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Emergency! Need MOH Dress Help!!

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edited September 2014 in Attire & Accessories Forum
My wedding is in 8 1/2 days (October 4th)! Need your opinions!

My sister is my only bridesmaid/MOH. She lives 15 hours away, so we only had once chance to go dress shopping together. We didn't find anything because we have very different styles/personalities. Finally, after she went back home, we found one online that we both liked. I've never seen it in person, but I liked how it looked online. When it arrived in the mail (From the iphone pictures she sent me) it looked very different than I imagined. 

Now, she has found a new dress that she likes better, but I'm not sure. I wanted something that was lace and flowy- like a min-version of mine. The original one looks too big on her, and does not fit her personality, but the new dress doesn't fit the style of the wedding and looks more like a party dress (in my opinion) but my sister likes the new one better. What do you think?

The first 2 pictures are the original dress, the next 2 pictures are the new dress, the last picture is my dress. 

Men are wearing light grey suits with light pink ties. Flowers and decor are mostly green succulents with small pink accents. 
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Re: Emergency! Need MOH Dress Help!!

  • bekt14 said:
    My wedding is in 8 1/2 days (October 4th)! Need your opinions!

    My sister is my only bridesmaid/MOH. She lives 15 hours away, so we only had once chance to go dress shopping together. We didn't find anything because we have very different styles/personalities. Finally, after she went back home, we found one online that we both liked. I've never seen it in person, but I liked how it looked online. When it arrived in the mail (From the iphone pictures she sent me) it looked very different than I imagined. 

    Now, she has found a new dress that she likes better, but I'm not sure. I wanted something that was lace and flowy- like a min-version of mine. The original one looks too big on her, and does not fit her personality, but the new dress doesn't fit the style of the wedding and looks more like a party dress (in my opinion) but my sister likes the new one better. What do you think?

    The first 2 pictures are the original dress, the next 2 pictures are the new dress, the last picture is my dress. 

    Men are wearing light grey suits with light pink ties. Flowers and decor are mostly green succulents with small pink accents. 
    Both dresses are lovely and appropriate.  The bolded is what tells me it should be the new one.
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  • I agree that you should go with the second.  A dress like that lacy one shouldn't take more than a few days to alter, but if the second dress fits, and is your sister's preference, I say, let her wear it.  I think it looks great on her, and she's likely to make your photographs nicer if she's happy and comfortable.  I can't see how it would be inappropriate for your wedding.  It's the same shade and length as the first dress, and there's no need to worry about her coordinating with anyone, least of all yourself.  Personally I want my BM dresses to be the furthest possible thing from my own.  Maybe it's just me.
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  • esstee33esstee33 member
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    To be honest, the second one looks more appropriate for a wedding to me -- the lacy one reminds me much too much of Cyndi Lauper. But, moreso than that, she looks fantastic in the second one and she likes it better. Her dress doesn't need to match yours, and the two of you will still look beautiful next to each other!
  • TBH, I don't think the first one looks right and I think the second one looks too casual in the photo (maybe it's different IRL). 

    Out of the two, though, definitely go with the second. Personally, I'd keep shopping. 
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  • I think the lace one would make it on the worst dressed list.  It's frumpy and unflattering.  I can see why she wouldn't want to wear it...I'd feel the same way.  Sorry Not Sorry.  I think you'll look back on that and wish you'd gone with something timeless in photos.  Even a really skinny girl is going to look big in that dress.

    The second one is fine--nothing special but a HUGE improvement.

    Can you keep looking, like @ElcaB suggested?  Or just go with the second and some special accessories.
  • Thanks girls! Y'all have convinced me to go with the second. Unfortunately we can't go shopping any more because, like I said, she lives 15 hours away and won't be coming until the day before the wedding. 
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  • I know you're already convinced, but I also have to say I prefer the second one. I not only like the look of it, I like the way your sister carries herself in it. She obviously feels comfortable and confident in it, and it will show up in your pictures that she's genuinely happy, not just putting on a show.
    Any time you can get really big smiles out of people, that's when you know you've found the right thing.
  • Do you think I could add a belt or something to dress it up a little (the new one)? It just looks a little plain to me, but she will be carrying a bouquet and holding my boquet as well during the ceremony. 
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  • bekt14 said:
    Do you think I could add a belt or something to dress it up a little (the new one)? It just looks a little plain to me, but she will be carrying a bouquet and holding my boquet as well during the ceremony. 
    I think I'd go with a sparkly necklace rather than a belt. IDK if a belt would look right with the cutout in the back. Something like this style maybe?
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  • I like the first one better, but I agree the fit is way off and it would take too much time to alter. The second one is too casual for a wedding IMO. I agree with you - it looks like a dress I'd wear on a girls night out to the bar.

    I know you don't have time to go shopping in person anymore, but you could order a few more dresses online and then just return the ones you don't like. Here are some options. It looks like that first dress is from Modcloth, so you're probably familiar with their relatively easy return policy. Here are a few more:


    https://www.jcrew.com/wedding/Wedding_Bridesmaid/silkchiffon/PRDOVR~93100/93100.jsp (misty rose or soft peach depending on your actual color)
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  • Thanks for the suggestions. I really like the AnnTaylor dress. 
    I may go to the mall today and shop around for something. It's so hard to tell online what the color really is and how it will fit. I would feel better buying  something in person. 
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  • bekt14 said:
    Thanks for the suggestions. I really like the AnnTaylor dress. 
    I may go to the mall today and shop around for something. It's so hard to tell online what the color really is and how it will fit. I would feel better buying  something in person. 
    That's cool. Yea, color is really hard to tell online. Just so you know though, none of the AT bridesmaid stuff is available in store. 

    Good luck in your search! And TBH, this is really a last-minute detail. If she feels good in the dress, that's all that really matters. You have bigger fish to fry at this point! :)
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  • I agree - let her wear what she wants and you go on and worry about all the other little things that I'm sure are making you crazy! She'll look lovely and I swear there is no greater gift to a bridemaid that a dress they feel good in. I've been a BM soooo many times and I thought I looked good maybe ONCE. And at that wedding, when I felt totally adorbs in my cute BM dress I was flitting all over the place and was the perfect BM!
  • TBH, the second looks a bit trashy/skanky/slutty/whatever.  The first one doesn't look like it fits her right, maybe it is too big.
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  • bekt14bekt14 member
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    I'm also worried about the second one looking too trashy. I have a very conservative mormon family (I'm not mormon, but a lot of my relatives are) and I'm trying to keep the wedding conservative as not to offend them. 
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  • bekt14 said:
    I'm also worried about the second one looking too trashy. I have a very conservative mormon family (I'm not mormon, but a lot of my relatives are) and I'm trying to keep the wedding conservative as not to offend them. 
    What about having her wear a grey cardigan during the ceremony? That might be easier to find than a new pink dress. And it would help distinguish her as MOH since, presumably, none of the others would be wearing cardigans.
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  • She's the only bridesmaid; no others to distinguish her from.

    I think it looks like a party dress as well, and I could see a conservative family feeling even more strongly about it.

    What about this one in Pink Shell? I know it's probably darker than you hoped for, but maybe it's a good compromise. Can't be too picky with 8 days left, unfortunately. http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/bb-dakota-renley-lace-fit-flare-dress-nordstrom-exclusive/3524970?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=Evergreen&resultback=218&cm_sp=personalizedsort-_-searchresults-_-1_1_B

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  • I think they are both ugly, TBH.

    Has she looked at David's Bridal at all? You can buy off the rack there. I bought my MOH dress for my sister's wedding off the rack, and some of my BM's got their dresses off the rack, too. They have lots of styles/ several shades of pink.
  • Both are cute but the first one would need to be altered to fit her better and with the time frame, that might not be possible. The second one fits her great. I don't think it looks like a party dress and actually I think the simplier look of dress #2 goes better with your dress. The lace of the first dress feels like it would compete with the look of your dress. I like the idea of a pp to add a gray shawl or cardigan to it to bring in the gray that the men will be wearing. Add a nice pearl necklace and she will look great standing next to you. Something to keep in mind, if she likes the dress she is wearing & is comfortable in it, she will beem with happiness knowing she looks good. That happiness will come through on your wedding photos with her.
  • Sister will be arriving tomorrow. She is bringing both dresses, and we'll either figure out how to make one of them work or go emergency shopping!

    I'm a seamstress myself, but I don't know if I can manage to alter the first one myself with all the other wedding things I need to do between now and Saturday. 
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  • bekt14 said:
    Sister will be arriving tomorrow. She is bringing both dresses, and we'll either figure out how to make one of them work or go emergency shopping!

    I'm a seamstress myself, but I don't know if I can manage to alter the first one myself with all the other wedding things I need to do between now and Saturday. 
    Don't do this. For crying out loud. This is your wedding week! I hope you let yourself relax and enjoy this time.

    I stand by having her wear dress 2 and picking up a grey cardigan for the ceremony. She can do this herself without your help/involvement. One less thing off your list. :)
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