Layout of Head Table w/SOs; King Table, whatever you'd like to call it!

Maggie0829

I don't understand why brides and grooms think it is perfectly fine to separate wedding party members from their SOs but would they do the same to the rest of their guests?  I mean if you are fine separating WP members from their SOs then why sit all couples together?  Why do you and your new H feel it necessary to sit together?  May as well separate everyone from any person that they know and just randomly sit people wherever.

beethery

I'm going to sit my grandpa by himself on the stage, and grandma can sit with one of my college friends.

Sounds like a good plan. I like it.

speakeasy14

Knottie94040166 -- not sure if you're paying attention to this thread anymore and I don't have any pictures like you requested, but just wanted to share a sort of different idea...

Instead of a king's table you have a sweetheart table, and then bridal party sits with their significant others at regular tables.  I was in a wedding that did this; there were two tables for the wedding party (one on either side of the sweetheart table, but inline with the other guest tables).  And instead of having all of the bridesmaids on one side and groomsmen on the other, they mixed us up.  So it was two wedding party plus significant other tables.  Everyone loved the idea, and we had so much fun.

To go back to the point about questioning why significant others, should be with the bridal party... because every other guest is seated with people they know and are comfortable with.  Why should the significant other's of your nearest and dearest be forced to sit at a table with people they may not necessarily know?  All guests should be treated equally and with the same thought process about comfort. 

fallbride502

Only our wedding party will be at the head table, their significant others will be seated with the other guests.

climbingsingle

kristancoulter said:

We won't be having our wedding parties significant others at our head table, they will all be close by and we simply don't have enough space to have everyone and their spouses at the head table. We talked to them all and let them know how the seating would be done, we also know that people will move around as they please through out the night and really people will only be in their "assigned" seat while they eat.

So why are you having a head table? 

fallbride502

We are having a head table because we want to. I have actually never been to a wedding where the wedding parties significant others were at the head table. Maybe that's just not a thing where we are from, we still discussed the seating with our wedding party so that they could let their spouses know.

Maggie0829

kristancoulter said:

kristancoulter said:

We won't be having our wedding parties significant others at our head table, they will all be close by and we simply don't have enough space to have everyone and their spouses at the head table. We talked to them all and let them know how the seating would be done, we also know that people will move around as they please through out the night and really people will only be in their "assigned" seat while they eat.

So why are you having a head table? 

We will be at the head table with all the members of our wedding party.

So you are separating them from their dates/SOs so that your wedding vision is fulfilled?  Nice.  Don't you think it is kind of interesting how you get to sit with your SO and all your other guests get to sit with their SOs but the people that mean the most to you in the world, well they don't get to sit with their SOs because of some silly vision.

climbingsingle

kristancoulter said:

We are having a head table because we want to. I have actually never been to a wedding where the wedding parties significant others were at the head table. Maybe that's just not a thing where we are from, we still discussed the seating with our wedding party so that they could let their spouses know.

So why not just do a sweatheart table and let your bridal party sit with their dates? How would you like to be seated separately from your husband? 

fallbride502

Maggie0829 said:

kristancoulter said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

kristancoulter said:

We won't be having our wedding parties significant others at our head table, they will all be close by and we simply don't have enough space to have everyone and their spouses at the head table. We talked to them all and let them know how the seating would be done, we also know that people will move around as they please through out the night and really people will only be in their "assigned" seat while they eat.

So why are you having a head table? 

We will be at the head table with all the members of our wedding party.

So you are separating them from their dates/SOs so that your wedding vision is fulfilled?  Nice.  Don't you think it is kind of interesting how you get to sit with your SO and all your other guests get to sit with their SOs but the people that mean the most to you in the world, well they don't get to sit with their SOs because of some silly vision.



I've never been to a wedding where the bridal parties significant others were at the head table unless they were also a part of the wedding party. Maybe that's just not a thing here.

Maggie0829

fallbride502 said:

kristancoulter said:

kristancoulter said:

We won't be having our wedding parties significant others at our head table, they will all be close by and we simply don't have enough space to have everyone and their spouses at the head table. We talked to them all and let them know how the seating would be done, we also know that people will move around as they please through out the night and really people will only be in their "assigned" seat while they eat.

So why are you having a head table? 

We will be at the head table with all the members of our wedding party.

So you are separating them from their dates/SOs so that your wedding vision is fulfilled?  Nice.  Don't you think it is kind of interesting how you get to sit with your SO and all your other guests get to sit with their SOs but the people that mean the most to you in the world, well they don't get to sit with their SOs because of some silly vision.

I've never been to a wedding where the bridal parties significant others were at the head table unless they were also a part of the wedding party. Maybe that's just not a thing here.

So why not be "unique" and allow your wedding party who has spent money and taken time out of their lives to be in your wedding (and most likely attend other pre-wedding events) to sit with their SOs?  Trust me, they and their SOs will appreciate it.

Just because you have never seen something done doesn't mean that it can't happen.

fallbride502

Maggie0829 said:

fallbride502 said:

Maggie0829 said:

kristancoulter said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

kristancoulter said:

We won't be having our wedding parties significant others at our head table, they will all be close by and we simply don't have enough space to have everyone and their spouses at the head table. We talked to them all and let them know how the seating would be done, we also know that people will move around as they please through out the night and really people will only be in their "assigned" seat while they eat.

So why are you having a head table? 

We will be at the head table with all the members of our wedding party.

So you are separating them from their dates/SOs so that your wedding vision is fulfilled?  Nice.  Don't you think it is kind of interesting how you get to sit with your SO and all your other guests get to sit with their SOs but the people that mean the most to you in the world, well they don't get to sit with their SOs because of some silly vision.

I've never been to a wedding where the bridal parties significant others were at the head table unless they were also a part of the wedding party. Maybe that's just not a thing here.


So why not be "unique" and allow your wedding party who has spent money and taken time out of their lives to be in your wedding (and most likely attend other pre-wedding events) to sit with their SOs?  Trust me, they and their SOs will appreciate it.

Just because you have never seen something done doesn't mean that it can't happen.

If I had room for a table big enough to accommodate that I might try it. We do greatly appreciate them all taking time out of their lives for this which is why we haven't asked them to pay for anything, we have covered all of their costs including transportation, lodging, suits/dresses, hair, makeup, alterations to their suits and dresses, jewellery among other things.

Maggie0829

fallbride502 said:

fallbride502 said:

kristancoulter said:

kristancoulter said:

We won't be having our wedding parties significant others at our head table, they will all be close by and we simply don't have enough space to have everyone and their spouses at the head table. We talked to them all and let them know how the seating would be done, we also know that people will move around as they please through out the night and really people will only be in their "assigned" seat while they eat.

So why are you having a head table? 

We will be at the head table with all the members of our wedding party.

So you are separating them from their dates/SOs so that your wedding vision is fulfilled?  Nice.  Don't you think it is kind of interesting how you get to sit with your SO and all your other guests get to sit with their SOs but the people that mean the most to you in the world, well they don't get to sit with their SOs because of some silly vision.

I've never been to a wedding where the bridal parties significant others were at the head table unless they were also a part of the wedding party. Maybe that's just not a thing here.

So why not be "unique" and allow your wedding party who has spent money and taken time out of their lives to be in your wedding (and most likely attend other pre-wedding events) to sit with their SOs?  Trust me, they and their SOs will appreciate it.

Just because you have never seen something done doesn't mean that it can't happen.

If I had room for a table big enough to accommodate that I might try it. We do greatly appreciate them all taking time out of their lives for this which is why we haven't asked them to pay for anything, we have covered all of their costs including transportation, lodging, suits/dresses, hair, makeup, alterations to their suits and dresses, jewellery among other things.

Then have a sweethearts table and then sit them with their SOs and other guests at the other tables.  Or have a regular sized table and you sit with your groom, MOH and her SO and his BM and his SO.  There are ways to do this without all of you having to sit together.  And when you sit at a long head table the only two people you really are able to converse with comfortably are the two people sitting on either side of you.  So the point of a head table is kind of lost on me.