Didn't look enough?

pumpkincreamcake15

                    Ok, so I went to two salons to start. I found a dress I loved at one, and it happened to be the second dress I tried on, I felt an instant connection with it and it was the only dress that made my heart actually race. I kept trying on dresses for the rest of the trip between the two stores but nothing compared to that one. Then this weekend we went out to another salon which carried the same designer. I tried on a lot dresses that day and kept comparing everything to the the dress that initially loved! Since the owner of the store carried the designer she said she could special order it for me and offer my dress for $200 cheaper if my brides maids ordered their dresses there. Which worked out because my bridesmaids were there and they all agreed on a dress that they happened to all go crazy over and they also all got a discount so we were all saving on the deal. Which I feel is huge bride is happy, bride maids are happy it's a win win! The salon also had a lot of flower girl options which seemed great because the lady seemed so nice to work with so I felt comfortable in using her store as a one stop shop which is easy on everyone. I also like that she said I can get any dress your flower girl wants by a designer I carry so if she doesn't find anything in the store and she likes one online let me know. Which is great because I want everyone in my bridal party to feel beautiful and comfortable.

        So here is my dilemma, I love that dress I look at it online all the time I picture myself walking down the aisle in it, I constantly look at the pictures we took of me in it and I still love it after a month. But, did I not look enough? Should I have gone to maybe one more store? Don't a lot of brides take there time going to store after store before making their choice? There is a high end bigger salon I never went to that everyone insists I need to go to, but I honestly think I will just compare every dress there to the one I ordered and we get more personalized experience in the smaller one. I don't want to "cheat myself" of the wedding gown shopping experience but I honestly think every dress I would just compare to the one I love! Am I cheating myself, when I know I won't change my mind?

Maggie0829

pumpkincreamcake15 said:

       Ok, so I went to two salons to start. I found a dress I loved at one, and it happened to be the second dress I tried on, I felt an instant connection with it and it was the only dress that made my heart actually race. I kept trying on dresses for the rest of the trip between the two stores but nothing compared to that one. Then this weekend we went out to another salon which carried the same designer. I tried on a lot dresses that day and kept comparing everything to the the dress that initially loved! Since the owner of the store carried the designer she said she could special order it for me and offer my dress for $200 cheaper if my brides maids ordered their dresses there. Which worked out because my bridesmaids were there and they all agreed on a dress that they happened to all go crazy over and they also got a discount so we were all saving on the deal. Which I feel is huge Bride is happy, bride maids are happy it's a win win! 

        So here is my dilemma, I love that dress I look at it online all the time I picture myself walking down the aisle in it, I constantly look at the pictures we took of me in it and I still love it after a month. But, did I not look enough? Should I have gone to maybe one more store? Don't a lot of brides take there time going to store after store before making their choice? I don't want to cheat myself of the wedding gown shopping experience but I honestly think every dress I would just compare to the one I love! Am I cheating myself, when I know I won't change my mind?

There is no rule on how much you should look when finding your wedding dress.  The fact that you kept comparing everything to the dress you loved and you keep looking at it means that you chose correctly and that there was zero point in looking more.  And you you were not cheated out of your wedding dress shopping experience.  That is just silly.  Do you really want to be a bride that goes to 10 different stores and tries on hundreds of dresses when you know the one you love is back at the second store?  Sounds like a huge waste of time not only for you but for all those consultants who are helping you.

There are thousands of wedding dresses out there, but when you find the one you love why keep looking?

pumpkincreamcake15

Maggie0829 said:

pumpkincreamcake15 said:

       Ok, so I went to two salons to start. I found a dress I loved at one, and it happened to be the second dress I tried on, I felt an instant connection with it and it was the only dress that made my heart actually race. I kept trying on dresses for the rest of the trip between the two stores but nothing compared to that one. Then this weekend we went out to another salon which carried the same designer. I tried on a lot dresses that day and kept comparing everything to the the dress that initially loved! Since the owner of the store carried the designer she said she could special order it for me and offer my dress for $200 cheaper if my brides maids ordered their dresses there. Which worked out because my bridesmaids were there and they all agreed on a dress that they happened to all go crazy over and they also got a discount so we were all saving on the deal. Which I feel is huge Bride is happy, bride maids are happy it's a win win! 

        So here is my dilemma, I love that dress I look at it online all the time I picture myself walking down the aisle in it, I constantly look at the pictures we took of me in it and I still love it after a month. But, did I not look enough? Should I have gone to maybe one more store? Don't a lot of brides take there time going to store after store before making their choice? I don't want to cheat myself of the wedding gown shopping experience but I honestly think every dress I would just compare to the one I love! Am I cheating myself, when I know I won't change my mind?

There is no rule on how much you should look when finding your wedding dress.  The fact that you kept comparing everything to the dress you loved and you keep looking at it means that you chose correctly and that there was zero point in looking more.  And you you were not cheated out of your wedding dress shopping experience.  That is just silly.  Do you really want to be a bride that goes to 10 different stores and tries on hundreds of dresses when you know the one you love is back at the second store?  Sounds like a huge waste of time not only for you but for all those consultants who are helping you.

There are thousands of wedding dresses out there, but when you find the one you love why keep looking?

Ya I guess your right it is a waste of time. I think I was getting overwhelmed everyone around being like you need to look here and go there I was like Yikes! I didn't know this was so complicated.lol  I know what I like I saw how everyone could benefit from going this salon I couldn't understand why I was still getting pressured.

esstee33

Everything @Maggie0829 said. 

But also, there is no one correct way to shop for a wedding dress, so you're not "doing it wrong". I saw one online that I loved, bought it without ever having tried it on, and still loved it to pieces once I got it and actually wore it. I didn't even look at any other dresses. If you found a dress you love -- and it sounds like you really, really love it -- stop looking! 

theartistformerlyknownas

Do you still keep looking around for a better person to marry? I mean, you haven't dated everyone in the world, what if there's someone better?

No. You love him/her, so you stop looking. Stop looking at dresses.

pumpkincreamcake15

lolo883 said:

Do you still keep looking around for a better person to marry? I mean, you haven't dated everyone in the world, what if there's someone better?

No. You love him/her, so you stop looking. Stop looking at dresses.

Haha very true, yes I am done l have found my dress.

Kwalusiak

I think everyone is different, it took me a while to find me dress, but that's because I was trying on dresses that were not the shape I was looking for. If you're not sure then go look at one more store! The biggest piece of advice I can give though is once you order the dress DO NOT LOOK AT DRESSES anymore. You love your dress for a reason, so don't bring yourself into a buyer's remorse by looking at dresses still.

atlastmrsg

No.  You're happy.  Stop looking.  Stop thinking about it.  Don't even pick up a bridal catalog.  You absolutely don't have to do a marathon of dress shopping.  Consider yourself lucky that you don't have to!  You can spend the time on other wedding tasks.  Or better yet, do something fun like be with you family/friends/hobbies, etc.

I loved the first dress I tried on.  The store pulled others to see if they could get me to try on similar styles, but I said no.  I was happy in the first one, so I didn't want to spoil it.  I'd picked the appointment because it was during a Lazaro trunk show, and called ahead to see if they had the dress I thought I wanted.  When I tried it on first, and it was "the one," I was relieved and content.  I purposefully didn't look anymore after that so I wouldn't have second thoughts.

Consider yourself very fortunate.

badbnagdway

Some people look a lot, some look a little. 

I personally am not the person that can try on one dress and know. Even if I had tried the dress I ended up with on first, I probably would have needed to try a couple more (mind you, not 100 more, just a few other styles) to make sure that was the one. If I'm reading your post right, you've been to three stores and tried on dresses. I assume that means you've tried on anywhere from 12 - 30 dresses (assuming you tried on anywhere from 4 - 10 dresses per appointment). That surely is enough to know that the one you keep going back to is the one for you. 

I think your decision to stop looking is the right one. 

pumpkincreamcake15

Thanks for the advice everyone

hyechica81

i got married this past june i started dress shopping in early june of 2013 before than we hit up a bridal consigment back in may and found nothing so we stopped for a while. june comes and i started again i went to a salon that specalized in plus sizes i was able to try on 15 gowns i had two narrowed down both i was unsure of. i know i wanted to try on some other designer gowns so i made an appointment at another bridal salon that also had plus i was assured that my size 22 could fit into there samples.

i get to the apointment and all the dresses are open on racks sizes are mixed so rather than trying to pull styles i liked i spent my time trying to see what sizes they were.  i tried on ten gowns mostly 18s maybe there was one 20 and a 22 but nothing larger than that. all of them were allures maybe a maggie or two but nothing was catching my eye. finally the sales lady said what are you looking for so i said taffeta and alecon lace with a one strap in alecon lace and pick ups with a corset back the only pick up dress she had was in sateen i was describing one of the two dresses from the other salon i knew then i had to go back

went back re tried on the mori lee dress i was unsure of and i knew it was my dress. my mom wanted me to still keep looking but i said no its time for me to stop when you find your dress you will know its yours and you wont have to keep searching any longer  

canadianhearts

pumpkincreamcake15 said:

                    Ok, so I went to two salons to start. I found a dress I loved at one, and it happened to be the second dress I tried on, I felt an instant connection with it and it was the only dress that made my heart actually race. I kept trying on dresses for the rest of the trip between the two stores but nothing compared to that one. Then this weekend we went out to another salon which carried the same designer. I tried on a lot dresses that day and kept comparing everything to the the dress that initially loved! Since the owner of the store carried the designer she said she could special order it for me and offer my dress for $200 cheaper if my brides maids ordered their dresses there. Which worked out because my bridesmaids were there and they all agreed on a dress that they happened to all go crazy over and they also all got a discount so we were all saving on the deal. Which I feel is huge bride is happy, bride maids are happy it's a win win! The salon also had a lot of flower girl options which seemed great because the lady seemed so nice to work with so I felt comfortable in using her store as a one stop shop which is easy on everyone. I also like that she said I can get any dress your flower girl wants by a designer I carry so if she doesn't find anything in the store and she likes one online let me know. Which is great because I want everyone in my bridal party to feel beautiful and comfortable.

        So here is my dilemma, I love that dress I look at it online all the time I picture myself walking down the aisle in it, I constantly look at the pictures we took of me in it and I still love it after a month. But, did I not look enough? Should I have gone to maybe one more store? Don't a lot of brides take there time going to store after store before making their choice? There is a high end bigger salon I never went to that everyone insists I need to go to, but I honestly think I will just compare every dress there to the one I ordered and we get more personalized experience in the smaller one. I don't want to "cheat myself" of the wedding gown shopping experience but I honestly think every dress I would just compare to the one I love! Am I cheating myself, when I know I won't change my mind?

All this sounds lovely. No need to mess with perfection, right?

Congrats on finding "The One"!

pumpkincreamcake15

hyechica81 said:

i got married this past june i started dress shopping in early june of 2013 before than we hit up a bridal consigment back in may and found nothing so we stopped for a while. june comes and i started again i went to a salon that specalized in plus sizes i was able to try on 15 gowns i had two narrowed down both i was unsure of. i know i wanted to try on some other designer gowns so i made an appointment at another bridal salon that also had plus i was assured that my size 22 could fit into there samples.

i get to the apointment and all the dresses are open on racks sizes are mixed so rather than trying to pull styles i liked i spent my time trying to see what sizes they were.  i tried on ten gowns mostly 18s maybe there was one 20 and a 22 but nothing larger than that. all of them were allures maybe a maggie or two but nothing was catching my eye. finally the sales lady said what are you looking for so i said taffeta and alecon lace with a one strap in alecon lace and pick ups with a corset back the only pick up dress she had was in sateen i was describing one of the two dresses from the other salon i knew then i had to go back

went back re tried on the mori lee dress i was unsure of and i knew it was my dress. my mom wanted me to still keep looking but i said no its time for me to stop when you find your dress you will know its yours and you wont have to keep searching any longer  

Thanks for the advice, makes me feel like I made the right choice.:)

pumpkincreamcake15

canadianhearts said:

pumpkincreamcake15 said:

                    Ok, so I went to two salons to start. I found a dress I loved at one, and it happened to be the second dress I tried on, I felt an instant connection with it and it was the only dress that made my heart actually race. I kept trying on dresses for the rest of the trip between the two stores but nothing compared to that one. Then this weekend we went out to another salon which carried the same designer. I tried on a lot dresses that day and kept comparing everything to the the dress that initially loved! Since the owner of the store carried the designer she said she could special order it for me and offer my dress for $200 cheaper if my brides maids ordered their dresses there. Which worked out because my bridesmaids were there and they all agreed on a dress that they happened to all go crazy over and they also all got a discount so we were all saving on the deal. Which I feel is huge bride is happy, bride maids are happy it's a win win! The salon also had a lot of flower girl options which seemed great because the lady seemed so nice to work with so I felt comfortable in using her store as a one stop shop which is easy on everyone. I also like that she said I can get any dress your flower girl wants by a designer I carry so if she doesn't find anything in the store and she likes one online let me know. Which is great because I want everyone in my bridal party to feel beautiful and comfortable.

        So here is my dilemma, I love that dress I look at it online all the time I picture myself walking down the aisle in it, I constantly look at the pictures we took of me in it and I still love it after a month. But, did I not look enough? Should I have gone to maybe one more store? Don't a lot of brides take there time going to store after store before making their choice? There is a high end bigger salon I never went to that everyone insists I need to go to, but I honestly think I will just compare every dress there to the one I ordered and we get more personalized experience in the smaller one. I don't want to "cheat myself" of the wedding gown shopping experience but I honestly think every dress I would just compare to the one I love! Am I cheating myself, when I know I won't change my mind?

All this sounds lovely. No need to mess with perfection, right?

Congrats on finding "The One"!

Very True, thanks!:)