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Ever wonder if a proposal is ever coming?

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Re: Ever wonder if a proposal is ever coming?

  • Yeah don't look for signs. I turned ANYTHING into a sign that FI was going to propose and I was never right. 
     




  • lilacck28 said:
    I was just thinking about this question earlier.  For me its more, is he going to propose soon because we have talked it about alot.  He promised my dad he wouldn't marry me until I'm done with school.  I should be done the latest the beginning of 2016.  To be honest I already feel engaged/married to him I'm just wondering what signs if any I should look to see if the actual proposal is coming.  For some reason my gut is saying Christmas of this year.  I hope so!


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    Don't count on it. Seriously. Put it out of your mind! Focus on school (this, times a million)! A hobby! Chit chat with us! Don't set yourself up for disappointment, ESPECIALLY when there's already been a decision to wait much longer than Christmas of this year.

    You're totally right.  I need to focus on my AMAZING career and finishing school.  :)
    I was swimming
    My eyes were dark
    'til you woke me
    And told me that opening
    is just the start
    It was
    Now I see you, 'til kingdom come
    You're the one I want
    to see me for all 
    the stupid shit I've done



  • happy2016 said:
    Not upset at all.   I just don't believe people should wait years for a ring.   
    FI and I dated for 7 years before we got engaged............so, yea.
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  • happy2016 said:
    Not upset at all.   I just don't believe people should wait years for a ring.   
    FI and I dated for 7 years before we got engaged............so, yea.
      I second you @plainjane0415, everyone's situation is different!
  • edited December 2014


    happy2016 said:

    Not upset at all.   I just don't believe people should wait years for a ring.   

    FI and I dated for 7 years before we got engaged............so, yea.
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    We waited 9. To each their own.
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  • edited December 2014
    I'm waiting right now... my boyfriend told me back in august he would purpose between then and Dec 31 well look what day it is now... anyways I know he wont be purposing today. He's working really hard to save money for the ring and he was feeling stressed out a couple of weeks ago and wanted to tell me that he wants me to know he is working for it and its really frustrating because he's so close to getting it but he can't rush things because he's finally on track with money and if he puts all of his money on the ring then he'll be back to square one again. So I understand that and I can appreciate that he is thinking of the over all picture. I know it will happen... eventually. For me though I told him I wont marry him if he doesn't quit smoking, he hasn't quit yet (he was really close at one point but now he's back to smoking) so to me thats a sign saying a proposal ain't happenin any time soon. :( 


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  • teddygirl9teddygirl9 member
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    edited December 2014

    I do/did feel this way. We've been together for 8.5 years. Own a house together. It's kind of like why bother, because we practically are anyways (has been mentioned by other people). I figured it would happen eventually, but after 8.5 years - WHEN is eventually? That's pretty vague. SO did not want to talk about it, I think because he wants it to be SO MUCH a surprise. But somehow I got out of him a 'sort of' timeline, and it did set my mind at ease. Even if it was still uber vague haha. At least it is something, and it reassured me that we aren't just going to be common law forever.

     

    Also just to add, it actually really helped. I have calmed down a lot now, and think I was getting a little crazy with everything haha. So I'm sure he appreciates that too. 

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  • Hearing what you ladies have said about not judging the value of a relationship by the number of years has helped me so much! I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. The past few weeks or so I have been stressing out pretty badly because all these couples who have only been together for like a year were getting engaged. It was putting me in a really funky mood. But now, having read how some of you have been with your men for much longer than me I feel at ease. It's very true that every relationship goes at its own pace. In two years, I know that my man in the one, he's my soul mate. I realize now that I shouldn't try to push us into engagement just because everyone else is doing it. I know he loves me and wants to marry me, but it is hard to learn to settle down about it. I'm learning now that I really just need to enjoy him. We're still at the beginning and I want to fully enjoy my relationship without stressing out about the future so much.

    Anyway I'll stop rambling now, but congrats to everyone on their loving relationships. :)
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