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Another Depressing Thread

slothiegalslothiegal member
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edited September 2014 in Chit Chat
Hey guys. I know there's a lot of shit that's been going on around here lately, but I need to get this off my chest. I've been trying to write this post since Sunday, I think I can finally put it in words. (Forgive me if it's choppy, still not really able to articulate it.) 

This weekend, slothieguy and I went to a weekend long music festival. We left Friday after work, got there, danced, did some stuff, camped in the back of our pickup truck under the stars. Awesome. 

Saturday, we went back for the second day. We got there early, so we found a spot on a hill overlooking the multiple stages. Gorgeous evening. The sun was starting to set, people were milling about, we were talking about some stupid thing or another. Out of the side of my eye, I saw a young girl--she couldn't have been more than 18 years, 110 pounds--doing somersaults down the hill. She looked like a little monkey, she was so agile. People started cheering her on, and as she neared the bottom, she hopped up, faced her audience, and gave a bow. As she did so, she stumbled backwards, and fell. She landed. Hard. A few people chuckled, like, "oh look at that clumsy girl". A couple of seconds passed and she didn't hop right back up, so I went down to her, exasperatedly groaning, "c'mon guys, someone needs to help her". (God knows I've fallen enough on my ass and appreciate a hand up.) 

 It starts to get blurry here. I reached her and grabbed her shoulder. Nothing. She was cold. I looked at her face. Nothing behind those blue eyes. Someone else nearby yelled out that she wasn't breathing. Security appeared from somewhere. DH had gotten to me by this point and took my arm, dragging me away...but not before I saw her neck at a weird ass angle. Her arm was bent the wrong way as well. CPR was being administered. She wasn't moving. There was some blood in her pretty blonde hair. Somehow in all the chaos, there was a helicopter landing to take her away. I overheard that there were no signs of life as the chopper lifted. 

 I've seen some shit in my day; I've been through some shit. But there was something about this young thing, who was so full of life and giggling one moment, to becoming a crumpled shell of a human the next, that fucked with me. DH and I have been trying to process it together, but we're both kind of at a loss. I don't really need anything; I just need to spill it out. Between that and some of the threads here lately, I'm just at such a loss and so....blugh.

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  • Its incredibly scary and disturbing how fragile human life really is. Hugs and hair pats. It may not be ok now, but you will process and come to live with it.
  • Ah shit man. Hugs

  • I'm so sorry. Words cannot express how sorry I am. How often is our response to get counseling? I'd want to talk this out with a professional, even just one or two sessions. You were wonderful to come to her aid so quickly. Good luck.
  • So so's tough to go through something like that. Just take solace that you were there for her.
  • Wow, Slothie, that is horrific.  I'm so sorry you went through that.
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  • That is awful. (((Hugs)))
  • ***Hugs***  This is terrible, and it won't ever make sense because such loss is senseless.  Life is so fragile and precious.  Sending healing thoughts and prayers your way and to the family and friends of that poor girl.  

  • OMG slothie. I'm so sorry, that had to be absolutely heartwrenching. Love and hugs.

  • I'm so sorry, Slothie! All the hugs for you!
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  • That is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. 
  • I'm so sorry about this slothie...
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  • Hugs!!! I'm so sorry. What a tragic, heartbreaking story.


  • Wow, just horrible.  Life is so fragile.  It reminds us of that often.
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  • I'm so sorry, and you are so right, it's terrible to see a young life's light just go out.  How terrible you had to witness something like that.  (((HUGS!!)))))
  • I am so sorry...
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  • I can't even imagine. Hugs to you and prayers to her family. Its never easy when a life is lost so young.

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  • Eek... that is so sad. It is understandable that you would have trouble processing that. Besides the sadness of seeing something like that, especially in person and up close, and feeling bad for the girl and her family, it forces us to face the reality that we are fragile and mortal and anything can happen at any time. Things like that make me feel sad, but more than anything they completely scare the shit out of me. DH and I have both been through our health scares and had doctors tell us that they thought we would die (I watched my parents faces as doctor told them he thought I wouldn't make survive the night), but we are luckily still here. But, we almost weren't, and things like this always remind me that all it takes is one wrong turn, one drunk driver, one red light, one stomachache or headache, one trip over our feet or fall down a hill, and we may not be here... or could be spending our life in a wheelchair or something and life would be changed forever. And if it's your time, there's nothing you can do to prevent it. It's scary to be reminded of your own mortality. And it horrible that you had to witness something like that up close. And my thoughts definitely go out to you. And to the girl and her family & friends. Hopefully the outcome turned out better what it appears. Hopefully she regained consciousness and is stuck laying in a hospital bed with a neck brace, a cast, some good pain meds, and people who love her sitting by her side. Hopefully she recovers and is able to move on. And if it didn't have a good outcome for her, I hope the same for her family... that they can recover from this and move on. And we are here if you need to vent, or cry, or talk.


  • That's horrible.  You tried to help her, there was nothing else you could do.  Hugs*
  • Oh my God, that's so awful. I'm so sorry you had to see that. 

    Hugs to you and DH, and my thoughts to all involved.
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  • /Hugs. Witnessing death, both unexpected and expected, just takes the life out of your soul. Keep talking about it if you need to, to cope with the feelings. I pray the girl regained consciousness and is on the road to recovery.

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  • steph861steph861 member
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    edited September 2014
    Oh god, that's awful. I'm so sorry you had to witness that.

  • I'm so sorry that you had to witness this.  I hope you can find some peace soon. xx
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  • I'm so sorry, Slothiegal. You would have helped her if you could. Having Slothieguy there to process it with you must be a comfort. 

    Life is precious and fragile. There are also incredible stories of survival and resilience. Wishing the best for her and for you both. *hugs*

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  • Oh, sweetie. I'm so sorry. You must be horribly shaken.
  • Thank you so much, my guys are the best.  I just really needed to word vomit all of that....DH and I keep hesitating to rehash it with each other just because we don't want the other to relive it (and to whoever suggest counseling, yup, we're already looking into it so we can talk to an outside person...I'm already a frequent flier, so it was a no-brainer).

    Again, thanks.  Can we have a cuddle puddle?



  • Again, thanks.  Can we have a cuddle puddle?

  • Oh my gosh. How sad. I'm so sorry you witnessed this.
  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    edited September 2014
    doeydo said:
    That's horrible.  You tried to help her, there was nothing else you could do.  Hugs*
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  • I'm so sorry you had to witness that.     

    As you know I've witness a death recently.  Talking it out really helps.  Whether it's to a professional or just family and friends.  I asked my doctor for a couple of sleeping pills because I just could not sleep the first week.   I kept reliving the moment.   The ambien was the only thing that broke the cycle.   

    PM me if you need to talk.   

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