT is worse than any anal pain to me.

Any peeing going on is in the shower. It's him who tells me to pause, starts oral and tells me to continue peeing. He really likes it /shrug.

flyingfoxes

It's just my opinion here, but it's dangerous to try and be the "be-all end-all" for a person, even just sexually.  It's natural to fantasize about other people, and foolish to think that your partner doesn't fantasize about others occasionally.  That doesn't mean he'll cheat or that you're not good enough for him.  It's human nature - you're the only one that he does the deed with and the only one he WANTS to do the deed with, but I believe everybody fantasizes about other people at least occasionally. 

Ndelible

40 years is a long time to be Fing the same person. We prefer good amateur stuff. When it's real people with real noises, moans and stuff. FH also like big, black women, something not normally featured in Vivid Video type porn. I have never found it a betrayal, emotionally or physically. It's pictures. I am a super visual person, so I enjoy it alone or with my partner. But I like reading erotica even more, that way my mind can fill in the details. Good reading, the old Nancy Friday book, My Secret Garden. And literotica.com. There's something for everybody.

doeydo

@sugargirl1019 I do not see the relation between porn and urine sex stuff between partners.  While I don't think of porn as emotional in any way, I believe that two people in a relationship decide their own boundaries and that's OK.  I don't think it is anyone's place to judge your relationship's boundaries.  

Ndelible

doeydo said:

@sugargirl1019 I do not see the relation between porn and urine sex stuff between partners.  While I don't think of porn as emotional in any way, I believe that two people in a relationship decide their own boundaries and that's OK.  I don't think it is anyone's place to judge your relationship's boundaries.  

I didn't read it that way, rather, water sports is an outlier fetish, while porn is really mainstream. That's all. It does seem a little on the priority backwards scale. IMHO, any desire/fetish that becomes an obsession is a problem, and it's probably not the fault of the activity, rather a disfunction of the brain on the part of the practitioner. Edited for spelling cause auto spell check sucks

sarawifenow

I am in the no anal camp over here. I have tried it with a few people and I just hate it. FI and I tried it a couple of months ago when I was VERY drunk. (I don't remember this part) Apparently I collapsed on the floor and held my ass while in the fetal position and grunted for like 5 minutes. Yeah no.

 

I also could never bring another person into the bedroom, but I may be interested in having sex in front of someone. The thought of a voyer kinda does nice things for me. Another person touching me or FI? Hell to the fucking no!

 

Porn doesn't do it for me. I just don't get it and find it nasty. If FI wants to watch it, meh.

 

ETF: HELD not HELF. WTFdoes helfing my ass mean?

hellohkb

I've given anal many times and I just can't get down with that shit (pun semi-intended)

A good friend of mine and FI were watching gross videos and one was a video of anal exams. FI flipped and vowed he never wanted to try anal again.

*evil laugh*

beethery

hellokellybean said:

I've given anal many times and I just can't get down with that shit (pun semi-intended) A good friend of mine and FI were watching gross videos and one was a video of anal exams. FI flipped and vowed he never wanted to try anal again. *evil laugh*

Gonna remember that next time he tries to seduce the b-hole with R. Kelly.

Sugargirl1019

Thanks @doeydo‌

VulgarGirl

Scat and golden showers have always been off the table (never been brought to the table either but just in case, it's a no-go), just no. 

Choking, I've tried it and just got really dizzy and didn't like it. 

Um, I dunno, sex with a dude I guess. I had an ex who wanted to have a three way with a dude and that was a full on hell to the no for me. Nothing against dudes, I'm a fan of the gender in general. But no, I do not ever want to have sex with one and I do not need to have sex with one to know I'm lesbian (as has been suggested by some fucking morons in my life). 

Oh, it's not totally a hell to the no, but I'm not a huge fan of being blindfolded. Sometimes FI will tell me to keep my eyes closed and I can do that, but blindfolds in general I'm not crazy about. 

I think..hm...I think that's it. We've had three-somes (and then-somes), never really done swinging where like we swap partners, I don't think I'd like that. I want FI and I to do someone together. Social unit and all.

Oh, no rape fantasy/play. Even in play it makes me feel sick, and FI agrees with me. Even when we do BDSM stuff, it's never "You're gonna take this even if you don't want it" if anything it's "You want this but no you can't have it yet". 

LDay2014

everyone has such varying levels of comfort!  It's neat to see.

Some of you may remember that FI and I are swingers and we enjoy the HELL out of that.  We are both bi, and it's important that we get to experience all sorts of fun stuffs

Our only hard limits (thus far) are scat (poop), no blood letting, no animals...that kind of stuff.  When we are swinging, the rules are always protection, and always same room.  We don't leave sight of eachother.  At home, we peg, fist (front - me, and back - him).  We push eachother's limits but we also have a safeword.  And there've been times where I've pushed myself too far, but I also know that I'm 100% safe and if I use the safe word everything stops dead.  We hug, we cuddle, until I feel comfortable again.  But I like to be pushed, that way I know where my true limits are

We are really really open about our sex lives.  Not that we walk around engaging people in conversation about it but if they ask, we have no problem answering any questions.

JennyColada

raissyrais said:

JennyColada said:

Very few things are hard limits for me. Most are just soft limits that I'd be willing to bend/break if I had a partner who was really interested. Blood play: not even due to me having a blood disease (although that really helps cement my feeling!). Needles or anything "stabby". I don't mind the idea of knives or using them as a toy, but please nothing that involves breaking my skin directly. Children and non-consent. But I'm fine with rape-scenarios. Pretty much everything else is game on. Well, I mean, I guess I wouldn't eat poo if my partner asked, but that's a bit extreme.

Yep the poo thing...I wouldn't eat it either and no golden showers. Basically, anything that becomes a little too extreme, like BDSM etc is a no no for me. And orgys. I'm a clean freak and it sounds insalubrious to me.

See, I love me some good BDSM. Anything impact: flogging, spanking, caning...yum!

Inkdancer

JennyColada said:

raissyrais said:

JennyColada said:

Very few things are hard limits for me. Most are just soft limits that I'd be willing to bend/break if I had a partner who was really interested. Blood play: not even due to me having a blood disease (although that really helps cement my feeling!). Needles or anything "stabby". I don't mind the idea of knives or using them as a toy, but please nothing that involves breaking my skin directly. Children and non-consent. But I'm fine with rape-scenarios. Pretty much everything else is game on. Well, I mean, I guess I wouldn't eat poo if my partner asked, but that's a bit extreme.

Yep the poo thing...I wouldn't eat it either and no golden showers. Basically, anything that becomes a little too extreme, like BDSM etc is a no no for me. And orgys. I'm a clean freak and it sounds insalubrious to me.

See, I love me some good BDSM. Anything impact: flogging, spanking, caning...yum!

Yes. This. I have yet to bump into anything that's needed our safeword.

beethery

I used to LOVE being choked but I have no idea how FI would respond to the request.

levioosa

beethery said:

I used to LOVE being choked but I have no idea how FI would respond to the request.

Same.  I mean, I don't want like full out black spots choking, but a little pressure would be nice.  I know one of his former girlfriends used to try to get him to hit her (he refused) so I'm not sure if the request would freak him out or not.