SYTTD - $4500 on a toddler dress!

lyndausvi

Ndelible said:

AlexisA01 said:

lyndausvi said:

chibiyui said:

Ndelible said:

RajahBMFD   Really?  As many side eyes that I've read about guests wearing white to weddings?  That's not petty?

@chibiyui  From where I sit, judging etiquette that doesn't hurt anyone is fairly petty when compared with spending what could amount to a semester of college for the price of a dress for a 2 year old?  Seriously?

This is not to say that I wasn't judgy or snarky; freely admitted, but then to be accused of being so petty seems a bit, I don't know, hypocritical maybe?   Let's face it, we all make judgments.  None of them are probably very nice.  Mine was about someone on a TV show.   

First off, I haven't accused you of being petty. I was merely pointing out real life experience of people who look like they have no money having shit tons of money. Shit, MIL and H are some of them. I understand the impulse of assuming one's socioeconomic status, I do it everyday with customers wondering if they're going to be worth my time. Sometimes those cues save me hassle, sometimes I miss a super sweet sale. 

I personally do side-eye that kind of spending a bit, I'd have loved to have that kind of money to just drop on whatever. But that kind of spending does provide jobs and security for those in luxury goods. While it might be wasteful spending to many of us, people dropping that kinda dough keeps the economy going round. 

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I said something similar on Yahoo yesterday.  Some guy was bitching about Clooney spending all the money on his wedding.  He said it should have gone to charity.   

Whatever dude.  I'm sure the hotel employee were thrilled to have the wedding there.  I'm sure the water taxi people were thrilled they were booked for 4 days.  Chefs, cooks, busboys, waitstaff all benefited.   I'm sure the light and sound guys loved they had 1 or more gigs.  I'm sure the food provers were happy they had customers to sell too.  The liquor distributors had customers.  Their truck drivers had somewhere to deliver.  The florist had business.   A lot of wedding vendors are small business owners.      

It's really easy to say it's a waste of money. However, normal working people directly and indirectly benefit from that kind of spending.

I never understood why people always say that they should give the money to charity instead of having a very decadent wedding. It's a phrase that always rubs me the wrong way because people can spend their money how they want if especially when they can afford it. 

Okay, I'm totally dragging a whole 'nother issue in - if decadent weddings are okay and folks should spend money - perhaps via a wedding, isn't that a perfectly valid reason for a couple to do the dreaded PPD?  If they have the money and the inclination, why the heck not?  It's just a party keeping our economy afloat...

 

Parties are good.   Fake re-dos, especially lying to family and friends on your legal martial status, are not.

Ndelible

lyndausvi  That seems to be the rationale, but really, if 75% happen with the knowledge of the guests, does that make every one of them wrong?

 

I was snarky Sunday.  Guess I'm philosophical on Tuesday.

lyndausvi

I do not live my life in black and white.  I look at each situation on a case-by-case bias. 

holyguacamole79

I am all about a party. I'm not a fan of watching people renew their vows (unless it's a milestone). Just party.