I am having a wedding in fl and all my family and friends are in NY. I have a huge family and my FI luckily does not. We are trying to budget for 80 people but I have 8aunts and uncles on each side plus marriage so about 30 aunts and uncles alone. There are some I'm not very close with. So I have been trying to just think of the ones I actually keep in touch with. How do you invite one and not the other? This is so incredibly difficult to do. For instance I have a cousin with three brothers and I'm only close with him not his brothers and not his parents. This issue is making me crazy! Any ideas??
Re: Guest list
2. Invite who you want to be there. My general rule of thumb...
a. Have I seen these people on purpose within the last year? If still room...
b. Have I talked to these people on purpose within the last year? If still room...
c. Have I seen these people on purpose within the last two years? If still room...
d. Have I talked to these people on purpose within the last two years?
etc.
I'm close to two of my first cousins. I am not at all close to four of my first cousins. I haven't even seen or spoken to two other of my first cousins in at least eight years. Meanwhile, I'm very close to two of my first cousins-once removed. In this example, just because I would be inviting two of my first cousins and two of my first cousins-once removed, doesn't mean I have to invite all of my cousins. People ought to understand - a wedding invitation isn't mandatory, even if you went to their wedding. People have different relationships with each other and grown-ups should be able to recognize that and not take offense.