Bridesmaid Proposals

thelastdreamer

I've gotten "proposed" to with a cutesy box, sent a card, and pulled aside outside the mall after my cousin decided, months after asking all her other bridesmaids, that she wanted me in the wedding bad enough even though it would make her sides uneven (even at 16 or however young I was, I knew something was off with that). 

I asked all of mine over text message. None of them seemed too offended lol. I'm not a big production sort of person. 

casey8784

@sarahbear31 - shh! spoilers! I just started this season last night! haha!

and i do know someone that is kind of like andre, but luckily he isn't as....intense(?)...as andre is...but just as awkward...lol

and OP - yea, my FI was also too caught up in his "stuff" during the 14 months of planning. like, his 2 full time jobs, and helping his sister with her 4 kids while her husband was deployed in the middle east for 9 months. and you know what? he still had time to look at a dozen venues, and went to the cake tasting (which was 2 hours away) with me - even though he vehemently hates cake, and although he jokes that he "just needs to know what time to show up," he really had a lot of opinions and ideas about the wedding planning in general. your FI may just surprise you yet!

And your BMs may offer their help, which is awesome if they do, but make sure to graciously thank them! but never just assume that they're going to spend their free time doing wedding stuff...just remember that they have their own lives, too! 

holyguacamole79

@casey8784, the first two episodes have been so far, so good.  The part I shared was in the promos, so I hope I didn't spoil too much.  It's hilarious!

casey8784

sarahbear31 said:

@casey8784, the first two episodes have been so far, so good.  The part I shared was in the promos, so I hope I didn't spoil too much.  It's hilarious!

@sarahbear31 - nah, you were good. i'm not sure if i'd be too upset if this show gets spoiled...just it's already just this side of ridiculous already... hehe

jerkyanne

Knottie96704796 said:

My FI just wants to show up! He doesn't want to go look at 20 venues, decide on table linens or go through color swatches. All he wants is to be husband & wife, good music and good food! You all are so uptight, YIKES! This is supposed to be fun, he trusts me. Which is perfectly fine with me. he's a mans man.  Too caught up with fantasy football, golfing and what not. WHICH IS PERFECTLY FINE WITH ME. ) Thank you all for your OPINIONS.

Apparently I am a man's man. Mama would be proud.

lovesclimbing

My sister asked me in person.  (Didn't even really. Finally, she did one day after she realized I didn't know whether I was or not and she'd never actually asked.)

My cousin just asked me to be MOH over the phone.  Another sister just asked me in person.

I've never had an over the top BM proposal.  For some, I wouldn't mind.  I suppose it would depend on who it was.  Like, with my sisters, asking and accepting was almost obligatory (which is why my sister just assumed I knew and didn't straight up ask for awhile).

I think it could make it awkward if you don't know financial situations and stuff.  I think asking over the phone or in person without gifts or grand gestures is the easiest, least costly, and is just as touching as a grand gesture.

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lovesclimbing said:

My sister asked me in person.  (Didn't even really. Finally, she did one day after she realized I didn't know whether I was or not and she'd never actually asked.)

My cousin just asked me to be MOH over the phone.  Another sister just asked me in person.

I've never had an over the top BM proposal.  For some, I wouldn't mind.  I suppose it would depend on who it was.  Like, with my sisters, asking and accepting was almost obligatory (which is why my sister just assumed I knew and didn't straight up ask for awhile).

I think it could make it awkward if you don't know financial situations and stuff.  I think asking over the phone or in person without gifts or grand gestures is the easiest, least costly, and is just as touching as a grand gesture.

And maybe send the grand gesture after they've already said yes.  So it's not a pressure-filled gesture, just something that says, "Squeeee!  I'm getting married and you're standing next to me!"

blondeej

@Knottie96704796  - My FI is the same. He loves cake so wanted to go just to eat that. lol I let him give input when he feels the need (funny thing is - he has an opinion about things I NEVER would of guessed he would - and doesn't care about things I thought he would! lol). But he just keeps saying how all he wants is for me to be my wife and doesn't care about the rest of it. He's very much a man's man too. lol 

I thought your bridesmaid boxes were super cute and thoughtful! I didn't do anything like that but have other friends that have done similar things. All the BM's that have received them seem really flattered and happy at the effort.

I would never of been able to plan my wedding without my BM's. Half my wedding party is out of state so the girls I have local (one being my SIL) have really stepped up and been so helpful. My mother is also disabled and wheelchair bound so I literally was going at all this alone. They've been the best of help. I'd do the same for them though and they know that.