My boyfriend and I are getting married in less than 6 months. Our wedding is booked and paid for, and we're almost done planning the reception. Everything wedding-wise is going perfectly (so far).
I need some nonabrasive suggestions on how to get my boyfriend to finally tell his son that he's planning on asking me to marry him. I know that sounds entirely backwards, but without going into a TON of back story, in order to actually make our wedding plans work, all the planning has had to be done before the actual engagement. Anyway. My boyfriend is older than I am. I'm 30 and he's 42. We have two kids each. I have an 8yr old and a 2yr old. He has a 19yr old and a 15yr old. The 19, 8, and 2 year olds aren't going to be an issue when it comes to the proposal and wedding.
The issue is his 15 year old. He doesn't like my kids being around, even for a short period of time. He doesn't care for anyone to take his dad's attention away from him, and he's said as much. I feel that, with this kind of an attitude, his son is going to need a lot of time to adjust to even the thought of having a combined family (we don't live together). I've brought it up several times that the son needs to know and needs the time, and my boyfriend just kind of seems to brush it off with a, "it'll be fine". But I don't think so. Any suggestions on how to try and motivate my boyfriend to have this talk with his son, sooner rather than later? I just have a bad feeling that if he waits to tell him right before the proposal, that we'll end up with a lot of problems, including resentment towards me and my kids for "taking his dad away".