My sister is 18. Just went to University, finally meeting boys.
Well... her and a male friend turned her dorm room into a giant blanket fort, and they were watching a movie. He put the moves on her, and she was like... Hey, you're awesome but I'm not ready to have sex. Maybe we could go on a date or something? What does he say?
"Are you fucking kidding? I'm not dating a cow like you. I'm entitled to have sex with you, I helped you make this fort!"
She was like... haha, so funny. (Thinking he was kidding.)
He was DEAD serious. His exact words were "As a woman, you should give me sex whenever I tell you to."
Well, lets just say she told him to get the eff out and told him he was never allowed back. So he spread a rumor that she was a "dirty slut."
I do not understand. Anyone have any words of wisdom I can give her? I told her that sex is her decision, and no one is "entitled" to it. Not your boyfriend, not your husband, and certainly not some guy that helped you build a blanket fort.
Re: I don't even know what to call this... but it's definitely a rant.
I'm the fuck out.
I agree with making a paper trail. I am so happy this story didn't end up with him forcing himself on your sister "because she really wanted it anyways."
Please advise her to take safety precautions as well. You never know how a fucker like that will take rejection. It's horrible that he's spreading rumors, but I don't want it to escalate to anything else either.
2. He is, quite obviously, a jackass in need of attention, be it positive or negative. I'm just thankful that he responded by spreading nasty rumors instead of trying to physically force her into something.
That's really all I've got. College is tough, especially early on. The rumors will fade in a week or so. Talking about it with the RA isn't a bad idea. She might want to see if the university would offer training on consent and date rape issues to incoming freshman. But other than that, she should ignore him and go about her business, get an education, make wonderful friends, and revel in the fact that she is a million times cooler than he is.
Send us.
It can be extremely cathartic, but it also should be done very, very carefully. Edit, edit, have some friends edit, and then edit again.
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While it may be tempting to start her own rumors about his "lack of anatomy", I suggest letting her feel empowered by simply telling the truth and telling it to everyone. Any time she hears this jerks name she should say "oh I know that jerk. I invited him over to watch a movie and he actually had the nerve to tell me he was then entitled to have sex with me! I kicked his ass out."
It could let other women know about him before he can prey on them. She did nothing wrong and has nothing to be embarrassed about. Fight lies with truth.
She needs to respond to any rumor conversation, "I said no. He said he was entitled to sex, and I disagreed and kicked him out. Obviously he's angry. Ladies, avoid him."
I miss college. But ohhhhh I do not miss college.